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Printableabierman said: mrdespues said: 
it takes all kinds, abierman i went too far in one direction to just go back to the start, dig? 
. [Edited 7/27/06 9:20am] so you expect women to jump on your bandwagon??? I doubt that will work.....  that's not what i am saying threadbare is closer to the truth people who have been in relationships a long time act differently to those who haven't... kinda like people who have held down jobs for a while or haven't...tho that's not a good comparison.... jumping into the deep end of the commodity of "singles" is very much not my scene... especially all the bar-hopping... it just reminds me of high school ... i got all of that out of my system back then... i'm not kidding, i was with most of the girls in my year at one point or another (true, it was a small year, but anyway)... arrogant as it may sound, i've "been around".  | |
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mrdespues said: abierman said: so you expect women to jump on your bandwagon??? I doubt that will work..... that's not what i am saying threadbare is closer to the truth people who have been in relationships a long time act differently to those who haven't... kinda like people who have held down jobs for a while or haven't...tho that's not a good comparison.... jumping into the deep end of the commodity of "singles" is very much not my scene... especially all the bar-hopping... it just reminds me of high school ... i got all of that out of my system back then... i'm not kidding, i was with most of the girls in my year at one point or another (true, it was a small year, but anyway)... arrogant as it may sound, i've "been around". well, John.....that's nothing new to me and I know what you're talking about. Despite my 'reputation' here on the org as some 'bon vivant', I've been around too..... I've had a 4 year relationship, back then I was certain I was going to spend my life with this girl. We've lived together for 2 1/2 years. But then, like your situation right now, things didn't work out the way we wanted to and therefore had to part..... And there you are, like you right now.....what do you do? Well, I tell you there is only one way if you want to change your situation, and that's taking a few steps back..... sure, it will not be something you'll like immediately, but if you don't want to be alone I see no other way! | |
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The games you guys are talking about are absolutely NOT gender specific.
Running into this game playing time and time again says more about you than it does about everyone else. Meaning, the kind of people that you are attracting and/or are attracted to. I know this because I am in the same boat as you guys. People playing silly games all around me, and me going a long with it for the most part. | |
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JustErin said: The games you guys are talking about are absolutely NOT gender specific.
Running into this game playing time and time again says more about you than it does about everyone else. Meaning, the kind of people that you are attracting and/or are attracted to. I know this because I am in the same boat as you guys. People playing silly games all around me, and me going a long with it for the most part. exactly!!! (we kinda talked about this last night!  ) | |
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abierman said: mrdespues said: that's not what i am saying threadbare is closer to the truth people who have been in relationships a long time act differently to those who haven't... kinda like people who have held down jobs for a while or haven't...tho that's not a good comparison.... jumping into the deep end of the commodity of "singles" is very much not my scene... especially all the bar-hopping... it just reminds me of high school ... i got all of that out of my system back then... i'm not kidding, i was with most of the girls in my year at one point or another (true, it was a small year, but anyway)... arrogant as it may sound, i've "been around". well, John.....that's nothing new to me and I know what you're talking about. Despite my 'reputation' here on the org as some 'bon vivant', I've been around too..... I've had a 4 year relationship, back then I was certain I was going to spend my life with this girl. We've lived together for 2 1/2 years. But then, like your situation right now, things didn't work out the way we wanted to and therefore had to part..... And there you are, like you right now.....what do you do? Well, I tell you there is only one way if you want to change your situation, and that's taking a few steps back..... sure, it will not be something you'll like immediately, but if you don't want to be alone I see no other way! thanks, i appreciate the advice... being alone sounds almost preferable tho with some of the women i meet. i am thinking of leaving this city... there are prettier (or, not so much that but DIFFERENT) women in better supply elsewhere and i never chose to live here anyway... thanks again. 
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ya'll diggin holes so fucking deep you are going to need more then a shovel to get out...here let me help you....  
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good point, notoriousj.
i will regret this in the morning. then come dinner time, i'll feel exactly the same. 
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abierman said: JustErin said: The games you guys are talking about are absolutely NOT gender specific.
Running into this game playing time and time again says more about you than it does about everyone else. Meaning, the kind of people that you are attracting and/or are attracted to. I know this because I am in the same boat as you guys. People playing silly games all around me, and me going a long with it for the most part. exactly!!! (we kinda talked about this last night! ) | |
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JustErin said: The games you guys are talking about are absolutely NOT gender specific.
Running into this game playing time and time again says more about you than it does about everyone else. Meaning, the kind of people that you are attracting and/or are attracted to. I know this because I am in the same boat as you guys. People playing silly games all around me, and me going a long with it for the most part. well, for me it's mostly because of hanging around my sister's friends (yeah BLAME the sister, i know)... i didn't do that a couple months ago with any regularity. i know exactly what you mean though. problem is, the ex took a lot of my best friends with her. some friends tho. what can u do. what CAN u do. nothing. sit and wait, i say. seek and you shall find, yes, but the more you prod something, the more it goes away. ya know. yep. you do. | |
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notoriousj said: ya'll diggin holes so fucking deep you are going to need more then a shovel to get out...here let me help you....
