a few minutes ago this chick really wanted me. I'm suprised when women go after me in public places. This one girl sexually propositioned me while waiting for the bus. All these chicks were doable. Are you ever suprised people find you that attractive? I'm shy, so I rarely approach women I don't know. I really don't have Game.

I LOVE women that make the first move. I don't think women realize how hot men find this. Very rarely will a woman get turned down if she approaches a guy. Most of the time that's how me and my ex girlfriends hooked up. I don't do the approaching anymore unless i have been told that the girl is very interested. And even then i make her sweat a little.

Aye, I'm usually pretty freaked out when someone finds my physical appearance attractive. I think I look like a dirty blonde gypsy, boggle eyed and sulky with dodgy hair. I never think I'm clean enough, even after 33 baths and turning the light on and off eight times.
Then again, I get disappointed and confused when girls or boys don;t find me the most beautiful creature that's ever prowled this planet. Utterly flabbergasted.
So I suppose the beholder sees an inverted self that's invisible to the owner. Forest/trees etc. I see my own face too much, maybe. And I'm very critical or everyone and everything.

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In general I'm not the agressor but once in a great, great while I can go after what I want.

But you can also do so in a way that's not so agressive. I was once standing at the bus stop and saw this beautiful man across the street. I couldn't help but keep my eyes on him as he walked my way across the street. I tried to look away a bit, but I kept looking back. He finally stopped right in front of me and just smiled a really big smile at me and said 'hello'.

I think I just giggled and said hello back.

Number23 said:

well said.

lilgish said:

CarrieMpls said:

oooh la la that would've made me blush too!

brownsugar said:

I didn't know what to do! He just so obviously called me out like that. Goodness.

Number23 said:

lilgish said:

im so incredibly sorry, but, i always thought you were a woman

Number23 said:

That statue, is that two little boys kissing in the background?

As a general rule I do not approach men. If I see someone that I find attractive, I'll make sure that they see that I am checking them out from a distance, then it's up to them to approach me. I like confident men, they've got to at least have the balls to make the first real move.

JustErin said:

You can MISS a lot with that approach.

lilgish said:

Love woman like that. maybe that's why I moved th Atlanta. the sista's don't play down here. I LOVE IT!

It's pretty rare that I'll walk up on a dude but its happened... I prefer some eye contact, then I'll gladly call him over. But to just roll up out of the blue is usually intimidating for me since I'm all shy & shit most of the time

Graycap23 said:

I'm ok with missing a lot.

Number23 said:

who are you kidding? you are yum-on-a-stick

Number23 said:

that pic make anyone else think of the phantom of the opera?

Dude, I would RUN the other way FAST from an aggressive chick...everyone knows
chicks are supposed to be timid and submissive.




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cborgman said:

Makes me think of the phantom of Neverland

cborgman said:

JustErin said:

I have been told that i could be missing a lot by not doing the approaching with women but i just don't want to play the game anymore. I don't think i am missing anything because i don't want a woman who is into the whole old fashioned gender role routine where the guy does it. I like it better when they make the move.

1. Because it's hot as hell
2. I know for sure she is interested. I am not risking my ass.
3. I like having the power to decide whether we are going to hook up or not.

Spats said:

See, I don't see it as playing "the game" or playing on old fashioned gender routines. I see it as the guy showing confidence by making that first real move, and confidence is very sexy to me.

I can definitely see how guys would find the same to be true about women who make that first move.

JustErin said:

That might not be why you like it that way but millions of women like to play that game and are still stuck in old fashioned gender roles.

Spats said:

ok, now i get it - your attitude toward women is a benevolent way of improving gender disparities! that's admirable!

Spats said:

Ya, I don't doubt that at all. Most people love to play games.

I have no time or patience for that.

Wouldn't happen over here. If you approach someone on the street in Northern Europe (and I've actually done this a couple of times) they're really surprised that a man has the confidence to come talk to them at public places. Most have been very delighted, some I've even asked out on a date. I think I've had my best ever one-off date with just someone I once went to talk to outside a camera store. But I just recently also had a really bad experience with a girl I went to talk to one night - she really freaked out that a stranger would actually come to talk to her. It was my stupidity to go over to approach her at that late at night, but it was still a ridiculous case of over-reacting. Seriously, I think she thought I was about to rape her or rob her. Just for frickin' saying: "Hi, excuse me...". Yeah, and all the rapists always smile at you and say "Hi, excuse me."

She had actually exchanged a couple of long looks with me months ago on several occasions, but my guess is that she didn't even remember me anymore. Some women I guess just don't have to really memorize the guys they exchange looks with. I look a bit different too nowadays. I don't know, I still feel like shit over the incident.
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IrresistibleB1tch said:

NAH

Going by what you wrote there's nothing for you to feel bad about. Some women just behave that way, don't worry about it.

Novabreaker said:

papaa said:

No kidding, that weird reaction was a total red flag anyway.