Just realize that there is no woman worth getting that upset over. Not worth the heartache. There will always be another. Good luck.

It was surprisingly quick. I thought it was going to take several months before the pain went away, but it actually dissipated in much shorter amount of time (less than 2 weeks). I went through a lot of the self-help websites on relationships just to get tips. Ultimately, I just came to the point where I no longer felt heartbroken for the person anymore, I didn't feel sad, I actually became angry. At first I was trying to win the person back, but I stopped and walked away. A few weeks later my EX was trying to WIN ME BACK HARDCORE blowing up my cell with text messages and sending me forgive me notes. I didn't entertain them and I didn't look back.

CarrieMpls said:

I agree "contact" is bad. I thought I was just being nice by sending my ex a response back to one of the usual text message I get sent, but it was taken by my ex as a sign that something could "work out in the future" and after that my cell and e-mail box for a cool month was blown up with forgive me/take me back messages. It ended up me having to cuss my ex out and be outright vehement before my ex got the hint that I wanted nothing to do with anything friendship or relationship wise.

Hasn't spoken to me since.

I really feel what you are going through....I've been with my boyfriend for 5 years now and we had recently gone through some EXTREMELY trying times where we almost broke up. We are still together and committed to working things out, but I agree with the others. You need time to do some soul-searching, don't be afraid to feel sorry for yourself, to get out all of your feelings. You'll be surprised once you get everything out how much better you will begin to feel. But it does take time. Take care of yourself first and foremost! And no that no matter what everything works out the way it is meant to.

GO OUT WITH URE MATES, GET PISSED, HAVE LOTS OF ONE NIGHT STANDS WITH UGLY BLOKES, GO ON A GIRLIE HOLIDAY, BUY SOMETHING DIOR, BUY SOMETHING GUCCI, GET YOUR HAIR DONE.DANCE AROUND THE HOUSE TO PRINCE AND NEVER EVER CRY OVER HIM.

SeattleInvasion said:

yes, I am going thru that at this moment. After we initially broke up, there was no contact for two weeks. I was still heartbroken, but all cried out. Then we started to IM each other and I was consumed by emotions and let my feelings be known. He didn't like that and said bye to IM's. Soooo, NO CONTACT at all is the best and safest way.

preciosa863 said:

I needed three solid months of no contact to really be ok. Though I was amazed by how much better I felt in the first 2 or 3 weeks, and was really kicking myself for not making that move sooner.

i'm going through a breakup right now that i'm really having trouble dealing with. i'm very angry at my ex beau right now that i just want to call him up and tell him how hurt i am with him, but i keep telling myself not to, because that will just open other wounds, and i'd probably regret it later.

i guess if he was just some other guy that i hadn't known for a while, it would be easy for me to get over, but we had been friends for like 4 years before we actually hooked up as bf/gf one year and a half ago. It's crazy, you think you really know somebody and they do a complete 360 on you from out of nowhere. It's fucked up....but i know eventually i'll find a way somehow.

i mean i go to the movies, read books and all to try and keep myself busy but at the end of day, my sadness and anger still exists. Sudden memories of what we use to do together pop in my head and makes me want to cry

i just need to find another guy...

missfee said:

the best revenge is living well (or something like that )

A lot of solitude...

Mixed with a lot of talking to a few friends...

And yes, I know that contradicts...

Also, a lot of writing down of thoughts, feelings...no matter what they are...

A lot of crying...

A lot of prayer...

A lot less sleep....

And above all, a lot of reminding myself to respect, honor, value and appreciate this person, our connection, and what they gave of themselves to me.

The success of a relationship should never be determined by longevity...and connections are like matter: they don't disappear, they simply change form.

Lot's of alcohol.


And self loathing.


And fighting.

Come to think of it, it seems I'm still not over it!