I might as well weigh in, toots.

Are you looking for a relationship, or fun? The former's the obvious risky situation; the latter's a great experience. It spices up your workday, to say the least. I'd do it again.

INSATIABLE said:

It certainly was very exciting getting those emails asking if I wanted to go on a "break"

Spats said:

Not if you have sex in the toilets at work. Two birds with one stone!

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

OHOHOHOHO.

We sat right across from each other for several months and I'd call him and we'd both pretend to be on hold while we'd whisper hot things under our breath when no one was walking by. One time he rang me and we literally sat there for five minutes, just drilling holes into each other with our eyes.


I'm going to his wedding in July!

INSATIABLE said:

I hope you're not in love with him!

MIGUELGOMEZ said:

It's all about personal experience

Miguel Mister pommes frites! Howdy

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

No way! Like I said, it was just for fun. And we had ours.


PS:

INSATIABLE said:

OK PS-I will respond to your note

MIGUELGOMEZ said:

I find it very tough to tell with men AND women, really. I tend to assume that people are just being friendly. But. . . I don't know. . . I have no idea if she's FLIRTING with me, but she's warm towards me in a way that I don't see her behave with other people.

And your advice is noted.

INSATIABLE said:

Oh, either. I'd say she's relationship material, but I'd go for fun.

Spats said:

Yeah, but it's not a career, it's a job.

And you'd probably like her (except for the lesbian bit). She seems to think an ideal relationship involves lots of personal space and alone time.

Of course, she probably also demands some fundamental level of respect, which could be a problem.

HereToRockYourWorld said:

Damn, does that mean away with the cat-o-nine-tails?


M

MIGUELGOMEZ said:

Pfft. No. I mean, only if she ain't into all that.

HereToRockYourWorld said:

that's my girl!

Oooohh, I remember the last crush I had on someone at work. I still think about her...often. I can understand the enjoyment as well as the angst of it all. Planning what I was gonna wear, when I was gonna take my break, conversation topics, and being all the nights before and after work.


This went on for 3months while she was there and my feelings lasted for about ??? after she was laid off. I would be lying if I said I don't miss her. Oh well.

And I was/am married during all of this.







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Adisa said:

I hope your wife never stumbles on this thread by accident!

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

My wife knows all about it, Chief. We're cool like that.

Adisa said:

Yeah, see, if I get ready to leave this job and nothing has happened, I know I'm gonna have to lay it down, 'cause I'd be kicking myself forever if I didn't at least try her.

And sucks about the spouse bit. I have a boyfriend, but he doesn't care if I go out with women. Which I think is misguided of him, but whatever, I'm not gonna argue.

Adisa said:

Good for you. It took me all my power not to kick my exes ass

HereToRockYourWorld said:

Yeah, it can really mess with your head, both of them. But it's cool (maybe) that you and your partner can talk about these issues the way my wife and I can. Communication really is the key. A jealous, insecure woman wouldn't be cool with her man telling her about another woman that he jonesing for, or vise versa, but we know who we are and trust each other. So it's all good.

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

Yeah, we've been 2gether for 10 years and she knows about all my crushes in the time we've been together, about 4 total. And she's had at least 2 that she's shared with me. We can talk about it and keep it in proper perspective. Never have we cheated on each other, nor do we want to. Crushes are never about love, like ThreadBare already mentioned. They're about "something else", and my wife and I help each other in uncovering what that "something else" is really all about. It makes our relationship stronger and the love-making is like . No, not because we're fantasizing, but because our commitment to trust and honesty really do take us to new heights.

Adisa said:

That's very awesome. I think there's something really powerful about saying, "hey, I'm not blind to all of these other people, and I choose you."

HereToRockYourWorld said:

It kind of helps when they actually do choose you

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

CarrieMpls said:

And mine.

Unfortunately, mine happened after a mid-week Xmas party - where we were both seen leaving together - then he went and phoned in sick the next day! (I'd booked it off). So you can imagine the in work.

I managed to convince everyone that we only left together - he went one way and I went the other - but I'm not sure they were *that* convinced. Still, it made the next few weeks quite interesting.

HereToRockYourWorld said:

Illustrator said:

Update:

So, part of the fun of a crush thing is trying to figure out whether or not it's mutual, right? The other day she and I were talking about long-distance relationships, which I've had a couple of, and she's had none of. I was saying that one of the upsides is that pretty much any time you have sex it's like vacation sex (ie. super extra awesome). So, today, she comes over to me out of the blue and in this low voice is like, "I've been thinking about how I need some of that vacation sex we were talking about." And she smiles. And I'm going .

Before I could say anything we got interrupted, but later I said something like, "so, you're thinking that this long-distance relationship thing might be for you, eh?" and she says, "well, the vacation sex part. . . wouldn't have to be VERY long distance. . .across town would be fine." (I suppose it goes without saying that she and I live across town from each other). At which point I'm having a fucking heart attack.

It could all just totally be conversaion. I have no idea if she was flirting with me or not. But you know I wanna think so.

Ok, that's all.

HereToRockYourWorld said:

F'ing YES!!!

I can't wait to see how this goes!