I'm fed up.

All my friends seem to have friends who are closer than me and they always have plans without me.

My best friend is going out with his little boyfriend (figure of speech only) and I, having no plans, am sitting here with the books out.

I know it's for the best that I but it does make me fed up sometimes. Im not a geek! I want to party too! Noone seems to want to know.

Bastards, the lot of them


I have felt like this a lot over the years, even though I seem to come across, to many people, as a little social butterfly. Have you felt it too? Does it affect everyone? even thought maybe thats the problem, that people always think I'll have other plans. I don't remember giving them this idea!

Ok I'll stop complaining now.

susannah said:

aww hon hope you're alright if I was there I'd take you somewhere and cheer you up

Natisse said:

thanks hon

I'm ok, just a bit fed up. I have felt this way with friends my whole life, I just wonder where the answer lies, or if Im overreacting because everyone else is the same!

Sorry for moaning to the org

susannah said:

no sweetie you're just in a bad space tonight it seems ...in regard to friends - yes there are many of us who feel the same way. I've struggled with it too and the short answer is I still don't know how to deal with it. acceptance seems to be the word of the moment for example I know you're a lot closer to Gemma than pretty much most people, Luciano too... but you ALSO have friends who feel much closer to you than you probably realise, sweetie, like me

Natisse said:

I, Like some others *ahem* , am in this space more than anyone realises But thats ok, thats me!

You're right, totally, it just feels like they have something better to do. He always does. I'd say sod him if I had anything else to replace it

As for the bold part...thanks hon that really means a lot. Its hard to see how others must think...maybe there ARE other people who think this about me!

susannah said:

I know when you're in the frame of mind you're in it's hard, but try and remember how very loved you are, hon. I can speak for myself only, but I truly adore you and should tell you that more often than I do

Natisse said:

Thanks Tisse! You make me feel better! Sod him and his little boyfriend I'm sure there a reason I seem to always be in and theyre all out ing... Im sure itll be worth it in the end I just can't see it yet.

I adore you too honey, I hope you know that

Aw, soppy org

Geez I personally LOVE it when my friends don't call.

I never answer the phone and I never return their calls, and they still don't take a hint.

Its really annoying.

luv4all7 said:

But you must have *some* friends? Do they call as often as you'd like?

susannah said:

I'm sayin' I wish they would STOP calling. They call TOO often. I dodge the phone as much as possible and they STILL continue to call. I'm not even kidding. It REALLY pisses me off. Like, if you call me and I answer my phone, it means I wanna talk to ya. If I don't answer REPEATEDLY it mean. STOP CALLING ME! But apparently nobody gets that!!!!!

luv4all7 said:

But...dont you want any friends? Or are they all just the wrong ones?

susannah said:

No, my friends are awesome. I just have times where I need my space and I only wanna talk to certain people. And the people I don't wanna talk to don't get it. Like I swear on my kids, I'm not even lying. As I type this, my cell and my hone phone are BOTH ringing. I'm not answering, but the same people will keep calling all nite till I eventually FLIP OUT.

I'm like a cat. I only want attention when I want it. Any other time stay the hell away from me. If I want U near me, I'LL let YOU know.

luv4all7 said:

that's why I don't call.....

luv4all7 said:

Well, at least you're getting some attention...I swear I never get any. Noone ever calls until I call them! I texted someone today who I used to be best friends with until she found this guy and then fell off the face of the earth She was busy, of course, but was like "im sorry Ive been rubbish lately, hope everythings ok with you"

fuck off

(not you!)

susannah said:

Ahhhh lay low for a while and your phone will be ringing off the hook. GAURANTEED.

I'm on the org.


I think that answers that question.

luv4all7 said:

Fraid not. Its been like this since my teens, and I lay low all the time! I really don't understand it...I think they must all either not like me, or think I have better plans.

Im bored of being a loner

Illustrator said:

Nice to know Im not alone!

This topic really strikes too close to home for me.


I won't bore ya'll with it, but a couple of weeks ago, I had to go out for a beer BY MYSELF.


'nuff said.

Nothinbutjoy said:

No please, bore them with it - I am!

I feel ya.

I mean, I really don't get it! They just don't call! Everyone seems to have obe person they are with all the time and want to see before me, either a friend or a lover. All mine in those categories seem to have found others. It kinda sucks.

Illustrator said:

Dude I avoid my friends for the org. Yanno why? Cuz I can come and go here when I want. Not like friends. They want all your attention all the time. Its totally annoying.

And Aksel, see, I 'd answer for you. Cuz your not on me all the time.

And yanno whats the worst?? (Sorry I'm ranting in your thread Susannah its just an issue i'm having lately) Friends that call and call and call and THEN SHOW UP!!! Like if I don't wanna be on the phone I certainly don't want you on my DOORSTEP!!!!

GAWD!!!!!

susannah said:

To hell with them!! make your own fun...they'll be back... they always come back.

luv4all7 said:

I guess the grass is always greener. I dont have that problem.

(rant away!)

susannah said:

It doesn't kinda suck, it TOTALLY sucks!

7ellusion said:

Do they though? Thats the kind of optimistic thing I would have said a few years ago, I've lost it now.

Talk to me about this making my own fun thing Even though I can't, I have to study all the time It would be ok if I knew everyone else is studying too, but I just don't want to do it because everyone else is doing better things!

Nothinbutjoy said:

I know!

Can we be friends then? We don't need people like that We need to go out and find us some better friends and LOADS of aquaintances - THATS the key to having plans!

I just havent mastered that yet. I don't know how to go out and find new friends! Kudos to you for going to the bar I don't think I could do that...

I have "friends" who lived 20 minutes drive away from me... didn't see me for 9 months before I left Australia and didn't bother to come say bye to me either. that really hurt. AND to add insult they still see nothing wrong with that picture

I have "friends" who I haven't heard from at all since I left - not even a single email or sms, call, anything... and I don't expect to either when I go back. these are lifelong friends too - I went to school with them and grew up with them.

this is why i go on about Harriet and why I'm so close to a handful of people I've become very close to here (you are one of them) - because I know they (you) actually give a shit.

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IrresistibleB1tch said:

Done that already ....

I believe they're called "meetups"





Seriously though, I will look out for another group thing

Nah. Iam alway having fun. I like my friends, but iam happy on my own. Sometimes all they wanna do is get laid. I mean, yeah that wa sfun for a few years, but it gets tired, formulaic (if that word is correct here) and too calculating.


I swear if i hear my mates same tired ass chatup line one mo' time.....