Yes, but you want him to do that to soften her up. That's ass kissing. Women want and expect compliments. I Female friends and have met women who have admitted they want and expect men to do it.

Spats said:

It's not about "softening someone up". It's about showing interest in a person beyond friendship. And once again, don't generalize for every single woman.

evenstar3 said:

evenstar3: a question for you. Do you like smashing your head against a brick wall? That's what you are doing now. Trying to reach spats is like

MickG said:

i know. i'm packing to go home for winter break and it's an amusing distraction to see an ignorant, negative person try to defend their beliefs.

Mick, you have said that. And Eveningstar. I am not ingnorant about anything. Everything i talk about is from being with women and interacting with them and dating them, etc.

1) spats's comments on this thread are total shit, so they're completely null and void. don't follow his suggestions, unless you want the girl to run away screaming like you've grown a 2nd head.

2) have you made friends with the girl? if not, i suggest you try and start out by getting to know her first before dropping the hint that you've got a crush on her. that, or if you feel really bold, just tell her that you like her a lot.

How are my suggestions to play it cool, don't approach, and find out from someone if she likes him bad??? How will that have her screamimg. I am just looking out for the guy and trying to get him to do the safest thing so he won''t get burned.

evenstar3 said:

Cool, you're one of the few. Most women I know seem to prefer showy guys, at least when they're young. Maybe it's different with time.

No, women in their 20's and early 30's like showy bad boys over the quiet shy guys as well.

Spats said:

Spats, it is your wide reaching generalities that makes you sound small.

No women varry. People varry. Types Varry. Beauty Varries.

Spats said:

simple: YOU'RE YOU. i wouldn't take none of your suggestions even if they came notarized.

he's not you, obviously. he's still young, so getting burned is indeed a possibility; young love can be fickle. chances are, if the girl were to turn 'im down, most likely purpleworld will come away from it sans tears. live, learn, go on to the next crush that may come his way.

thing with you, on the other hand, is that you're a grown-assed man who still can't handle the concept of date-burnination. like i said: any suggestion from you isn't a good one.

You must not have met as many women as i have.

VoicesCarry said:

I think it's mostly geared towards people's individual personalities. I'm shy, so I like shy guys. If a girl's outgoing, then she'll want an outgoing guy. Whatever works for the individual

Fine, but I think if he goes with the suggestions other people here are giving him he will be burned or put in the "friend Zone" by the girl. (A legendary female move) and he will not be getting anywhere will her in the Friend Zone. I think my way is the safest.

Spats said:

can't always be "safe", now. my god, your dating style's the equivalent of going out in full hockey gear, with a teflon vest and chain mail underneath, rolling around in a large metallic hamster ball.

Spats said:

I really don't think you have met Any women at all. You only meet an ideal of what a "woman" is within your own mind and then broadcast it onto the females you run across in life. Do you understand what I just said?

My secret has always been tight pants.

I have avoided these types of threads for awhile, but here it goes...

I used to be incredibly shy around girls that I liked. Now, I could chatter with the best of 'em to my girl friends (note the space), but when it came to potential relationships, I was petrified.

Then I realized a few things.

Love wouldn't come to me if I simply sat and overanalyzed everything. Somehow, some way I managed to come to the conclusion that there were basically 3 scenarios that could result from asking a girl out...

1. She says yes.

2. She politely says no. That may be tough to handle, but for me, anything was better than the agony of not knowing and wallowing in dejected anticipation. If she's not interested, the sooner you find out, the sooner you are able to move on.

3. She rudely says no. If that's the case, she obviously wasn't worth your time anyway.

Of course, this new outlook took its time in materializing in my head. And it may not be your best approach. I'm really not in any position to be "giving advice" as I'm no expert, but I thought I'd share what I've experienced.

Moonbeam said:

That is probably the best advice given on this thread. One of my biggest fear is that she'll say no, but in a mean way. The sooner I get over this fear the better of i'll be.

purpleworld said:

you're right, that is the best advice. just remember, if she says no in a mean way, then she's not worth it. no one deserves to be treated like that . . .




. . . . except maybe spats.

purpleworld said:

I'm glad it seems helpful!

Spats said:

you know ALLLLL the girls in their 20's and early 30's ?

i think you come here just to get on folks nerves, cuz you do it so well

Handclapsfingasnapz said:

BA-ZING!!!

Unabashed truth is a beautiful thing to see.

Moonbeam forgot one...

4. Let her approach you. As usual everybody wants the guy to do the approaching.

And Mick you are in no position to talk down to me when you cannot spell simple words.

"Classiphy".

Spats said:

He is in every position to talk to you on this one, he has a beautiful wife and a succesful relationship.....you have your right hand or as we would say in England "you are stuck with a pot noodle and a wank"

Handclapsfingasnapz said:

MickG said:

Wow, that sounds about right.

And i'm sure Mick spells "right" as "rite".

Post a pic of your wife Mick. Let's see how beautiful she is.

Spats said:

why in the world should he post a pic when you won't do the same? and don't give me any bull***t about not knowing how to do it. that is the biggest load of crap i've ever heard, especially when there are plenty of orgers willing to help you out with that part if only to hear you shut the hell up!!

so, posting pics . . . you first!!