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my son got into a fight at school okay this is his story: the boys were playing dodge ball. he hit a boy on the leg and the boy got mad and hit my son in the face so my son hit the boy in the face and the boy charged my son flipped the boy over and started punching him in the face, the teachers broke it up, all they saw was my son punching the boy.
now i'd like the think he didn't start this because he's very quiet and all does is his school work like he's supposed to(he's on the straight A list again). i want to tell him not to fight but i don't want him to be bullied, he's small and since he's quiet, i've seen other boys try to challenge (like men do with eachother  )
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Boys will take care of it on their own.
Bottom line: Let him know you support him. And don't get emotional in front of him--push those feelings deep deep down inside--it'll make all your dealings with the men in your life easier. | |
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How old is your son???
Bullies suck!!!  | |
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talk to your kid about the incident. try to understand why he was angry. try to get him to reason out loud as to why what he did was wrong, or how it could be seen as wrong. if you disapprove, you should let him know that - but also let him know that you understand how he feels, or that you WANT to understand how he feels. there's nothing worse than being angry and nobody validating your anger - it just makes your anger worse, especially if you're a kid and you haven't learned how to deal with being angry. | |
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funkpill said: How old is your son???
Bullies suck!!! he's 10 | |
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heybaby said: okay this is his story: the boys were playing dodge ball. he hit a boy on the leg and the boy got mad and hit my son in the face so my son hit the boy in the face and the boy charged my son flipped the boy over and started punching him in the face, the teachers broke it up, all they saw was my son punching the boy.
now i'd like the think he didn't start this because he's very quiet and all does is his school work like he's supposed to(he's on the straight A list again). i want to tell him not to fight but i don't want him to be bullied, he's small and since he's quiet, i've seen other boys try to challenge (like men do with eachother )
His silence is taken for weakness, but they now know he can hold his own in most circumstances boys will present him with. Tell your son to still be that same calm spirit and only turn into an aggressor when, and ONLY WHEN he is aggressed upon, such as today. Be proud of him and reassure your love. 
whap i looking for a guys point of view of how i should approach this. The man who does not read good books has no advantage over the man who cannot read them. -- Mark Twain.
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His silence is taken for weakness, but they now know he can hold his own in most circumstances boys will present him with. Tell your son to still be that same calm spirit and only turn into an aggressor when, and ONLY WHEN he is aggressed upon, such as today. Be proud of him and reassure your love.
whap The man who does not read good books has no advantage over the man who cannot read them. -- Mark Twain.
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I say just let it go...
If someone hit him I think it's ok he hit back. As far as him being the silent type, all he has to do is kick one kid's ass and they will leave him alone.Then he'll be the strong silent type. 
May sound wrong to say but I deal with kids every damn day. I know I'm right. In spite of the cost of living, it's still popular. |
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Sweeny79 said: I say just let it go...
If someone hit him I think it's ok he hit back. As far as him being the silent type, all he has to do is kick one kid's ass and they will leave him alone.Then he'll be the strong silent type.
May sound wrong to say but I deal with kids every damn day. I know I'm right. OMG, you sound so emotionally unavailable and cold. THATS HAWT!!!! | |
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Sweeny79 said: I say just let it go...
If someone hit him I think it's ok he hit back. As far as him being the silent type, all he has to do is kick one kid's ass and they will leave him alone.Then he'll be the strong silent type.
May sound wrong to say but I deal with kids every damn day. I know I'm right. 
Me too The man who does not read good books has no advantage over the man who cannot read them. -- Mark Twain.
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AsianBomb777 said: Sweeny79 said: I say just let it go...
If someone hit him I think it's ok he hit back. As far as him being the silent type, all he has to do is kick one kid's ass and they will leave him alone.Then he'll be the strong silent type.
May sound wrong to say but I deal with kids every damn day. I know I'm right. OMG, you sound so emotionally unavailable and cold. THATS HAWT!!!! It's not cold! It's true!  In spite of the cost of living, it's still popular. |
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DexMSR said: Sweeny79 said: I say just let it go...
If someone hit him I think it's ok he hit back. As far as him being the silent type, all he has to do is kick one kid's ass and they will leave him alone.Then he'll be the strong silent type.