[Edited 7/27/06 10:04am] can I introduce you to my hot friends???   | |
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JustErin said: The games you guys are talking about are absolutely NOT gender specific.
Running into this game playing time and time again says more about you than it does about everyone else. Meaning, the kind of people that you are attracting and/or are attracted to. I know this because I am in the same boat as you guys. People playing silly games all around me, and me going a long with it for the most part. I agree with Erin- (as usual..) I also agree that you need to take a step back and look at things.. the good and the bad. You need to figure out what YOU want and NEED in a relationship and what you did not get or give in the last one that made it fail.. I can relate to what you are going through.. my husband & I have been each others best friends now for almost 10 yrs- shared a lot. We have hung on to this dead sexless relationship out of comfort and fear. It is hard to move on but you will my friend.  | |
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shanti0608 said: JustErin said: The games you guys are talking about are absolutely NOT gender specific.
Running into this game playing time and time again says more about you than it does about everyone else. Meaning, the kind of people that you are attracting and/or are attracted to. I know this because I am in the same boat as you guys. People playing silly games all around me, and me going a long with it for the most part. I agree with Erin- (as usual..) I also agree that you need to take a step back and look at things.. the good and the bad. You need to figure out what YOU want and NEED in a relationship and what you did not get or give in the last one that made it fail.. I can relate to what you are going through.. my husband & I have been each others best friends now for almost 10 yrs- shared a lot. We have hung on to this dead sexless relationship out of comfort and fear. It is hard to move on but you will my friend. the only thing we didn't have in the last relationship was close proximity. that's what ruined everything. but i'm not ruling out someone overseas now just because this one didn't work, long as it was... someone local would be nice, perhaps, but i get drawn to elsewhere everytime | |
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mrdespues said: shanti0608 said: I agree with Erin- (as usual..) I also agree that you need to take a step back and look at things.. the good and the bad. You need to figure out what YOU want and NEED in a relationship and what you did not get or give in the last one that made it fail.. I can relate to what you are going through.. my husband & I have been each others best friends now for almost 10 yrs- shared a lot. We have hung on to this dead sexless relationship out of comfort and fear. It is hard to move on but you will my friend. the only thing we didn't have in the last relationship was close proximity. that's what ruined everything. but i'm not ruling out someone overseas now just because this one didn't work, long as it was... someone local would be nice, perhaps, but i get drawn to elsewhere everytime I know the feeling... | |
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mrdespues said: shanti0608 said: I agree with Erin- (as usual..) I also agree that you need to take a step back and look at things.. the good and the bad. You need to figure out what YOU want and NEED in a relationship and what you did not get or give in the last one that made it fail.. I can relate to what you are going through.. my husband & I have been each others best friends now for almost 10 yrs- shared a lot. We have hung on to this dead sexless relationship out of comfort and fear. It is hard to move on but you will my friend. the only thing we didn't have in the last relationship was close proximity. that's what ruined everything. but i'm not ruling out someone overseas now just because this one didn't work, long as it was... someone local would be nice, perhaps, but i get drawn to elsewhere everytime Ok, I don't know you or really anything about you...but going by a lot of the things you post on here, I do not think you are over your ex and not being able to move on at this point may be clouding your judgement of others. I think you are still bitter and may be just looking to find fault in others because, at this point, you feel every women is out to use you, hurt you and break your heart. That is just my take on things, I may be way off. | |
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Dude, if you want sacktime or a relationship you have to play women's games to an extent. There is no way to avoid it. It is unfortunately part of the deal that comes with them. I have had to compromise my dignity a little to get what i got over the weekend and i will have to give in some to get sacktime. It's Pathetic but true. I won't stoop to sissy boy stuff like putting flowers on pillows but i am going to have to give in somewhat. | |
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Spats said: Dude, if you want sacktime or a relationship you have to play women's games to an extent. There is no way to avoid it. It is unfortunately part of the deal that comes with them. I have had to compromise my dignity a little to get what i got over the weekend and i will have to give in some to get sacktime. It's Pathetic but true. I won't stoop to sissy boy stuff like putting flowers on pillows but i am going to have to give in somewhat.
are you saying you got some over the weekend???? 
cause if not, this post really doesn't say anything..... | |
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shanti0608 said: mrdespues said: the only thing we didn't have in the last relationship was close proximity. that's what ruined everything. but i'm not ruling out someone overseas now just because this one didn't work, long as it was... someone local would be nice, perhaps, but i get drawn to elsewhere everytime I know the feeling... | |
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Spats said: Dude, if you want sacktime or a relationship you have to play women's games to an extent. There is no way to avoid it. It is unfortunately part of the deal that comes with them. I have had to compromise my dignity a little to get what i got over the weekend and i will have to give in some to get sacktime. It's Pathetic but true. I won't stoop to sissy boy stuff like putting flowers on pillows but i am going to have to give in somewhat.
