what if you found out that the person you were deeply in lve with was a stone cold FREAK in the not too distant past before you met? (like within, the last year or two) what if you found out that things that he/she have NEVER done with you were quite the norm for them just prior to when the two of you met?

discuss

i'd wanna know. it'd give us ideas for next time.

Rent the movie "Chasing Amy" watch the scene where Amy has to defend her past. it's poignant and says it all.

Anything before me is none of my business as long as my partner assures me they've been safe.

i would wanna know some things..not all!

i want to know all about my partner's sexual history for just the opposite reasons - i need to be aware up front if they're uptight and drab in the bedroom.

Anx said:

are you saying your budoir is a hotbed of explosive sacktime????!?!!?!?

Anx said:

exactly!

geez..nobody has said they missed me

purplerein said:

To the contrary, my boudoir is a veritable nilla wafer factory.

Nope, I don't care.

And welcome back, meltwithu.

It looks even better than I thought it would. It's totally you.

Yes.

And to respond to the topic:

Sure, it would be interesting to know. If she was experienced it would only be a good thing as long as she didn't demand something she was used to getting but that I couldn't provide her with, like new partners every night or an enormous dick. I'm pleased with the size of mine, but it's no friggin' elephant's trunk. I once knew a girl who said that she had gotten so used to big dicks that now she demanded 20 cm minimum to feel anything at all, and if she was going to have an orgasm regularly it had to be at least 25 cm. Needless to say, that took away my desire to sleep with her.

this stuff could lead to jealousy, and then games, and conflict, and arguements...
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retina said:

I like it lots! Thank you.

ufoclub said:

if someone's gonna bring all that mess into a relationship, i don't want to be with them regardless of if they choose to tell me about the donkey show they used to do.
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CarrieMpls said:

I totally agree with Carrie's statement. I've known too many people to get jealous over past lovers and that's just silly.


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She and I were both virgins when we started dating.

"Holy fucking shit...Finger Cuffs? You're going out with Finger Cuffs, you silly son of a bitch? What a sec--I thought she was all gay 'n' shit?"

CarrieMpls said:

where on God's earth did you get such a cool avvie???

purplerein said:

retina found it for me! He described it as what it would look like if Bjork and I had a lego baby.

SnakePeel said:

snootch to the bootch

ufoclub said:

yep, I agree I had an ex who kept asking me about my past sex life until I told him then it was like he started trying to out do or be the best like it was a competition or something, he would ask is it better than so and so and stupid shit like that.

NAnomaly said:

I think that when you are first winning someone over, or flirting, past sex stories can actually be fun, but, in an established relationship they can lead to conflict if they make someone feel relatively unwanted or inadequate. Now if the past stories are always much worse than the present sex... it works for the better!

ufoclub said:

yes, they can be fun in the beginning in my case this ex and my last ex (same things) I later realized had some self inflicted inadequacy problems and ego issues.

TMPletz said:

Awwwww...that's awesome!

SnakePeel said:

"Takin' on two guys...EATIN' CHICKS OUT..."

meltwithu said:

No, I would not want to know. I wouldn't want to think about what my man and his ex did every time we were intimate.

I've never been too adamant about asking or knowing.....I mean if a person volunteers the info, then bullie for them....but I generally feel that your biz is your biz....and I base that on the BS that comes about when others insist on knowing my past, then get heartless mad or jealous when it becomes apparent that I was a man-whore....