I'm probably too comfortable for my own good.

charlottegelin said:

The only time I get to be alone is at work actually!

althom said:

You're always surrounded by people on the org, and yet, there's a certain sense of solitude about u. It's like you're always on your own, no matter how many people reply to your posts.

Fauxie said:

Fauxie said:

Really!

Anybody seen Althom today? Don't think he's been online for a couple of weeks now.

we are all a pack of nerds really, who don't see any real people all day, so of course we are going to say we like solitude, we have no choice!

charlottegelin said:

Actually I think there are a couple of fakers here who would go crazy after not having any personal contact with someone for a couple of days.

I absolutely hate being alone I need constant contact with people

BabyGirl said:

Doesn't mean you always have to be naked though. I think you take the being in "contact" with people a bit too literal.

analbolique said:

lol not even close things have been pretty different for me lately

analbolique said:

But it makes you cool and mysterious. I'm going to move to Tibet and live in a cave and eat only yak products.

BabyGirl said:

You can't change who you are little girl...

Mummy

ive actually taken some time off from work to become comfortable with myself...

solitude has become one of the things ive learned to not be embarassed or ashamed of.....

its was a very powerful thing to overcome..

sosgemini said:

wow, I'm at home here

i thought i was the most solo one around

now I see it's a popular trend

I've loved my solitude -- and quietude -- often to a flaw...

* My mother says when I was a baby, they suspected I was autistic, because I rarely wanted to be held, preferring to lay awake, still and silent, for uncomfortable stretches.

* My showers have always taken about 45-60 minutes, unless I have some place to be. (I've pissed my parents, friends and wife off with this over the years.)

* One time, I snuck out of my in-laws' house during a big family holiday and went for a night drive. Apparently, everyone was looking for me, and I was in pretty big trouble when I returned a couple hours later.

* In undergrad, I'd wake up at dawn on weekends, shower, pack some pistacios and beef jerky in my bookbag, and head to the 9th floor of our university library, where I'd hide out reading, drawing, sleeping, writing, listening to music, etc. in some remote cubicle literally until closing time at midnight. I'd get up only to go to the bathroom.

* Before my daughter was born, I used to disappear and just drive aimlessly -- sometimes for entire days. One time, I called in sick to work and just drove aimlessly for hours. I ended up in Canada somewhere, where I bought a Tim Horton sandwich and decided I should return home. Needless to say, my wife was PISSED -- and she's insisted since then that I carry a cell phone.

I don't think I could ever live alone. I'm sure I'd end up some hermit on government assistance. I have, for hours, just sat looking at the wood molding of rooms.

muy confortable, but I've been to jail once and that shit sucked.

I absolutely have to have it on a regular basis. I am shy and an introvert...but I do socialize and hang with my friends. I just know when it's time to hang with myself and ...do it.


Always been that way.

Reading the above, maybe I am autistic.

del
[Edited 5/11/05 21:41pm]

Lammastide said:

hey man..i was the complete opposite..despite hating to live with roommates i always felt i had to be on the go..doing things with other people... i actually felt ashamed when i first started this experiment.."what would the neighbors think....will they worry? will they think ive died?".

then i realized, what the fuck do my neighbors care? and why the fuck do i care what they think....

for some this might seem silly but for me its been life changing..



i worry way too much about what others think of me.

doctamario said:

In a way, I envy you. I've always said I'd love to have had some opportunity to truly live alone. (I did only very briefly in my college dorm as a senior.)

I'm married now, but I honestly suspect that if through some awful circumstance, I ever had to live alone, I'd enjoy it so much that I'd unravel into Greta Garbo-type reclusion... especially now that we can do everything via internet. It'd be me, my computer, my cat, my books and CDs and my pajamas. I'd leave home only for an occassional travel fix.
[Edited 5/12/05 8:24am]

Lammastide said:

Kinda the way I am now. I leave the dorm for exams three times a quarter and food(I try to order it to my room when I have the funds) and soccer. The rest of the time I study in my room, read comics, listen to Prince, and org.

sosgemini said:

Has this experiment been successful?

doctamario said:

Lammastide said:

well, to be honest im not sure yet..what i do know is that i had a mini-dave chappelle moment in my life....way over stressed about my business and where i was in life...lack of self-esteem was taking its toll....so, i bought a bunch of books on various subjects and started reading..writing....and in the process i started to worry about spending too much time alone....i guess i had a lightbulb moment because part of having low self-esteem is that you worry too much about what others think of your actions thus resulting in total inactivity...

so, its gonna be a work in progress...but i now dont give a crap about how being alone....(physically and in life)..so yeah, i guess it is working.

I need time by myself now and then. So yeah,.. very comfortable in solitude. I think it is important that you are able to enjoy time by yourself, rather than always feel the need to be entertained.

And yeah Dex: I have watched you do your own thing...and you certainly have that relaxation over you.

But remember; you can have solitude together aswell. With certain people... who both feel no need to speak just to avoid the "uncomfortable" silence.

Remember? (Gina's front lawn, stars, silence) sigh