Ok Spats.. let me tell you right now.. enough with sissy boy putting the flower on the pillow comments.. You are missing the point my friend.. You just don't get it and judging by the comments you've made in the other sex threads- I am no sure if you ever will... What exactly do you like about sex?? | |
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shanti0608 said: Ok Spats.. let me tell you right now.. enough with sissy boy putting the flower on the pillow comments.. You are missing the point my friend.. You just don't get it and judging by the comments you've made in the other sex threads- I am no sure if you ever will... What exactly do you like about sex?? I'm almost sure he can't remember or simply doesn't know..... | |
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abierman said: shanti0608 said: Ok Spats.. let me tell you right now.. enough with sissy boy putting the flower on the pillow comments.. You are missing the point my friend.. You just don't get it and judging by the comments you've made in the other sex threads- I am no sure if you ever will... What exactly do you like about sex?? I'm almost sure he can't remember or simply doesn't know.....
I am just curious because he doesn't like oral, he doesn't like noise, he doesn't like faces, he does not like romance... I am trying to understand... [Edited 7/27/06 11:04am] | |
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shanti0608 said: abierman said: I'm almost sure he can't remember or simply doesn't know.....
I am just curious because he doesn't like oral, he doesn't like noise, he doesn't like faces, he does not like romance... I am trying to understand... [Edited 7/27/06 11:04am] Most guys don't like romance. You would be surprised how many guys don't like going downtown. I don't want the pretty woman i am with making silly ass faces. It turns me off. It's not attractive. And i don't like screaming of any kind. | |
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abierman said: Spats said: Dude, if you want sacktime or a relationship you have to play women's games to an extent. There is no way to avoid it. It is unfortunately part of the deal that comes with them. I have had to compromise my dignity a little to get what i got over the weekend and i will have to give in some to get sacktime. It's Pathetic but true. I won't stoop to sissy boy stuff like putting flowers on pillows but i am going to have to give in somewhat.
are you saying you got some over the weekend????
cause if not, this post really doesn't say anything..... I posted what happened over the weekend. | |
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Spats said: shanti0608 said:
I am just curious because he doesn't like oral, he doesn't like noise, he doesn't like faces, he does not like romance... I am trying to understand... [Edited 7/27/06 11:04am] Most guys don't like romance. You would be surprised how many guys don't like going downtown. I don't want the pretty woman i am with making silly ass faces. It turns me off. It's not attractive. And i don't like screaming of any kind. it's scary, huh? | |
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Spats said: Dude, if you want sacktime or a relationship you have to play women's games to an extent. There is no way to avoid it. It is unfortunately part of the deal that comes with them. I have had to compromise my dignity a little to get what i got over the weekend and i will have to give in some to get sacktime. It's Pathetic but true. I won't stoop to sissy boy stuff like putting flowers on pillows but i am going to have to give in somewhat.
Spats i appreciate your candor | |
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Spats said: shanti0608 said:
I am just curious because he doesn't like oral, he doesn't like noise, he doesn't like faces, he does not like romance... I am trying to understand... [Edited 7/27/06 11:04am] Most guys don't like romance. You would be surprised how many guys don't like going downtown. I don't want the pretty woman i am with making silly ass faces. It turns me off. It's not attractive. And i don't like screaming of any kind. Alrighty then... | |
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shanti0608 said: Spats said: Dude, if you want sacktime or a relationship you have to play women's games to an extent. There is no way to avoid it. It is unfortunately part of the deal that comes with them. I have had to compromise my dignity a little to get what i got over the weekend and i will have to give in some to get sacktime. It's Pathetic but true. I won't stoop to sissy boy stuff like putting flowers on pillows but i am going to have to give in somewhat.
Ok Spats.. let me tell you right now.. enough with sissy boy putting the flower on the pillow comments.. You are missing the point my friend.. You just don't get it and judging by the comments you've made in the other sex threads- I am no sure if you ever will... What exactly do you like about sex?? What don't i get? What am i missing? | |
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mrdespues said: knowing how their minds work
Oh shit, my hat done fell off | |
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Spats said: shanti0608 said: Ok Spats.. let me tell you right now.. enough with sissy boy putting the flower on the pillow comments.. You are missing the point my friend.. You just don't get it and judging by the comments you've made in the other sex threads- I am no sure if you ever will... What exactly do you like about sex?? What don't i get? What am i missing? What do you like.. I got a long list of donts.. | |
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Spats said: shanti0608 said: Ok Spats.. let me tell you right now.. enough with sissy boy putting the flower on the pillow comments.. You are missing the point my friend.. You just don't get it and judging by the comments you've made in the other sex threads- I am no sure if you ever will... What exactly do you like about sex?? What don't i get? What am i missing? what's your political affiliation, spats? | |
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INSATIABLE said: mrdespues said: knowing how their minds work
yes? can i help you? | |
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