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PrintableI think I got what I deserved though, I just approached her because I thought she was just plain sexy in a very underlined way - I think that's a wrong motif, and I don't want to fall into that category. It was too late in the night, I admit, but I thought she would have remembered me. I guess you just don't remember the same guy when he is not wearing tight designer jeans and instead has his glasses on his face. I guess when you're being attractive you are indeed an attraction. When you aren't looking that good, you are a harasser then to some women. 
But seriously, she literally jumped back and looked genuinely afraid. There were some other people somewhat close-by, so I was even more surprised. I told her I was not going to do anything, and asked did she want me to go away, and she said "yes". Easily one of the worst moments of my life. But then again, why assume automatically that someone is going to hurt you? That's just stupid. And I don't want to sound like a sexist pig, but isn't it just common sense that if you are going out sexy all the time some guys are going to apporach you from time to time? | |
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i have no problem asking a guy out or making a move...as long as i have seen a glimmer of interest on his part (eg. flirting with me, touching while talking to me...deep gazes into my eyes.....) then i am all for it!
i think it has more to do with my impatience then anything...i'm not going to rely on a man to give me what i want...i'll just take it 
 you're only as old as you feel..............so how old do i feel 
Now that food has replaced sex in my life, I can't even get into my own pants. | |
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Novabreaker said: Wouldn't happen over here. If you approach someone on the street in Northern Europe (and I've actually done this a couple of times) they're really surprised that a man has the confidence to come talk to them at public places. Most have been very delighted, some I've even asked out on a date. I think I've had my best ever one-off date with just someone I once went to talk to outside a camera store. But I just recently also had a really bad experience with a girl I went to talk to one night - she really freaked out that a stranger would actually come to talk to her. It was my stupidity to go over to approach her at that late at night, but it was still a ridiculous case of over-reacting. Seriously, I think she thought I was about to rape her or rob her. Just for frickin' saying: "Hi, excuse me...". Yeah, and all the rapists always smile at you and say "Hi, excuse me."
She had actually exchanged a couple of long looks with me months ago on several occasions, but my guess is that she didn't even remember me anymore. Some women I guess just don't have to really memorize the guys they exchange looks with. I look a bit different too nowadays. I don't know, I still feel like shit over the incident. [Edited 4/27/06 9:59am] she or a friend might have been mugged or worse in the past. My art book: http://www.lulu.com/spotl...ecomicskid
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ufoclub said: she or a friend might have been mugged or worse in the past.
Yeah. It was a stupid call for me to do that at night time. To be honest, I think she was a little... unintelligent.  But then again, I got what I deserved for being so attracted to her. I had to do a lot of thinking about myself afterwards. | |
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I assumed you were in a social setting (i.e. a club, bar, etc.). Where did this happen? In an alleyway? M.2.K
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Novabreaker said: I got what I deserved for being so attracted to her. I had to do a lot of thinking about myself afterwards. You're being way too hard on yourself. I don't understand why being attracted to someone and then making a move is a bad thing. How else do you meet people you are attracted to? Someone's looks, sexiness, vibe, or whatever is what draws us in in the first place. There is nothing wrong with that. | |
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lilgish said: a few minutes ago this chick really wanted me.
 I'm suprised when women go after me in public places. This one girl sexually propositioned me while waiting for the bus. All these chicks were doable. Are you ever suprised people find you that attractive? I'm shy, so I rarely approach women I don't know. I really don't have Game.i hear you, when i was younger, if it wasn't for aggressive women i would never have got none. i know better now | |
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papaa said: NOVABREAKER
I assumed you were in a social setting (i.e. a club, bar, etc.). Where did this happen? In an alleyway? Nah, we both just got off the bus and I was going to walk the other way. There were other people enough nearby I think - everybody was coming home from partying. It wasn't the smartest call from my part, but I really thought she'd recognize me. Well, shouldn't think too much of myself then. I've just had pretty good experiences from stuff like that since I started doing some year ago or so, approaching women in public, Just going to talk, I like the way they've always been so flattered. I guess the bad one had to eventually come. JustErin said: Someone's looks, sexiness, vibe, or whatever is what draws us in in the first place. There is nothing wrong with that.
Well, I hadn't gone talk to this one earlier because I thought she was way too much into the "sexiness" thing. I actually don't even know why I even approached her now, as I had earlier decided not to. | |
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Novabreaker said: JustErin said: Someone's looks, sexiness, vibe, or whatever is what draws us in in the first place. There is nothing wrong with that.
Well, I hadn't gone talk to this one earlier because I thought she was way too much into the "sexiness" thing. I actually don't even know why I even approached her now, as I had earlier decided not to. You thought she was too sexy, or you thought she was trying too hard to be sexy? | |
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JustErin said: You thought she was too sexy, or you thought she was trying too hard to be sexy?
The latter. She does succeed in it though, but I guess by Northern European standards her kind of thing can be a bit laughable, especially from other women's perspectives. I guess what I was thinking was "okay, I've had this very sexy person sharing looks with me in several occasions in the past - I should take that as a compliment, right? When I am going to see her next? I just as well might go to talk her now, it's been a boring night anyway". | |
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