on Sunday. It's been great so far and it's nice to come home to him every day, but I'm worried that the honeymoon'll get old real fast and we're gonna be miserable! I dunno, it's good and then it's bad. One minute, we're decorating the place and cooking together, and the next we're arguing about money (already!).

This is the first time I'm living "on my own" and I'd like some advice from any of you guys and some stories about when you moved in with a significant other. Did it work out? Are you still together? How did you make it last?

Eeewwwww! Arguing about money already? That is a bad sign. Maybe sit down and do a budget together would help. I hope money is not his god. Good luck.

Go into this move with your eyes open.

I think when you live with any one it's hard at first..There will be disagreements.But that doesn't mean the relationship is going to fail. I think as long as you 2 keep talking and leave the lines of communication open you should be fine.. Don't take things to serious and have fun

Just remeber that you were friends first. ( i hope ) Don't forget about yourself as an individual. And never go to bed angry. That would be my anyway. What do I know...nobody loves me!!!



You'll be fine.

luv4u said:

Yep. Already. Actually, the budget was where the argument began. This morning I started to put together a budget with him and included all of our expenses so I could see what kinda money we're working with together and what we'll have left over for anything else we want and what we can also save together. Tonight, we're gonna go over things again when we can relax. I should've never brought it up while we were both leaving for work in an hour!

I hope your honeymoon period will last longer than mine did

I moved in with my boyfriend in mid-december and last night, we had an argument (One of many), and I packed my bags.

I didn't leave though, we are working through it.

My advice to you is to give each other space. It sucks to have someone in your face all day. And also, don't nag each other as soon as you see them.

Best of luck

Smooches;)

Lucky guy.

the worst thing you can fight about is finances, it really should be discussed before you move in together, i have found that out the hard way

But later tonight or over the course of the weekend, make a budget, calm and everyone has to come to the table open minded


Good luck and I hope all goes well

Thanks you guys.

ReturnOfDOOK said:

Totally.


Can be good. Can be bad. My biggest issue is that I'm finally moving into a period of my life where I care about order and cleanliness, but I live with 2 other people in 750sf who aren't necessarily on board with me there, and it's frustrating. I've been fantasizing about having my own place.

But there is something so marvelous about climbing into bed every night with a loved one, sharing little day-to-day stuff. . .

It's a mixed bag.

Label EVERYTHING.

Otherwise your stuff will be stole.

tackam said:

I'm loving all of the little stuff! I get home from work later than he does, so whenever I'm in the car after I get done, he calls to remind me to be careful. Last night when he called, without even thinking about it, I said "I'll be home soon." It was the first time I ever referred to anything than the house I grew up in "home". Strange, but it felt nice.

2the9s said:

especially the food in the frig!

It's rather funny to read a thread like this at this very moment. Me and my boyfriend are living together since August, and yes, it's a very mixed bag. I love it to have a place that I can call my home, and that 'we' belong to this place. Still, we have our arguments. This morning, just before he left, he ordere me to 'clean the bathroom' today. I'm home these days, studying for my exams, and I really don't need someone to tell me what to do, since I've been cooking about 4 out of 5 meals since August and being as neat as I've never been before. Anyway, he's Portuguese, and sometimes it's hard to discern an individual quarrel from a 'socially constructed' quarrel. It's very hard sometimes, as he is very stubborn and I'm am very proud... But I wouldn't want to live with someone else, and he neither, so we try to talk everything out... (alos financial stuff yes).

(he tried to call me 12 times after he left for work, to say he felt sorry, but my phone was without sound. He thought I had left him and he came walking in an hour ago, crying and very upset, to find me here, safe and calm. So we made love and now he left again. Everything is fine and I will clean the bathroom today )

I think it's very important to choose the right moment to talk, and to leave the other one alone for a while when you feel he needs a moment on his own. Just take care of all the tender lovefeelings, let them help to cure other things, and TALK! Of course, this sounds very reasonable, but it's not always that simple to do it...

And oh yes, I do love my man !

MarieLouise said:

He thought you left him over the bathroom thing???

That's alarming yet adorable @ the same time

CalhounSq said:

Yes, did I tell you he gets upset very easily?
OOps I mean

That's what I find the most annoying (and sweet) about it all, that he's so afraid that I will leave or betray him. He just doesn't get it that I don't have anything on my mind like that... I want to have kids with this beautiful, tall, sweet, loving, crazy man !

I think it would be difficult to go from "living with parents" to "living w/significant other" with no "living single" in between, to sorta learn how to take care of shit yourself.

CinisterCee said:

That's very true. I've lived on my own for 5 years, although I went home during the weekends, but still... I know how to deal with it, and I didn't know that when I was 18..

Chico1 said:

my advice: WHATEVER you do....DO NOT think you can change him. you know, make him a better man or a more rounded person. he may already be.

we men are men and we are going to stay the way we are forever. we pick our noses, clip our toenails in bed and even use our finger to take the wax out of our ears every now and then.

he has to learn to live with your "thing" too.

Lived with my boyfriend for three years. It was okay, until we broke up of course. The worst thing? When we first moved in together, I couldn't stand to spoon for long, I would get hot and move over. I got so used to spooning that when he was gone, it would take me so long to fall asleep.

Long as you can roll hard with a fat ass and a head full of rollers...

OK, I've been listening to JAdakiss all day...

I'm not making sense...leaving now

get your own bank account. a woman always needs her own money.

amcam said:

I miss the spoonage too

CinisterCee said:

Very true...one needs that time to grow and learn.
I lived on my own for a month after leaving home then 3 ladies from school begged me to move in with them. I moved out 6 months later...but Velvet will be fine.

CinisterCee said:

Which is what I did. Actually, my husband moved in with my family before we were married, and then we moved out together. I've never lived by myself, and while I'm not sure I'd really like it, I do feel like I'm missing something by having never experienced it.

tackam said:

Well to be fair, I think I would rather miss out on "Living Single" than "living w/significant other".

CinisterCee said:

I was thinking the same thing when I was reading this. I, too, think it's a good idea to truly learn to manage your own shit before doing the "live w/significant other" thing. I eventually broke up with my last girlfriend, but it wasn't due to any issues we had while living with one another. We had both lived in places of our own prior to living together, and I honestly think those experiences helped us.

Good luck, though. He is a lucky guy, and I'm sure you'll work things out.