May sound wrong to say but I deal with kids every damn day. I know I'm right.
Me too You paid attention in the classroom  In spite of the cost of living, it's still popular. |
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Sweeny79 said: DexMSR said:
Me too You paid attention in the classroom I'm a teacher...I have no choice The man who does not read good books has no advantage over the man who cannot read them. -- Mark Twain.
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I agree with Dex. He did the right thing under those circumstances, but getting physical should only be used as self defense and even so it doesn't mean you have to beat the other guy to a bloody pulp. Just til he stops being a threat. Then it's time to back off and walk away. | |
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DexMSR said: Sweeny79 said: You paid attention in the classroom I'm a teacher...I have no choice That was my way of saying "teacher's of the world unite!" I'm one too. Special ed, 3rd grade In spite of the cost of living, it's still popular. |
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Sweeny79 said: DexMSR said: I'm a teacher...I have no choice That was my way of saying "teacher's of the world unite!" I'm one too. Special ed, 3rd grade Whap!! The man who does not read good books has no advantage over the man who cannot read them. -- Mark Twain.
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thanks guys. i hate these types of situations. i just wish that they could just go to school get their education and do what they like in life. | |
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DexMSR said: Sweeny79 said: That was my way of saying "teacher's of the world unite!" I'm one too. Special ed, 3rd grade Whap!!  In spite of the cost of living, it's still popular. |
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eikonoklastes said: I agree with Dex. He did the right thing under those circumstances, but getting physical should only be used as self defense and even so it doesn't mean you have to beat the other guy to a bloody pulp. Just til he stops being a threat. Then it's time to back off and walk away.
Whap!!!  The man who does not read good books has no advantage over the man who cannot read them. -- Mark Twain.
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heybaby said: thanks guys. i hate these types of situations. i just wish that they could just go to school get their education and do what they like in life.
This type of stuff is an education. One that's just as, if not more important than, what they learn in books. In spite of the cost of living, it's still popular. |
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Sweeny79 said: DexMSR said: I'm a teacher...I have no choice That was my way of saying "teacher's of the world unite!" I'm one too. Special ed, 3rd grade I didn't know it was special ed you taught, do you throw clumps of red stuff at the poor kids? Now I'm older than movies, Now I'm wiser than dreams, And I know who's there
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paintsprayer said: Sweeny79 said: That was my way of saying "teacher's of the world unite!" I'm one too. Special ed, 3rd grade I didn't know it was special ed you taught, do you throw clumps of red stuff at the poor kids? Only on Thursdays. In spite of the cost of living, it's still popular. |
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Sweeny79 said: paintsprayer said: I didn't know it was special ed you taught, do you throw clumps of red stuff at the poor kids? Only on Thursdays. you evil evil people Now I'm older than movies, Now I'm wiser than dreams, And I know who's there
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i thought the thread read, my son got into flight school.  :withholdingcongratulation:[Edited 4/12/05 17:20pm] | |
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paintsprayer said: Sweeny79 said: Only on Thursdays. you evil evil people Only on Tuesdays and Thursdays. In spite of the cost of living, it's still popular. |
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Sweeny79 said: paintsprayer said: you evil evil people Only on Tuesdays and Thursdays. You do it all the fucking time don't you don't you!! Oh my dear God those chidren, those poor children [Edited 4/12/05 16:34pm] Now I'm older than movies, Now I'm wiser than dreams, And I know who's there
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paintsprayer said: Sweeny79 said: Only on Tuesdays and Thursdays. You do it all the fucking time don't you don't you!! Oh my dear God those chidren, those poor children [Edited 4/12/05 16:34pm]  In spite of the cost of living, it's still popular. |
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Sweeny79 said: paintsprayer said: You do it all the fucking time don't you don't you!! Oh my dear God those chidren, those poor children [Edited 4/12/05 16:34pm]  Now I'm older than movies, Now I'm wiser than dreams, And I know who's there
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eikonoklastes said: I agree with Dex. He did the right thing under those circumstances, but getting physical should only be used as self defense and even so it doesn't mean you have to beat the other guy to a bloody pulp. Just til he stops being a threat. Then it's time to back off and walk away.
I'm with dex and joey too. Good advise. When I read about the evils of drinking, I gave up reading. | |
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