I was thinkin' about this 4 a while. Let's say U have a girlfriend ect, U engage in phone sex with another person, would that would that B considered cheatin'. I dont know cuz Ur not actually havin' intercourse with that particular person. On the other hand U R sharin' some sort of passion, sensuality. I think that phone sex is major part of Ur imagination and how U make it out 2 B and how U want it in Ur mind. U cant C the person but U can hear the orgasm and lustful breathin', dirty talk or whatever. Whether U know what the person looks like or not, that's why I'm askin' this question. I'm talkin out of...Uh.curiousity. What do ya'll think, is Phone sex cheatin' or not.

Thank U.
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Rinluv said:

well i would put myself in this situation..if I found out that my boyfriend was having phone sex with another woman, then hell yes I would be mad, thats something he could be doing with me!!! So in a way it is cheating, even though nothing physical is going on, but thats just like if your spouse/bf or gf goes out with the opposite sex on a date, yet they aren't having sex..wouldn't that be cheating?

Not if the phone wears a condom.

Rinluv said:

Yes, it would be considered cheating, at least to me anyways.

I'd have to go ahead and say yes.

I would say any actions, verbally or physically, or even typing out shit (cyber sex) which constitute to being in any way sexual with another person is cheating.

But, you know, I'm old-fashioned.

Edit: If all of this is in fact done while you are in a committed relationship with another person.
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2the9s said:

And respect you in the morning.....

yes

Nero said:

Yep

I think it is. And I think it's important in a relationship to define "what" you are, i.e., committed or dating around or whatever. That way neither of you can claim you didn't know....

luv4u said:

Damn right!

AnotherLoverToo said:

Hi Lover.

2the9s said:

Call me and let's do this over the phone, that way it won't be cheating!

AnotherLoverToo said:

Can I call collect?

2teh9s said:

We certainly couldn't call it erect.

Imago777 said:

Can you feel me now?

yes...
but phone sex is fun...
but that's besides the point...
it's wrong if you're with someone else...
i consider it cheating, yes...

2teh9s said:

SammiJ said:

What if the person on the other line is a recorded voice, or an ip-forwarding operator from the phone company who really doesn't want to participate?

Imago777 said:

then u r most likely single 2 begin with
so u haven't a problem dan

stop worrying, you're in the green

luv4u said:

So is this cheating?

I would say that phone sex is definitely cheating IMHO. Not sure about flirting online. I guess it depends what your intentions are and what the relationship is between the two people doing said flirting. If it's understood by both parties that it's in no way genuine intent or desire to have physical relations then I don't think it's really cheating.

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Fauxie said:

Just call me a home wrecker.

Imago777 said:

I was gonna say! That would make you my mistress.

By the way, I'm cool with you getting your rocks off to recorded messages.

Imago777 said:

Yeah, or what if the person on the other end is gay and would never have sex with you anyway, is it still cheating?
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Yeah, or what if it's real sex but they're crap in bed and you don't really enjoy it. Is it cheating?

missfee said:

but what constitutes a "date"? I think those lines are fuzzier than for phone sex.

Natsume said:

Yeah, I mean what if on this "date" you snuck off and had phone sex with your wife?

2teh9s said:

But what if you were deaf and you were signing your phone sex via ASL with a hearing person--would it be cheating?

What if you discovered they had more than you bargained for and you ended up running out into the rainy Bangkok night crying and frantically scrubbing and scratching at your hands trying to rid yourself of the dirty, dirty feeling? Is that still cheating?

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Fauxie said: