I'm a good cook, too... ...and I'm sincere, appreciative, and um...nice.

Byron said:

you are!
















but also

















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AndGodCreatedMe said:

You say like it's a bad thing...

Byron said:

prove me otherwise mister

AndGodCreatedMe said:

Well, if it has to do with me, it's gotta be good...

Eh, I got nothin'...

HAHAHHAHAHAHAH

DON'T look at me. Actually I think your better off NOT having faith in them.

JustErin said:

I COMPLETELY 100% AGREE with this. THAT kind of guy is the type I also want, and they ARE the rarest. No one wants a pushover.

Women are the same in many ways, really.

luv4all7 said:

It's hilarious to me that you two think you have to be some kind of "asshole" to not be a pushover. People and their need to classify endlessly, it never ceases to amaze me. I just don't think in those terms and I am neither just "nice" or an "asshole". The variations of humanity are an absolute myriad. Perhaps if you weren't putting men in boxes so much, you might find what you were looking for.

Ever consider that your way of thinking is EXACTLY what is deterring any potential matches you seek?


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mrdespues said:

I'm not seeking anything, so at this point I really don't care about what I may be missing out on.

And I didn't say that I subscribe to that way of thinking when I was talking about the whole pushover/asshole thing. I simply said that many women think that way.

I do like a guy that is somewhat an asshole, also nice and everything in between. That's probably the closest match to me, so that's why I said it. It has nothing to do with feeling the need to "classify" someone.

JustErin said:

Ok. The you shall receive a guy who is "somewhat an asshole".

People get what they deserve, that much I know.

Ha!

mrdespues said:

That certainly is true!

you're never short of male company at the parties i've seen you at,you have plenty of opportunity to bag yourself a fella there!plus the bonus is...there prince fans too! but beware some of the good guys can be a bit bad too....

Im both gay and want to get into your pants? Are you a medium?

Good men tend to want to pursue, to be initiators. But they also might be less used to taking the risks necessary to get a woman's attention or to follow through.

And, a lot of times, they've been hurt soooo many times before, too, by women dealing with their own issues and scars, that the risk seems to be less worth it as time goes on.

Surely men and women must take responsibility for our own respective romantic histories and decisions. A lot of the lesson tends to be connected to mistaking attraction for substance, or giving chemistry too much of a priority in interaction.

There also is something to be said for having a good pool of men. My suggestion: Get active in a church, and make plenty of friends. Positive people with their heads screwed on right tend to attract the same. I met my girlfriend -- who I'd be the first to admit is way out of my league -- through befriending two other such positive people.

susannah said:

no. not right now i don't

I'm nice...

Try going OLDER, more mature?? My hubby is 15 years older than I am. In my 20's, I went for "attractive". Learned the neck up is more important than the neck down. It all falls into place.

"Women" need to quit thinking they're so fucking perfect themselves. Sorry ladies, but a lot of you are anything but.

Once more for the slow: it is ALWAYS about INDIVIDUALS.

But please, go on with your herd mentality if you must. The trashy magazines of the world are quite happy that you continue to think in this way.








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xplnyrslf said:

Part of the problem! No, see you have to catch them before they end up with issues...

susannah said:

Impossible. Everyone has issues.

The key is finding someone that is dealing with the issues they have in a constructive way. People of any age can do this, or not do this.

mrdespues said:

I know where youre coming from, and I desperately want to be disproven! I dont want to believe this! It just seems apparent

susannah said:

Oh, that post and the barfing, etc was not directed at you, Susannah! And yes, it is apparent to me as well (I often let down my own gender when it comes to this argument, ho-hum), but the quality of human interactions is ALSO always in direct relation to the intelligence of the INDIVIDUALS in them.

Sure, men and women think differently AT LEAST some of the time, but grouping souls together as just "men" and "women"... I don't buy it... people are all unique and pretty complex, in the end.

Well I am, anyway.

mrdespues said:

Yeah, youre right, everyone is totally individual. So maybe I should have just said "restore my faith in all my previous boyfriends and some of my friends boyfriends"!

I dont know whats wrong with me, I can barely read what you wrote! I can comment on here anymore

susannah said:

I'm a bit wordy sometimes, maybe that's it.

I am so sick of them. Most of them anyway. But it seems the ones who are nice are either gay or related or are only doing it to get in my pants.

Tell me, honestly, do men ever do nice things for you just because they care?! No, of couse they do, even I know that. But why do they change their minds about it at the drop of a hat?! Are they scared? Theyre such wusses

I am on a rampage. I have had enough

Does anyone have any nice happy men stories to share, not the kind that will depress me of course! The kind that will restore my faith in at least a small number of them, and convince me there are a small number of nice ones in my postal district. Of course, if you want to share in my rant, feel free!

Failing that, can anyone lend me a shotgun?