So my mom calls and rather randomly says, so do you think you will marry again? I don't think so, ( after I had already said yeah thats the plan) I think you will be a bachlorette for life.

As it is not what I want that cut like a knife through the heart.


What have people said out of nowhere to you that did harm?







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I'm sure she would hate that she hurt u.....try to look at it like she is saying I see u being independant and strong for the rest of ur life...prehaps that was the way she meant it .....words can be interperated in so many ways and quite often they aren't what is meant
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man i don't even want to go there. lets just say up until now i would be rich if i had a penny for each time someone said something to me outta nowhere that hurt, i could buy that house oprah just bought. muse dont let it bother you. i chalk it up to somebody either being thoughtless, insecure or unhappy in what ever mess they got going on inside themselves (although i don't think your mother was trying to be mean). when somebody says something mean its usually more about themselves than anything.
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my mom insulting my intelligence in arguments is never fun

neither were the couple "oh you're pretty, but i'd only date you if you were shorter" comments i've gotten from guys.

Your a good, God fearing person. No one ever said the walk down that path would not go without persecution. Just stay positive. Hell I have people ask me everyday why I am not a) married b)have a steady girlfriend, and I'm 26! Just laugh and live life!

I don't understand folks who go around asking others when/if they are gonna get married. I am sure they would if the right person came along, and otherwise it's none of their damned business!!!!

Your parents are still married arent they?

She's probably just jealous, thinking that you get to go and have fun and she doesn't. Just not communicating it very well

My aunt complimented me a few weeks ago, saying that I lost weight and look good. She then proceeded to tell my cousin how fat I was a year ago.

jerseykrs said:

Complement with one hand, stab you in the heart with the other

parents can sometimes have a severe lack of tact... my father is very much like that but you just have to try and grit your teeth and get past it

treasure them while you still can

Natisse said:

Amen to that, mind you my dad never even insults me, he is pretty emotionless. A good insult is better than nothing at all!

PREDOMINANT said:

jerseykrs said:

I'm sorry, but

That aint' right. I've been there.

I am still fat.

I had not been to my hometown alot the last few years, but this year I went there for the fair.

People kept saying; "You got fat!" all of the time.

But that's okay with me. I have become more of a man, hehehe. Only Fauxie has seen a picture of my thin self when I was 19, hehehe. And he will keep it to himself, thank you very much.

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HamsterHuey said:

I've seen that picture too.

I don't think you're fat :mush:

AsianBomb777 said:

Come make love to my lovehandles, hun. I could use a cuddle and a good boff afterwards.

i had an argument with someone at work a couple of months ago, and they complained to management that i was:

a. violent
b. sexist
c. racist

her arguments didn't seem to go very far, but still it was hurtful. even when you know something a person says about you is untrue, there's that moment when i think, "well, why would someone SAY that about me? do they REALLY believe this about me? is this how i project to people?"

at the end of the day, this person was just lashing out in any way she could to get me in whatever trouble she could. it didn't work, other than the fact that it made me really upset. if that's what she wanted, i guess she won.

My mom told me just the other day "You would have made a wonderful mother"


Hello! I'm still fertile!

HamsterHuey said:

I don't think you're fat at all. That's SO typical Dutch though IMO. People here will just say anything to your face, like "Hey, you gained weight!" or, "You look really tired or sick" or "You're way too skinny now. I liked it better when you were fatter."

wtf. I'd rather they just kept it to themselves.

minneapolisgenius said:

They do that here too, especially among gay people. The worst being this time of year, when you are going to parties and such, catching up with people you haven't seen in a while.

It's like before they can even say "hello", they're coming at you with a scale and a fat caliper...

I hate it when people do that at parties, they'll tell someone in front of everyone else, "wow you've blown up" or something like that. It's really awkward for everyone, and just plain rude.

Tom said:

Too funny.

Yeah, it's really terrible though. I want to say, "Don't even get me started on what YOU look like now!" I never do though.

nobody can make you feel inferior without your consent.

It's in the cards sweety. You will marry again!

I have thick skin...I've been wounded many a time.

Love ya,
M

Muse2NOPharaoh said:

Here I thought you were going to say that you cut yourself on a can of Pepsi.

Muse2NOPharaoh said:

HamsterHuey said:

You're sooooo not fat, Goo. Just stand next to me more often.

Handclapsfingasnapz said:

Moms though. For a while my mom did. She just wouldn't think about the things she'd say to me. She can be pretty inconsiderate at times. I don't really take to heart much of what's said to me these days though. I guess it's because I expect it now....and I'm over it.

Anx said:

Damn ....not at the fact that you were upset, but at the fact that people would stoop that low.

AnckSuNamun said:

i learned early in life not to take shit from family members. if you know who you are, then jackshit shouldn't hurt ya.

I'm wounded because Karmatornado won't pay me for design work I did for him.

Still.