then what is? IMO there is nothing more intimate than sex, even if you try to take your feelings and emotions out of it. it's still the closest you can physically be to a person, sharing ALL that you have (physically).


so if you don't think sex is intimate, then what is intimacy to you?

This is the same exact thread as the other one. You just added the word sex to it.

SureThing said:

no, this is different. i'm asking about the comparison to sex itself, and this is between partners, not the friend aspect of intimacy.


shut up!

Intimacy is love and in my world sex is not love, therefore sex is not initmate.

fantasyislander said:

Emotional intimacy is more intimate than sexual intimacy. I can fuck someone I just met, if I want to.

JustErin said:

see dani? this is a different, although related, topic discussion.



so shut it.



thanks erin.

fantasyislander said:

Oh, I think def. kissing is the most intimate then.

Oh, and anal I guess. Never tried. But I wouldn't just let any ole guy stick his dick up my ass.

Ace said:

so seperating emotion is easy for you? what about physical then? in a relationship do you consider sex as intimate as it gets?

SureThing said:

TMPletz said:

Seriously though.

Garaunteed that is gonna HURT at first.

You'd have to trust the person.

SureThing said:

nuh uh

fantasyislander said:

AT ALL?????

fantasyislander said:

I can't believe you're that kind of girl.... :I have a whole new respect for you....

fantasyislander said:

Again, no.

SureThing said:

Of course it hurts if you are not relaxed and comfortable about it.

SureThing said:

This thread is finally going in the right direction now...

JustErin said:

Oh, see, I was always afraid to try.

So I don't know.

SureThing said:

Trust me, if you are afraid of trying, don't ever try it.

Sex isn't "the" most intimate thing to me

Sex can be intimate if that's what is desired at the time
Sex can also be animalistic and not intimate in the least



so many things on so many levels with different people are intimate

a simple stare
a kiss
a conversation
laughter
tears

hell cooking together can be intimate as can watching TV or driving in a car

watching your daughyer give birth ... breastfeeding her newborn

taking a photo of a friend or love

life is filled with intimate moments

SureThing said:

first time it didnt hurt, just gotta use lube. first time it didn't really do anything for me either..... the first time.

fantasyislander said:

Lube is for wimps.

Ace said:

ok, so, in a relationship, what is THE MOST intimate thing for you?



(see dani? this is different. that other thread is about the first SIGN of intimacy, this is about THE MOST intimate thing. )

JustErin said:

Yeah, I think it would take the rite person, and the rite timing for me to be into it.

I wouldn't try if I wasn't into it at the time.


Hil, as far as the sex being thee most intimate, in my life sex is just maintenance. I love it, don't get me wrong, but it's not intimate.

And in the past, sex has been meaningful, but not really intimate either.

And non meaningful sex, I'm pretty muck incapable of. Unless, its a guy I'm know I'm never ever gonna see or talk to again, I can't handle it. It always MEANS something, and emotions are invovled.

JustErin said:

i said "the first time"

Sex isn't the most intimate. When you can tell your innermost secrets to someone and you trust that somoene with everything you have, that's intimate. I've boned people I don't give two damns about now.

Mach said:

pfft,

just kidding.

but i mean in a partner relationship, as compared to sex. those are all very good examples of intimacy in relationships.

Stymie said:

i wholeheartedly agree

Stymie said:

That's it exactly for me.

Stymie said:

See, I can tell innermost secrets to strangers before I can tell someone I know.

I love sex




im such a whore