I don't get it, it's either on or off in my book, not on for a bit and then off a bit later.
"casual" sex between friends? I don't buy it.

Eh?!

susannah said:

that's what I reckon (and this is not about me)

ZombieKitten said:

I have a couple friends ruining our entire circle of friends with on/off casual sex. Things are getting ultra weird and their band will probably break up because of it.

Do you mean as in an on and off relationship? like "i want to be sleeping with you" and then all of a sudden "I dont", and then "I do again" ???

If so I think I agree

I think...

I've been "off" for about a year.

I can say I've had one true relationship like that with someone in my life. It was long ago, but for a period of maybe 2 years it was just a thing where if we were both out at a party or something and neither of us had a date we just sorta ended up together at the end of the night. We never dated. We were kind of friends, but not really close. We definitely hung out at other times and I don't ever remember any jealousy or much emotion really if either one of us were dating someone. And it was never planned.
Though, more and more I think that kinda thing is pretty rare.

susannah said:

as in they are really good friends, and they have sex, yet they aren't planning on doing it again, yet who knows, if it happens it happens!

ZombieKitten said:

I have that going on kinda, but its not with a friend, its my ex boyfriend. We split over a year ago the first time but we just cant seem to let it go! We've both had shortlived affairs within that time, but were just really close and always together platonically, and I mean always! So we tend to spend a lot of nights together as well...but its not like we get drunk and rip each others clothes off every few months! We just spend the evening and then the night together, and if something happens, it happens!

Not really the same...I dont think!

susannah said:

no this is more like, he thinks she is cool with it and I am not so sure

ZombieKitten said:

Hmmm, lol I had that with the "shortlived affair" in between.... I wasnt really all that cool with casanova...but I was happy to see him when I did so I just thought "fuck it"!

Im such a fucking numpty

ZombieKitten said:

In general I think it's dangerous. More often than not it's gonna end with one person getting hurt.

CarrieMpls said:

But we all make our own choices dont we, I guess?

susannah said:

Of course. If both people are truly fine with it, then great. If there's any inkling that you both don't want the same things, it becomes very, very sticky to continue. Some might say, almost immoral.

how long have you been married ?

Mach said:

8 years, you'd think he'd commit by now!

I've done it. I did it for over 2 years with someone. When we were both single we would hook up every now and then.

It can work.

ZombieKitten said:

I should hope not because that would be prostitution rather then casual sex.

JustErin said:

ZombieKitten said:

Ummmmm....errrrr....where can I find this girl?

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I have fallen in love with every guy I have had sex with, maybe that's just me? Obviously it's not the same for everybody and I am very old-fashioned

ZombieKitten said:

again, adorable.

ZombieKitten said:

i heard once....that women use sex for love, and men use love for sex

purplerein said:

AndGodCreatedMe said:

Love schmuv, it's all about the o-face. Oh! Oh!

ZombieKitten said:

I end up HATING every girl I have sex with.

jerseykrs said:

Tell me about your childhood...start at the beginning..

Spookymuffin said:

Just follow up my advice

ZombieKitten said:

I don't think that is "old fashioned".

Many people just can not seperate sex and love, and that is totally ok.

JustErin said:

that oxytocin kicks in and I bond, I think if affects me very strongly