i recieved a copy of that book HES JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU for christmas... i know what you guys are up to now (the slime that you are)


so beware... im watching you

OPRAH! OPRAH!

irresistibleb1tch said:

the book is GREAT. its fun reading, insightful, and i will read it until the ink wears off the pages.. maybe then i will understand why men act the way they do

nakedpianoplayer said:

The book is for THICK women...
Common. Everything in there is OBVIOUS.
Jeez.
Oprah watchers need to have it spelled out.

I actually have this book. But it was a silly one for me to pick up as I tend to have the opposite problem. I always assume he's just not into me.

CarrieMpls said:

OPRAH! OPRAH!

LoL

HamsterHuey said:

you are so right.. i let men get away with WAY TO MUCH !! thats why im reading the book smarty pants

HamsterHuey said:

nakedpianoplayer said:

Note to self; find book that tells me not to let men walk all over me.

Note to self; find the meaning of the DOH expression.

HamsterHuey said:

note to self; HH may not be very nice

nakedpianoplayer said:

Note to NPP; NPP must find the thin line between tease and haha.

HamsterHuey said:

note to HH; i'm loving playing with you... thats why im following you around, now, get back to playing

Good thing I'm a man, then...

Byron said:

yes, you are so right, women are MUCH easier to deal with

You'll forgive us.

You always do.

And by the time your wise to our game, we've normally moved on to younger fish.

AsianBomb777 said:

see.. total slime

nakedpianoplayer said:

Well, I meant "man" as in, "not a boy"...lol...but that'll work, too.

AsianBomb777 said:

Byron said:

oh, i get it.. sorry

AsianBomb777 said:

trailertrash said:

Hey hey Hey.
Don't hate me for it.

It's not that I think that it's good and right. Just more often than not, it's true.

Most women seem to lack common sense, so yeah, it might be helpful to those people. I would find it rather insulting if someone with lack of common sense and average or below average intelligence would try to analyze me based on what they've read in a cheap, not so scientific book that wouldn't even deserve a paperback edition.

AsianBomb777 said:

JoweeCoco said:

Most? generalizing, just like the people who wrote the book.

CarrieMpls said:

I have both problems. I think the people who are into me aren't, and the people who aren't have to practically beat me over the head with that fact.

I'm so fucked up.

AsianBomb777 said:

That's so fucking depressing and so probably true.


I just became a lesbian. Just now. Any takers? Not that I'll BELIEVE you. . .

HamsterHuey said:

EVERY
BODY
GETS A
CAAAAAR!!!!!






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I have not read this book yet alone heard of it, so my answer is not objective. However, I can imagine it makes some pretty sweeping patronising generalisations about the sexes and relationships. True, men and (women) should think "Hey, I'm worth more than this and I'm not going to settle for less'. However, that is all very well and good, but it really goes beyond relationships. To some extent, we have to work hard (and, as an unfortunate side effect, suffer) for everything in life - jobs, material possessions, etc - and when love or money or other things we want don't come to us, it's easier emotionally to justify and/or make excuses as to why we're not getting what we feel we deserve when we want it. Whether it's the attention of a man (or woman) or a promotion at work, I can imagine quite patronisingly and in no uncertain terms that this book tells YOU are the only one who will suffer if you continue to cling to something that wasn't meant to be.

Common sense tells us that life is too short to pine for things that aren't meant to happen. Who knows how many great things pass us by because we're too busy worrying about getting something or someone that just wasn't meant to be. But then why would anyone need the help of just one guy to tell us that? Men, women and life is much, much more complex than that! Why should one man tell women what to do and define the rules to the game? Good grief!

I guess what the author argues is to some extent true but it is not the ONLY truth. I just think we all know deep down inside when someone doesn't really like or respect us, that's just plain common sense...or at least it should be!

Such a book suggests of the myth that men have far more of the power when it comes to relationships. Come on, we are now in the 21s century! Why should NEVER call a man or ask any man out first?!It's only two to three hours of time spent with someone socially not a life sentence!If some man feels intimidated because a woman is being pro-active when it comes to meeting her needs for a social and/or romantic life, then who needs that kind of man?

Personally, I think no matter who you are reality of dating and relationships is that time and tide wait for no one! Sometimes one has to seize the opportunity when in front of them! A shy person reading this book won't help when someone else who is considerably bolder could come around and snatch the man you want right out from under you!

Let's face it, if some women and men didn't take the initiative in their love lives, they would be dateless (and mateless) for years and years! Besides, this idea of waiting around for the man to always call you first or ask you out on a date first sounds far too much like being a hapless spider having to settle for whatever falls into your web!

If you took the same attitude toward getting a job or finding a place to live, just imagine how awful that would be! You wouldn't give up your power and choices in those areas, so why should the men always be allowed to call the shots without any concern about what your wants and needs may be? Hey, it's your life...do what you want. Part of being a human is deciding for YOURSELF what works for you and what doesn't!

Naturally, no one likes to be hurt, but part of finding love is taking risks where rejection is concerned. Sometimes you just have to go for broke. In the dating scene you have to sometimes take chances and just learn not to take rejection personally.

Such book I find are an insult to both of the sexes in their sweeping generalisations as are TV programmes such as 'Sex and the City'. There is more than one way to conduct a relationship and you have to find what is right for you and your partner.
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nakedpianoplayer said:

I'm an angel and a prick,,,,,there, I said it.