Thx..but this wasn't abt me...


sorry if i gave that impression.

Richard

AndGodCreatedMe said:

No way baby. Not at all. You are part of the fabric of my life and I love that you shared something so wonderful

i am feeling a bit bad too. it wasn't my intention to just have fun on this thread. if i upset someone i apologize.

dawntreader said:

Honey, it's my thread and I'm not upset. I am someone who believes in living life always so it's no worry

just be yourself... you will know what to do when you get there, your heart will lead you

nakedpianoplayer said:

I know. I just have never been to one and didn't want to show up without something that I absolutely needed. I'm kinda scared, no not scared, I don't know how to say it. I guess nervous. My family has never lost someone like this and I'm gonna be crying all over the place. But that's me so....

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

like i said.. just be you... you are a beautiful person and you express yourself very well

and im so sorry for your loss


always here if you need to talk....

CarrieLee said:

That's what I do too.

I'm sorry for your loss Richard.

Oh, and Supa don't forget the beans, chili, and tortillas..

sag10 said:

I only wish there would be food there! My family cooks amazingly. Every holiday the women would make tamales and as they've gotten older the tradition came to a halt but one of the last times we had tamales, Lisa made the rice My aunt made the most delicious spanish rice and Lisa learned how to make it from her mom and so she took over rice duty when her mom needed her to step in

Just don't do what Dante and Randal did in "Clerks", and you'll do fine.

Richard, just let your spirit lead you.

Everyone there is present to support each other.

Know you are supported here.

I've only ever been to 1 funeral

my mother's side of the family doesn't believe in wakes and if they had their choice, wouldn't have a funeral.

so I don't know Supa. I don't get looking at a dead body. Makes no sense to me.

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

The Key Word here is "Closure". It is the feeling one gets upon ending something to begin something new. A Funeral is a Closure device. It is to alow the living to examine the body, accept the death has happened, maybe to say hi and mourn together. This all helps the closure process.

You are expected to ware dark cloths, don't make an ass out yourself, forgive others for making asses out themselves. Death plays strange tricks on one's mind.

At my father's funeral, I got so tire of people telling me "i'm sorry" that I started responding with "why you didn't kill him. did you?"

it's always hard to know what to do in these cirumstances... I know at my friend Aarons it was very solemn and very qiet I think that had to do with the fact that it was very very sudden (he committed suicide by dropping off a cliff face) and also very young (he was 19)

my Mum's though was a celebration of her life... we were laughing and trying to honour her memory and her sense of humour it was less of a shock with her because not to sound bad but we knew it was coming so I think those closest to her we all got to kinda make our peace with it so the wake was, as I said, a celebration of her life

I can only agree with what most people have said already, Richard. Just be yourself; follow your heart and your instincts.

Take care and my thoughts are with you and your family.

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

oh honey i am a cryer. big time
i feel no need to stifle my emotions - or to care if my face gets wet.

i think you will find there will be time to cry
and time to share memories

Rhondab said:

My mom and sister are feeling this way and do not want to go. I feel like I have to, not out of obligation but out of something I feel that I need from it. I don't know what that is but I feel I'm needing something that I will only get if I go to this wake.

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you can't make people go - but personally for me if i can't attend someone's funeral (never been to a wake) i don't feel as though i have had the chance to properly go through the grieving process.
this one will be tough but i think there will be a sense of peace once you have gone through it.
to you today supa

emm said:

Thank you emm