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Printablesusannah said: Failing that, can anyone lend me a shotgun?       
honey, take your pick. | |
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mrdespues said: I am not "men".
I am a man, but I don't relate to this "men" thing and never have. 
I totally get where you are coming from Susannah, but it is more about INDIVIDUALS. Some "women" piss me off just as much, thinking they're pulling the wool of your eyes just as much as some men. Those kinds are made for each other, luckily. 
You sounds nice  Just even the nice ones I know, have their moments that make me think, oh! youre just like the rest. Although Im not perfect myself... | |
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alwayslate said: susannah said: Failing that, can anyone lend me a shotgun?
honey, take your pick.  Now thats what Im talking about!! | |
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JustErin said: luv4all7 said: Okay how did you fix it? Realizing that *I* am number one, being happy with who I am as a person and not needing someone else to fill some kind of void within me. That's not to say that there aren't some men that make me weak in the knees, I just don't allow anyone to have control over me...I just let them think that they do.  Yes, exactly. Don't place such an importance on men and they won't be an importance in your life. | |
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luv4all7 said: susannah said: See, before I read this I would have said I want to learn the manipulating thing too, but Patsy's right - Im fucking sick of games, thats whats got me into this mess. I dont want any more manipulating, from either side. Not so much games. I'm not into games either. I mean silly games are fun, but not games that HURT. But I mean. I need to have the upper hand. If not, I'm totally vulnerable and get hurt. I never wanna feel like that again. I think what Erin said about filling a void is accurate. But I want to find a partner where I'M not number 1 or HE'S not number 1 but were both EQUAL. I think I'm beginning to see though, that there is no such thing. There IS such a thing. My relationship is an equal partnership. I think it's because he and I were friends for about 14 years before we became romantically involved with each other. | |
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susannah said: mrdespues said: I am not "men".
I am a man, but I don't relate to this "men" thing and never have.
I totally get where you are coming from Susannah, but it is more about INDIVIDUALS. Some "women" piss me off just as much, thinking they're pulling the wool of your eyes just as much as some men. Those kinds are made for each other, luckily.
You sounds nice Just even the nice ones I know, have their moments that make me think, oh! youre just like the rest. Although Im not perfect myself...Thanks. I am nice.
I don't think I'm perfect either, but I do tend to find a hell of a lot of fault with a hell of a lot of people, moreso than myself. But I think it's important to be kind to people as much as possible. Everyone on this planet has a hard battle, in one way or another. Even the total fucking assholes who appear to get everything they want... they're often kind of empty inside and aren't very comfortable with their true selves. 
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gemini13 said: luv4all7 said: Not so much games. I'm not into games either. I mean silly games are fun, but not games that HURT. But I mean. I need to have the upper hand. If not, I'm totally vulnerable and get hurt. I never wanna feel like that again. I think what Erin said about filling a void is accurate. But I want to find a partner where I'M not number 1 or HE'S not number 1 but were both EQUAL. I think I'm beginning to see though, that there is no such thing. There IS such a thing. My relationship is an equal partnership. I think it's because he and I were friends for about 14 years before we became romantically involved with each other. That sounds nice. Wow, how long have you's been a couple now? | |
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gemini13 said: luv4all7 said: Not so much games. I'm not into games either. I mean silly games are fun, but not games that HURT. But I mean. I need to have the upper hand. If not, I'm totally vulnerable and get hurt. I never wanna feel like that again. I think what Erin said about filling a void is accurate. But I want to find a partner where I'M not number 1 or HE'S not number 1 but were both EQUAL. I think I'm beginning to see though, that there is no such thing. There IS such a thing. My relationship is an equal partnership. I think it's because he and I were friends for about 14 years before we became romantically involved with each other. co sign....an equal stature relationship is possible it just takes work to get there. | |
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luv4all7 said: gemini13 said: There IS such a thing. My relationship is an equal partnership. I think it's because he and I were friends for about 14 years before we became romantically involved with each other. That sounds nice. Wow, how long have you's been a couple now? About three years, and we're madly and sickeningly in love. My family tells us that we're so similar that we seem like two people morphed into one.  | |
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I just took it all out on my Mum as well.  Bugger... | |
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gemini13 said: luv4all7 said: That sounds nice. Wow, how long have you's been a couple now? About three years, and we're madly and sickeningly in love. My family tells us that we're so similar that we seem like two people morphed into one. Your blessed. | |
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susannah said: I just took it all out on my Mum as well.
Bugger...go do some exersize or go out for a walk to rid yourself of the negative energy, then tell mom whats going on and apologize.  | |
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purplerein said: susannah said: I just took it all out on my Mum as well.
