Met a guy last weekend...we had a good time. He stayed over but nothing happened and the next morning he asked me THREE times for my number before I remembered to give it to him - he put it in his palm pilot. And wouldn't you know, he hasn't called!

What's the point of asking if you are not going to call? My rejection wound wound have passed quicker if he would have just left w/o asking at all.

Don't let it get to you. Forget him and move on as it is obvious he is not interested.

He put it in his palm pilot, eh? Mr Romantic...

He probably wanted to keep you as an option ("Hmm, I'll put her under 'Possibles' in the 'One Nighter' folder...") but then another day started and something else came along. I'm sure he didn't think for a minute about how you felt or what you might have expected when you gave the number.

...or he might have been robbed of his belongings and is now desperately trying to locate your number. That's what's so bad about the situation; you simply won't know. And that's why I think phone numbers should never be given away from one person to another, but exchanged between both of them. Then at least you have a chance to check what's going on if you really feel like it.

retina said:

very well put.

what a wanker , its his loss

He has trouble seprating the idealization of the social persona he creates when going out on the town and the reality of his naked soul. He's afraid just because he "scored" in getting your phone number, and this bloated his deflating ego, he fears the great let down and damage on his ego by his sure enough rejection by you of him.

MickG said:

you know, sometimes it's just so hard to figure out all those numbers after a heavy night in the dating-zone looking for some sacktime.....

or maybe that guy was spats.....

and if it was spats.....maybe he doesn't know how to use the phone!


I'm sorry.....

He asked for the number 3 times before you remembered to give it to him?? Maybe he was insulted by that. I would be.

I don't ask for numbers anymore. I wait for the woman to offer it up. If she doesn't then i take it that she is not interested.

I used to ask for numbers an not call though.

Spats said:

Well the first time I spilled my bottle of water everywhere. The seocnd time my roommate came out and started talking to us. The third time worked.

purplegypsy said:

he probably lost interest when you didn't 'put out'.

beret1022 said:

Then why would he ask for her number after the fact? I don't get it

its all just mind games. i wouldnt worry about it. don't waste your time.

brownsugar said:

right.

Janfriend said:

Yeah, me neither.

I'm sorry, I'll call soon.

Guys do it to make women feel good aboout themselves.

Not me....


if they want to speak to me, they can reach me on my pager....and then I'll decide whether I return the call, but only if they're hot enough.....

JesusQuintana said:

On the other hand maybe he will still call. A lot of guys (me included) don't call right away because you don't want to scare the woman off or make her think you like her too much. Maybe he will still call.

Spats said:

an almost-decent post from you!!

It's true. One time i didn't call a girl back until a month later. Told her i lost her number. This girl i met a couple months ago gave me her email address. Waited a couple weeks then emailed her. So there is still a chance he will call.

Face it most guys are complete lying cunts

See, I say this all the time. If she had asked for his number instead of waiting for him to do it she would have his number now and there would not be a problem. Women have to start making the move.

Spats said:

Why? So men can think we are easy?

If you think women look easy if they do that when what does it look like if the guy is asking for it?

Women don't realize it but Men find it a huge turn on when the women do stuff like that.

Spats said:

C'mon everyone knows most guys are easy , thats a given . And yes , I do agree that alot of men get seriously turned on when a woman takes charge

Im not agreeing with you though , you have issues meeester

You are agreeing. You just said so.

OK so I just contradicted myself