Get a job. lol

don't spend your time fucking everything that moves or wylin' out or all that nonsense. Think about the future, man. Having some sort of degree will get you a better job. Spend time developing your mind and your soul. Take yourself seriously. you're worth it, aren't you?

I'm 34 and everything somehow worked out really well. Almost perfect. Married, 2 beautiful sweet daughters, homeowner. Stupid factory job though that I can't see breaking away from in the foreseeable future. I actually sort of like it, but it's less than what I could be doing with my mind. Wish I'd finished college! Thinking about going back - but at this stage in the game it is much harder. Not impossible, but harder than I thought it would be.

Thank God I have a hobby I love too. But nobody's paying me for playing geetar like a mutha.

charlottegelin said:

Come on. You know the difference between good looking and ugly.

HamsterHuey said:

Yeah, what in the hell is there to admire about being married? Admire people who are free to do whatever they want.

charlottegelin said:

I know women who are ugly and some are friends. But i would never do them.

Rudy said:

It's hard because you got married and had kids. That stuff limits a persons possibilities.

Spats said:

I do, but I don't even know someone that is THAT ugly!

Spats said:

some ugly people can still be very sexy

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I have met guys that were photo model beautiful but had such an obnoxious character I could not view them other than butt-ugly.

Then again, I met so-called ugly people, who are just not fitting into your pre-conditioned idea of beauty, btw, who truned out the be the sexiest people alive.

Gimme a so-called ugly person over a pretty one ANYTIME. Most my friends do not fit into that rather warped sense of beauty some of you here love to throw around, thank you.


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i had to decide whether to accept a job offer (radio journalism, at a decent salary)... or to chuck it all and go to france.

i chose france. so here i am, 10 years later, student, teacher but mostly a beach bum.

Spats said:

for career chasers and the like, that's true. I'm one of the lucky ones who see past that. Not really by choice, I have no marketable skills!

b u

b true

that b all u need

2 du

Spats said:

morning, spats!

I would say that if you don't already have everything on lockdown (hubby, fave job, etc.), take this time to discover yourself.

If you have a job that's paying,KEEP it for the moment, and use that dough to pay off bills and work on/up your credit...it'll help for when you wanna start looking for a house or condo 10 years down the line.

Don't worry too much about having the most expensive of anything because that's what your 30's and 40's are for. If you are able to keep your bills in line, and you have money left over, I would use it to see the world. Make a list of 3 places you want to see before you hit the big 30,then make it happen! If you're as enamoured of seeing the world as some of us on here, I can teach you how to see some amazing places you've never dreamed possible, and on the cheap ...

In terms of self improvement, use this time to also take up a hobby or special interest, it'll make you a richer and more dynamic individual and add new dimensions to your life for the future as well. And if it's something you REALLY love, you may even be able to use that skill for a finacially and emotionally rewarding job at a later time.

Lastly, in terms of relationships, I say feel free to DATE LIKE HELL, although RESPONSIBLY . Again, if you don't already have a fiancé on lockdown then it's best just to enjoy being single and not fret over it...when the right person comes along, you'll know it and all the fireworks will explode all over the place and you'll both be so into each other there will be no doubt that you've found your mate..

...all that having been said, realize that now is your time! Enjoy it before all of the heavier responsibilities (kids, mates, life career, & property taxes) set in. Right now are the master of your own universe and not a soul out there can take that away from you!

...hope that works for ya!

Spats said:

schtick

by a

dick

Ottensen said:

you're always so great with practical, yet interesting, advice.

CarrieMpls said:

This is VERY true!

And, the great thing is that being a student entitles you to some great discounts worldwide, so the traveling thing can TOTALLY happen.

Even for those of us who are older with a little extra cash to spend, it's still possible to travel on the cheap with the advent of cheap airline shuttles in the US and Europe, and all of the research that help organize cheap trips via the internet

Ottensen said:

Unfortunately you guys dont seem to realise just how little money I have

Thanks anyway

susannah said:

i love u

shausler said:

at least someone does!

susannah said:

ah yeah, you're a british subject, are you not? you'd know all about the disount airlines already...

Heiress said:

yep, Im all over it!

shausler said:

It's not schtick. It's true i have female friends who are ugos. But i am still friends with me. I just would never nail them.

I don't believe that beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Most people know the difference between beautiful and ugly. But most people settle because they don't want to be alone.

There's someone I didn't think much of at first (as far as looks), but as I got to know them, they were drop-dead beautiful to me - aesthetically!

Now I know what "beauty in the eye of the beholder" means (to me).

CinisterCee said:

That's never happened to me. If i thought they were ugly at the beginning I still thought they were ugly once i knew them.

Spats said:

CinisterCee said:

some people really grow on you

CinisterCee said:

Any financial or relationship issues etc. Wasnt talking about a porn career

charlottegelin said:

Aaand not only that, they forever shift my values on "what to look for".

CinisterCee said:

I agree with that. I find that my tastes are forever shifting, or expanding at least. There are guys that - if you'd asked me 10 years ago - if I liked them, I'd have said 'No way!'. Just personal preference. Now, I find them hot as hell. And, as you say, there are people who are sexy just by virtue of their personality.