I don't get it. With all of the knowledge out there and the many many many people that this has affected, why do people insist on having unsafe sex. In fact just the opposite seems to be encouraged in the gay community.

I am not sure if it's location or just the sign of the times. Sometimes I think it's where I live, as there is a very active gay community here. As well as some misguided individuals who think AIDS is a lie of the Govt. I just found out an ex-coworker is HIV pos and is going at life with a "I need to have as much unprotected sex as I can" attitude now.

I mean even with all the cocktails...you can still get AIDS so you need to stay healthy. Isn't there a chance of reinfecting yourself...let alone the possibilty of another messed up virus emerging. Let alone all the STD's that have nothing to do with HIV you can get.


How is this trend where you are at?

It's disgusting, it really is. These kind of things make me sick.

I have a gay friend who told me once. 'You don't know shit, you're hetero'...

I thought that was just plain dumb. I never had any unprotected sex in my life, not until both partners were tested.

People that don't want to use condoms when they know it's not 100% safe?

You are right... same out here..... I can tell you that safe sex just does not appeal to me..... In fact if it is being done right (in many ways) being safe it simply isn't being done right... I'll leave that to the imagination.....
Therefore, on a a personal level I have selected celibacy.... NEVER did I think I would take this path... but I don't want to die and I don't want to compromise so I will wait until I find that person that is mine to have not just mine to hold and we will test and wait..... and well, somebody is gonna get hurt....

Muse2NOPharaoh said:

It may be a West Coast thing. I didn't experience this type of behavior in the Mid West.

Muse2NOPharaoh said:

Same here. I just can't risk it. I figure if he's for me, he'll wait and keep himself clean.

superspaceboy said:

Which part?

Muse2NOPharaoh said:

I'm from Chicago and now live in San Francisco. I recall that when I first moved here there was this group called ACT UP! San Francisco. I was like Cool ACT UP is out here too. And then I read thier flyer about AIDS being a lie and all this other stuff that I thought was true that now apparently "was not". I was like How can this be? Act Up were the biggest advocates to getting any kind of funding or knowledge out there regarding HIV and AIDS...and now they were saying the exact opposite. I found out that this is a VERY different group than the one I was accustomed to...in fact these were a very misled bunch of people.

But this mentality seems to have permiated the gay community out here. WHere folks WANT to have unprotected sex with anyone. In fact the more riskier the better.

What's this all about?

Muse2NOPharaoh said:

superspaceboy said:

Fully understood... The man I was last with (There havent been many) ((irrelevant but I want to state it)) anyway, he too thought the aids epidemic was a farce..... but funny, we both tested after our all night adventure... ( 6 months after the fact) It was a wake up call for me.... Having known some who have died from it..... I do not understand in the least where the hell such wise folk have sought to reduce themselves to such ignorance...naybe until you have seen someone cut down in youth and watched them waste away to sans nothing you just can't grip a fact.....

REDFEATHERS said:

I still can't believe people do this. It absolutely amazes me. There's no way in hell I would have unprotected sex. I have a friend who was dating a doctor and she had to fight with HIM to use a condom - and this man was a doctor?!

Its scary. When I left home and went to art college I worked in an Italian restaurant at the weekends, and got friendly with that crowd. I met a guy, Eduardo, he was lovely, so sweet, and friendly. I was only 19 and had only one sexual encounter before that, in my home town - safe sex.

I was dancing with this guy - no way did I fancy him, no way was it going that way, we were just friends. Funny though, the chef, ran to my house, knocked on the door and told me this guy had full blown aids.

He was concerned and told me to be careful. Sweet as it was, it was never an intention or on the cards to even go there, we were just friends.

What I am trying to say is, that was 1989, along time ago.. but it was my first encounter with someone who so unfortunately had contracted this disease.
Its scary, and unsafe sex is scary too.
Many people take risks. Sometimes I wish we were back in the 50s when there was no aids, or hiv, or it wasnt known back then, cos those condoms can be a bastard, but they are a life saver, and its better to be safe than sorry

And I mean to add that I don't mean any disrespect for the Gay community or my brothers or sisters inflicted with HIV.

Just as someone who grew up and came out in the 90's...with it beat over our head every day on the dangers of unprotected sex and now it seems that there is a 180 turn on it all.

Just trying to figure it out.

It happens a lot in the South Bay, trust me. Safe sex is just something to get used to.


M

I'm in an 11 year monogamous relationship and we bareback, but only because it's safe for us. If I were single, and I was at one time , it would be safe sex all the way.

MIGUELGOMEZ said:

It is. Certainly. But where does this Devil may care attitude come from? Is that we have been sexually repressed for 2 decades now and it's just the steam coming out of the Kettle?

DarthTater said:

Understood. My partner and I no longer use condoms...but we've been together for over 5 years and aren't "open" in our relationship.

superspaceboy said:

There are many factors. People live in dreamworlds. Some young people feel invincible. Some older people may just think what-the-heck.


m

superspaceboy said:

As it should be.

I have no clue what barebacking means. Can somebody describe it in detail?

FlushofmyFlush said:

Go to your friendly nieghborhood porn-shop & pick-up " Bareback Mountin' ".
That should help.

FlushofmyFlush said:

You couldn't figure it out by reading the thread?

condoms suck

i always lock my doors and wear a helmet and kneepads before doing it.

Why not call it 'baredicktrend' ?

FlushofmyFlush said:

Anal sex without a condom.


m

Eww , i thought it was just sex without a condom

Dewrede said:

You're probably right. I only know that term in the context of gay lexicon.


M

I don't know really , English isn't my native language