Bugger...go do some exersize or go out for a walk to rid yourself of the negative energy, then tell mom whats going on and apologize.  ok  | |
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luv4all7 said: gemini13 said: About three years, and we're madly and sickeningly in love. My family tells us that we're so similar that we seem like two people morphed into one. Your blessed. He's the first guy I've been with that doesn't make me pick him apart because he's so laid back. He takes care of developmentally disabled kids, says all the things ever girl wants their man to say, and actually has manners!! 
He's one of the nice guys I disregarded in my twenties because he was too "nice" That was a BIG mistake on my part. Asshole guys aren't worth the heartache. | |
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gemini13 said: luv4all7 said: That sounds nice. Wow, how long have you's been a couple now? About three years, and we're madly and sickeningly in love. My family tells us that we're so similar that we seem like two people morphed into one. My ex-relationship was just like yours....equality, amazing similarity...and it lasted for almost a decade... + we were friends years before anything romantic... we were JUST about to marry and then *poof*.... one too many long-distance seperations killed it and she took a fancy to someone mainly because he was there and I was not. But good for you, all the best! - LOVE IS REAL - but a word to the wise... don't put all your eggs in one basket...make sure you're doing enough for yourself as well as him/her!
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purplerein said: IrresistibleB1tch said: how's that working out for ya? 
really, get all dolled up and go shopping or go see a movie with some friends. he'll leave a message if you're not home. speaking from experience are we? ya know it! | |
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 Don't even get me started on this topic... | |
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Now in all fairness, as much fun as it is to sit here and bash men, there ARE good guys out there. And theres as many shady women as there is men. | |
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luv4all7 said: Now in all fairness, as much fun as it is to sit here and bash men, there ARE good guys out there. And theres as many shady women as there is men.
But, the good guys are mostly married or gay and the shady women manipulate the good guys 'til they become assholes. | |
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applekisses said: luv4all7 said: Now in all fairness, as much fun as it is to sit here and bash men, there ARE good guys out there. And theres as many shady women as there is men.
But, the good guys are mostly married or gay and the shady women manipulate the good guys 'til they become assholes.wwooooohhhhh.....that's dark!!!!  | |
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applekisses said: luv4all7 said: Now in all fairness, as much fun as it is to sit here and bash men, there ARE good guys out there. And theres as many shady women as there is men.
But, the good guys are mostly married or gay and the shady women manipulate the good guys 'til they become assholes.
I'm not sure about the word "mostly". | |
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abierman said: applekisses said: But, the good guys are mostly married or gay and the shady women manipulate the good guys 'til they become assholes.wwooooohhhhh.....that's dark!!!! I know...I'm sorry...it's just the state I'm in lately. I thought about it after I posted that and thought "WOAH!" | |
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applekisses said: luv4all7 said: Now in all fairness, as much fun as it is to sit here and bash men, there ARE good guys out there. And theres as many shady women as there is men.
But, the good guys are mostly married or gay and the shady women manipulate the good guys 'til they become assholes.i think those are just the ones we notice. [Edited 9/16/06 9:03am] | |
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mrdespues said: applekisses said: But, the good guys are mostly married or gay and the shady women manipulate the good guys 'til they become assholes.
I'm not sure about the word "mostly". It's in the dictonary
most‧ly /ˈmoʊstli/ –adverb 1. for the most part; in the main: The work is mostly done. 2. chiefly; principally. 3. generally; customarily | |
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IrresistibleB1tch said: applekisses said: But, the good guys are mostly married or gay and the shady women manipulate the good guys 'til they become assholes.i think those are just the ones we notice. [Edited 9/16/06 9:03am] exactly! | |
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abierman said: IrresistibleB1tch said: i think those are just the ones we notice. [Edited 9/16/06 9:03am] exactly! How do you mean? Is there a phantom group of wonderful, single men lurking in the corners of the world? | |
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applekisses said: abierman said: exactly! How do you mean? Is there a phantom group of wonderful, single men lurking in the corners of the world? yup, you thought you saw it all?? | |
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abierman said: applekisses said: How do you mean? Is there a phantom group of wonderful, single men lurking in the corners of the world? yup, you thought you saw it all?? Do you have to take a time machine or wait for a cyclone to pick up your house to get there? | |
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applekisses said: abierman said: exactly! How do you mean? Is there a phantom group of wonderful, single men lurking in the corners of the world? Those guys are often overlooked because they are viewed as boring or a pushover - not that this is always actually the case. A lot of women think, "Nice guy, but just not challenging enough". I personally like a guy somewhere between a nice guy and an asshole. I find those guys are the hardest to find. | |
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JustErin said: applekisses said: How do you mean? Is there a phantom group of wonderful, single men lurking in the corners of the world? Those guys are often overlooked because they are viewed as boring or a pushover - not that this is always actually the case. A lot of women think, "Nice guy, but just not challenging enough". I personally like a guy somewhere between a nice guy and an asshole. I find those guys are the hardest to find. I COMPLETELY 100% AGREE with this. THAT kind of guy is the type I also want, and they ARE the rarest. No one wants a pushover. | |
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