Handclapsfingasnapz said:

Well, other family members never really got to me, but they never really said anything to hurt my feelings in the first place. There are only so many people in my family that I'm somewhat close to and my mom has been the only one to say those things. My reaction is just whatever now

minneapolisgenius said:

Ouch. That's what that was about on the other thread.

AnckSuNamun said:

Yep. I swear I'm on the verge of starting a whole thread about it. For real.

ask mom to become your housemate and share a portion of the rent!

minneapolisgenius said:

?

minneapolisgenius said:

maybe that will get his attention.

IrresistibleB1tch said:

I'm going to do it. If he doesn't respond to the orgnote I send to him tonight, I will.

evenstar3 said:

Thanks. I need a second pair.

Being told Oxford is beyond me. Because it's true.

minneapolisgenius said:

here's some even better ones

evenstar3 said:

Well, I don't want to put someone's eye out or anything.

Spookymuffin said:

is not.

minneapolisgenius said:

you sure about that?

evenstar3 said:

I'll let you know tomorrow.

minneapolisgenius said:

Muse2NOPharaoh said:

When I was young my mum constantly told me I was a bad person, no matter how much ppl would like me. If they realy knew me they would agree

Took me years to overcome this and still at times i think it's true

minneapolisgenius said:

i checked out your website-i'm diggin that warrior 2 shirt . you do nice work minnie and hell yeah start that thread

brownsugar said:

Aw thanks!

And I will. Tomorrow.

You should have told her, No, but I am the queen of booty calls.

Handclapsfingasnapz said:

SO true.

But we all have our insecure periods.
I am riding the perfect wave of mine RIGHT NOW...

Tom said:

I just did a project on eating disorders, and found out that gay men are at significantly higher risk than straight men. Men who are attracted to men put the same sorts of pressure on their potential partners to be thin and "youthful" as men who are attracted to women.

HereToRockYourWorld said:

I am so glad I got that point at a young age. Like I said, at times I feel insecure and it gets to me, but most times I am just happy with what and who I am and can have fun at people who conform to that silly standard set by shallow people.

I was accused of stealing money from my coworkers at a previous job. They had the police come in and give me shit and everything. My supervisor (who was, truly, a stupid bitch) said that "most of the staff" thought I did it, and that I stole drugs as well. I don't think most of the staff believed it; I think SHE thought it and tried to convince others.

I didn't want to care, but it freaked me out. I hated that anybody would think that about me. Totally horrifying. I went around to everybody who had been stolen from and personally told them that I had nothing to do with it. Which probably made me look weird, but I didn't care, I needed to do it.

I quit not long after that, and somehow money and drugs kept vanishing. They later figured out who was doing it. Do you think my supervisor rang me up to apologize?

HereToRockYourWorld said:

WOW! I am sorry!

I'm soory Muse.

Moms really are the worst. Mine called me yesterday SOBBING and goes, I just want you to think about something until tomorrow, and I'm like What?

And she's like, I have feelings, just remember that.

I'm like, Mom, what did I do now? And she wouldn't tell me.

Now I'm gonna have to deal with her pouting around all day today when she comes over till I figure out why she's pissed at me.

It's so annoying. Grow up already.
[Edited 12/2/06 8:43am]

AnckSuNamun said:

it was fucked up. i mean, i have SO many personality flaws people can complain about - why make stuff up?

I want to thank everybody for sharing. The remark hurt me deeply as it is not what I want for me. Although compromise is no deal either. Moms remark is more then likely her way of attempting to accept what she believes is my chosen path rather directly and or indirectly. Which hits me so hard because even I know I need to make a few changes in order to see that which I wish to obtain (as many of you know in long talks)
I treasure the invasions and or more directly the travel and having friends from all around the world. ( I see myself as the luckiest orger of all as I have had the honor of taking what was on my computer screen and merging it with real time. I don't think many thought it realistic but I never had that limitation.... I am most thankful that so many of you to thought it was a worth while endeavor) BUT in order to have that lifestyle, I have forsaken friendships on a local level and have given none of myself to the city I reside in nor any form of community outside of the strong circle I have created outside of here. I have a few friends that have tolerated my indolence but even they are rather fed up with my hijinx. My friendships go way beyond invasion level and lot of the time and energy I have left after kids and career goes into said friends.
This is in no way a swan song but it is reaffirming of what I have said in many a wee hour before the dawn to all those closest to me. See and all some of you thought we did is drink... Well, truth be told.... I am astounded on just how well many of you that have never attended picked up on the heart of the matter rather then what would appear to be the obvious.
I am blessed to have known each one of you and rest assured you have effected my life in ways untold. There simply are not words.

Back to point: My mother sees all this and loves it but can't reconcile how I am ever to settle back down in the midst of it. Don't get it twisted, my mom is phenomenal and those of you that have met her know this. She also knows how to toss a zinger in there that hurts like no other. Since she and I have never approached the subject of lifestyle I am sure that was her subtle way of speaking her mind.

So all things being equal and such the order of the day remains BALANCE. ...and on that score I am a work in progress with a long way to go. The career has suffered a hit with all my antics too... Oops!

The thing I m most proud of in life is my mothering skills. My mom is to..... I think it is the one area of humanity I was determined not to fail nor futz up.

There is no diminishing that the remark hurt like hell but I have put it in perspective.

Great post Muse. It pains me to say that of course.


Anyways, it begs the question:


1) DO any of you feel as if the inclusion of your "org" life whether it be phone friendships, invasion friendships, and personal hookups whether of a sexual nature or just to visit an org friend, is enough? That is, if you were to never get married, would having a close nit circle of friends here or in real life be enough?

Personally, I'm starting to really dislike the idea of marriage, having witnessed it so unsuccessfully in friends and family myself. I don't think supplementing the family nuclease with other forms of relationships is a bad option. Though, I'm not sure if works.

2) What is the path and life you think you *should* be on? For me? I don't know anymore.

Anx said: