I've been dating an amazing girl for the last month and a half or so and I like her more and more every day. My buddy told me last year not to play games with women, tell them how I feel, etc...so, that's what I've been doing with her. Well, she sent me an email today saying that she really likes me and she thinks that I'm what she wants, but she feels like she has me wrapped around her finger and it's kinda freaking her out. If I feel like making myself look like a douche, I may post her email for all of you to read....I'm going to go home and get plastered.

I hope things turn out okay.

No jokes, this sucks, as I have heard the same line, usually from the ones that you honest to goodness like. Give her space, just let her know you are learning as you go. Don't fucking give up.

jerseykrs said:

That's good advice, except I tried it once and Noel still dumped me.

Not that Dook's going to get

Here's her email...I'm such a fucking twat sometimes....

"Hey, I don’t know if any of that stuff made any sense to you. And Lord knows I don’t want to offend.

Truth be told, last week, I was SERIOUSLY sweating you. I didn’t hear from you/talk to you/see you all week last week. By Friday, I was going CRAZY. You know this. Or do you? I was straight feening.

I think I’ve become the type of person that needs a LOT of space to breathe. Read. Hang out w/ friends. Cook at home. Mess around on the internet. Shop. Watch LOST. Whatevs. And yes, I welcome the affection. I really do. I think I’m an affectionate person as well. But…I dunno. As a friend can I just say: don’t put me in a position to make me feel like I go you. Can you do that? I don’t know. That’s why I say that I’m fucked up. I came from a relationship where the guy was completely aloof and all I wanted was for someone to show me something. And here you are. Right? But man, it just feels like it’s too much of a good thing.
Like chocolate and eating too much of it in a short time. And then getting sick.

Capeche?"

Wrap around her little finger? What she got U pussy whiped. Dont B pussy whiped, whip that pussy.

jerseykrs said:

Seriously, how many times do you and I have the same fucking stories - I think we're the same person.

There were a few things in that email that made no sense.

I don't know. I guess what jerseykrs said was the best way to go about it.

Then again, if she's not open to receiving your affections as much as you desire to give them, then perhaps you can find another chick who is? Showing things like that should be welcomed.

Rinluv said:

But hes in love. Really stunning girls act all nice but they know what to do.

With the girl i (should be) with, all that usual macho bullshit drops. BUT, girls dont often like u to be too sissy like.

As bobby brown would sing "thats the way love is".

ReturnOfDOOK said:

Oh god, the poor dear spelled coppish wrong, maybe it's just because I'm italian.


Listen, seriously, just give her space. Don't sweat her, and when she shows some interest again, just act normal and tell her you missed her.

Then again, don't listen to me, I am single after all.....

ReturnOfDOOK said:

What's your birthday again?!?!?

jerseykrs2 said:

Suck in that gut and turn off the lights. I'll hit it, Chris.

jerseykrs2 said:

June 28th! Same as urs, right?

I don't know why I let this kinda stuff bother me so much - I honestly get way too depressed and I beat myself up. I'm going to go home, drink a 12 pack and piss away my evening. This fucking sucks.

(cringe)

I just had a conversation very recently with my fellow telling him he doesn't pay me enough attention.

ReturnOfDOOK said:

Hey, i know that feeling.


U get butterflies when u even think u see her down the street? I know I do with my love. At least u got a love. My love is going away and yet loves me. Yet to make it easier, she says we should just be good friends. So frustrating.

"To the rest of this world i aint got nothing to prove, dont need to be the best in everything I do, the very best of me, is only given to u"

Man, i suck at poetry and songwriting but gave it to her. Iam so sappy sometimes.
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ReturnOfDOOK said:

jerseykrs2 said:

We seriously are twins.

it sounds like she doesn't know what she wants. She's likes whats shes getting...but it's coming a bit too freely and easy for her...and it's freaking her out.

Why do people do this? If you are getting all you want without having the "challenge", why give up something that feels right. It means that IT IS.

Having your cake and eating it too is a scary thing.

My advice...give her a little bit of space. Tell her you like her and all, but you can't decide for her what she wants.

superspaceboy said:

This is great advice ^

Dook!

IrresistibleB1tch said:

Oh, she's definitely not on the org nor is anyone she knows, etc. I wouldn't post a personal email of hers if she or anyone else that I know would be able to read it.. None of my real-life friends are on the org (which is a good thing) - I think a lot of you know more about me than even some of my closest friends. That's why I feel cool about posting "real-life" issues, etc cause there are always good org friends out there who give excellent advice (just got an org note from one of my fav's a minute ago!)...

Oh, and thanks for the wishing of good luck - I seriously do appreciate it...

i hope you get it sorted out sweetie you seemed so happy about it....


but, if shes not the one... you will definately find the one soon enough, good guys like you dont stay around long

superspaceboy said:

I totally hear where you're coming from. My best friend told me to just be straight up and honest with girls - if they like it, cool. If not, then maybe they're not the one. I guess I don't need games - like you said, if it feels right, why doubt it? We get along so well, we laugh, we really connect... I dunno - I guess sometimes I let my emotions get the best of me

nakedpianoplayer said:

I stayed around for 3 years before this girl.

nakedpianoplayer said:

I guess I must be an asshole.

ReturnOfDOOK said:

Excellent advice. ALways be honest. Not brutally so...but genuinely so. It's not necssa that they are not the one...it's just that they don't know that they WANT an honest guy...until they get an unhonest one.

You're a great guy Dook. We all know this...though we all give you shit. Girls are looking for you...you just may not have met them yet.

Ah, you're whipped. This wouldn't be why you're all up in church these days, eh?

Lammastide said:

She's the one I went to church with.