applekisses said:

Even if an ugly person asks you if they're ugly? Or if you're ditching your barber for a new one?

Ace said:

YES!

Go ahead...tell me that I'm ugly...I can take it!

applekisses said:

No, seriously.

Ace said:

Seriously...I mean it. You should tell people the truth. There are ways to be gentle about it.

1) You're damn fugly

VS

2) You're just not my type

there are different definitions of 'best' when it comes to telling the truth.

yes, theoretically telling the truth is 'best'.

but what about in your job review, when your boss asks you if there's any criticism you'd like to offer to him? do you go ahead and blurt out all the ways in which he fucks up? spout off that list of stuff he should be doing but isn't?

or do you keep your mouth shut and answer 'no.'????

obviously you lie and say 'no' if you want to keep your job.

applekisses said:

What if a friend of yours asks you point-blank, "Am I ugly?". And what about the whole barber thing? What would you say there?

Ace said:

If you thought they were ugly then why would you be their friend?

Barber...well...you could just not say anything...it wouldn't be lying.

applekisses said:

Can't you just answer the question hypothetically?


What if you run into your barber and he says, "Haven't seen you lately? Where you been?".

Ace said:

NO...because it's not realistic. If the person was really, truly your friend, you wouldn't care what he or she looked like because you would see the person inside. It's kind of like how people change the longer you know them...some become more beautiful and some become ugly.




Tell him/her you've been busy working, etc (which you have)...again..not lying.
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applekisses said:

But what if they ask you if they're physically ugly?


But what about my freshly-shorn locks?

CarrieMpls said:

Exactly what I was going to say

Ace said:

If you really liked someone would you think they're physically ugly? Speaking for myself, if like someone enough to be friends with them I wouldn't think of them as being ugly. It's just me.
If you got your hair cut and the barber didn't ask...don't say anything...if he does ask...just tell him yes...it was easier or whatever to go to another place.


That being said...

Do you think I'm ugly?

(can you tell the truth? if not, why? and don't try to spare my feelings...I want to see how you handle this.)

applekisses said:

Of course not! But that's not the same as someone asking me the question who I truly thought was ugly. In that case, I would lie (but also keep in mind that someone would have to have pretty extreme features for me to think they were physically "ugly" - that's an extreme word).

You can be friends with people who you think aren't good looking. I have a few female friends who i don't find attractive.

Spats said:

You're a wonky wee wind-up merchant, aren't you?

Ace said:

But, isn't there something you could say instead that would allow you to tell the truth AND spare their feelings?

Number23 said: