Have you ever had someone just write you off completely ?
Like you never mattered at all ?

I wish some people would.....

Lots of times. It used to be more of a rule than an exception. As I get older I seem to acquire friends that are a lot closer and more mature though. I'm really happy for that since some of the "break-ups" of yesteryear have taken an emotional toll that I can still feel.

We all do whatever we feel we need to do to protect ourselves.

JoeyMFinCoco said:

I totally agree Joey..


bye bye

Dropped like a bad habit

Have you ever had someone just write you off completely ?
Like you never mattered at all ?


yes and it pisses me off



We all do whatever we feel we need to do to protect ourselves.

yes very true.

Yeah...it causes a helluva lot of hurt and confusion to experience that.

If you truly did effect them, though, you'll usually reconnect at some point...

Byron said:

You saw the future on this one.

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Yes. It hurts.

In most of the situations I can honestly say it was their loss (and they came to know it). In at least one, I can honestly say I deserved it.
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Byron said:

hopyfully you're right.
It is probably one of the most painful things, if you're attached to that person.

Yes.

Being dropped or dumped abruptly & totally hurts no matter what the circumstance but it really stings when it's done by somebody you were friends (or more) with for a long time and with whom you (thought you) shared a special connection or relationship.

I realize that people sometimes have to move on for whatever reason, but it's confusing and deeply hurtful when the person doing the dropping doesn't seem to care or respect the other person enough to at least discuss with them why they are ending the relationship. Makes the dropee feel like they never actually ever did matter much to the other person, if they could be discarded that easily. It can take a long time to heal from that.

That's my experience, anyway.

Be careful when you speak your truth, for it may not be the truth of everyone else.
Make room in your heart for multiple points of view.

No, usually when I care about someone, it becomes permanent. I don't turn people away. It's a flaw, at times.

Ermm, I can't think of it happening to me, either. Usually people like to take advantage of that stuff.

Luckily only people that don't matter. Never a lover or partner.

Fleshofmyflesh said:

yes.....hurt!

Yes ..it hurts

Yes.

Still dealing with the fallout from a recent "dumping" by someone I'd been friends with for 12 years. Out of nowhere, he was acting like an asshole for about 2 weeks, then he just stopped talking to me altogether, with no explanation. I haven't heard from him since February.

For the longest time I'd thought I'd done something to make him mad, but I've since found out he's done this to everyone. I've heard through the grapevine he spends every waking moment with a new girlfriend who's just like his mother -an emotionally and physically abusive woman. Maybe that has something to do with it....


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MonaBoneJakon said:

meow85 said:

Same here, it's kinda shocking when it happens. Fuckers

Fleshofmyflesh said:

yes, too many times

I've just been sent this:


A man and his dog were walking along a road. The man was enjoying the scenery, when it suddenly occurred to him that he was dead. He remembered dying, and that the dog walking beside him had been dead for years. He wondered where the road was leading them.

After a while, they came to a high, white stone wall along one side of the road. It looked like fine marble. At the top of a long hill it was broken by a tall arch that glowed in the sunlight. When he was standing before it he saw a magnificent gate in the arch that looked like Mother of Pearl, and the street that led to the gate looked like pure gold. He and the dog walked toward the gate, and as he got closer, he saw a man at a desk to one side. When he was close enough, he called out, "Excuse me, where are we?" "This is Heaven, sir," the man answered. "Wow! Would you happen to have some water?" the man asked. Of course, sir. Come right in, and I'll have some ice water brought right up." The man gestured, and the gate began to open. "Can my friend," gesturing toward his dog, "come in, too?" the traveller asked. "I'm sorry, sir, but we don't accept pets."

The man thought a moment and then turned back toward the road and continued the way he had been going with his dog. After another long walk, and at the top of another long hill, he came to a dirt road which led through a farm gate that looked as if it had never been closed. There was no fence. As he approached the gate, he saw a man inside, leaning against a tree and reading a book. "Excuse me!" he called to the reader. "Do you have any water?" "Yeah, sure, there's a pump over there".

The man pointed to a place that couldn't be seen from outside the gate. "Come on in." "How about my friend here?" the traveller gestured to the dog. "There should be a bowl by the pump." They went through the gate, and sure enough, there was an old fashioned hand pump with a bowl beside it. The traveller filled the bowl and took a long drink himself, then he gave some to the dog. When they were full, he and the dog walked back toward the man who was standing by the tree waiting for them. "What do you call this place?" the traveller asked. "This is Heaven," he answered. "Well, that's confusing," the traveller said. "The man down the road said that was Heaven, too." "Oh, you mean the place with the gold street and pearly gates? Nope. That's Hell." "Doesn't it make you mad for them to use your name like that?" "No. I can see how you might think so, but we're just happy that they screen out the folks who'll leave their best friends behind."

Reincarnate said:

Haha! That's great.

SynthiaRose said:

CalhounSq said:

Yep

but i agree with joey

i guess people do whatever they can to protect themselves.

Still hurts though.

EarthAirFireWater said:

p0pstar said:

hey honey I'm sorry I didn't call you last night...what time tonight are you available on your mobile until? I'd really love to talk to you