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intelligent women less likely to marry So I called in a personal holiday today cause I just didn't feel like going in to work and I'm watching some silly afternoon news program and there's a short story on a study that was done corrolating a woman's IQ to her likelihood to get married. Apparently, the higher the IQ, the less likely she will get married.
They go on to say, it's the opposite for men. What does this say about marriage? About men and women? I'm tempted to say it shows the smarter the woman, the less likely she is to define herself by a relationship. But where's the romance for the intelligent ladies? Or that it really is true that smart men prefer dim women. But I don't really want to believe that. So maybe it has more with do with marriage than relationships. Smart women know marriage, in general, benefits a man while it tears down a woman. But I know it doesn't always have to be that way...  |
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wow. i am smart!! lol
in my case (and yes...i have had my iq tested, its above average..toot toot) i think its just that i am too smart to settle. i didn't marry the first guy that came along (or the 14th, i know i know!!). i know what i'm worth and i don't feel the need to define myself with a man. i am content with my own company. maybe i'm just intimidating...i don't know. i DO know that Mr. Right (for me) had not yet come along and i'm happy to be by myself until he does.  you're only as old as you feel..............so how old do i feel 
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hmmmm , my female cuz gave me some advice just the other day,....
"Danny u need to start looking for a woman with a higher iq than her bra size "! i dont agree  | |
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danielboon said: hmmmm , my female cuz gave me some advice just the other day,....
"Danny u need to start looking for a woman with a higher iq than her bra size "! i dont agree that would me!i would guess and most who know me would agree my iq aint too high and my bra size is tiny...wait a minute i don't sound too good here do i?flat chested and dumb...maybe i should try get my ex back else there's no hope for me,ahh yes there is i do great massages! you know what whatever it is will wear off in a couple of hours..i hope  | |
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CarrieMpls said: So I called in a personal holiday today cause I just didn't feel like going in to work and I'm watching some silly afternoon news program and there's a short story on a study that was done corrolating a woman's IQ to her likelihood to get married. Apparently, the higher the IQ, the less likely she will get married.
They go on to say, it's the opposite for men. What does this say about marriage? About men and women? I'm tempted to say it shows the smarter the woman, the less likely she is to define herself by a relationship. But where's the romance for the intelligent ladies? Or that it really is true that smart men prefer dim women. But I don't really want to believe that. So maybe it has more with do with marriage than relationships. Smart women know marriage, in general, benefits a man while it tears down a woman. But I know it doesn't always have to be that way... Marry me!  | |
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althom said: CarrieMpls said: So I called in a personal holiday today cause I just didn't feel like going in to work and I'm watching some silly afternoon news program and there's a short story on a study that was done corrolating a woman's IQ to her likelihood to get married. Apparently, the higher the IQ, the less likely she will get married.
They go on to say, it's the opposite for men. What does this say about marriage? About men and women? I'm tempted to say it shows the smarter the woman, the less likely she is to define herself by a relationship. But where's the romance for the intelligent ladies? Or that it really is true that smart men prefer dim women. But I don't really want to believe that. So maybe it has more with do with marriage than relationships. Smart women know marriage, in general, benefits a man while it tears down a woman. But I know it doesn't always have to be that way... Marry me! Oh, oh lovers spat coming up.....Anxietyyyyy!!!!! 
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moderatorThis study is obviously flawed. More accurate statistics have shown that the most intelligent women in the world marry and marry often, always buying their gowns from a certain bridal retailer based in Toronto.  | |
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cammille said: danielboon said: hmmmm , my female cuz gave me some advice just the other day,....
"Danny u need to start looking for a woman with a higher iq than her bra size "! i dont agree that would me!i would guess and most who know me would agree my iq aint too high and my bra size is tiny...wait a minute i don't sound too good here do i?flat chested and dumb...maybe i should try get my ex back else there's no hope for me,ahh yes there is i do great massages! you know what whatever it is will wear off in a couple of hours..i hope your crazy girl ! n' u sound great nothing wrong wi, small,.... oh we wont go there !
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I agree with the survey. Smart,independant, confident women don't need marriage. The proof is there whenever you see women asked why they want to get married or why they married. The reasons are always lame. | |
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Ace said: This study is obviously flawed. More accurate statistics have shown that the most intelligent women in the world marry and marry often, always buying their gowns from a certain bridal retailer based in Toronto.
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Are we including committed long term relationships that are the equivillant of marriage but the couple have not formalised it with a licence and a ceremony?
Or are you saying that smart women dont see the benefit in a long term relationship at all? What about children? I think it is highly desirable (granted not always possible) to have a father and a mother bring up a child. When I read about the evils of drinking, I gave up reading. | |
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CarrieMpls said: So I called in a personal holiday today cause I just didn't feel like going in to work and I'm watching some silly afternoon news program and there's a short story on a study that was done corrolating a woman's IQ to her likelihood to get married. Apparently, the higher the IQ, the less likely she will get married.
They go on to say, it's the opposite for men. What does this say about marriage? About men and women? I'm tempted to say it shows the smarter the woman, the less likely she is to define herself by a relationship. But where's the romance for the intelligent ladies? Or that it really is true that smart men prefer dim women. But I don't really want to believe that. So maybe it has more with do with marriage than relationships. Smart women know marriage, in general, benefits a man while it tears down a woman. But I know it doesn't always have to be that way... Interesting. I suspect that smart women are more likely to have careers that take up a lot of their time, are less likely to want to have kids, and just generally don't see what's in it for them. | |
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tackam said: CarrieMpls said: So I called in a personal holiday today cause I just didn't feel like going in to work and I'm watching some silly afternoon news program and there's a short story on a study that was done corrolating a woman's IQ to her likelihood to get married. Apparently, the higher the IQ, the less likely she will get married.
They go on to say, it's the opposite for men. What does this say about marriage? About men and women? I'm tempted to say it shows the smarter the woman, the less likely she is to define herself by a relationship. But where's the romance for the intelligent ladies? Or that it really is true that smart men prefer dim women. But I don't really want to believe that. So maybe it has more with do with marriage than relationships. Smart women know marriage, in general, benefits a man while it tears down a woman. But I know it doesn't always have to be that way... Interesting. I suspect that smart women are more likely to have careers that take up a lot of their time, are less likely to want to have kids, and just generally don't see what's in it for them. Along that line, I think smart women are more likely to focus on their careers (than other women) b/c that's (likely) been the part of their lives that's been nurtured/encouraged/reinforced by others from when they're very young (their intellect, ambitions & choices) & people tend to lean toward what works for them in their lives. Men aren't the focus - they're great but they're not the be all end all of our lives, making us even more choosy... Kids can wait... the older we get the fewer choices we have of available men, making marriage even more difficult than it already is (finding a suitable partner, someone who's not intimidated by you, your career, your income, your independence). It's a whole cylcle... . [Edited 1/3/05 23:20pm]   I never met you, but I LOVE you & I will forever!! Thank you for being YOU - my little Princey, the best to EVER do it | |
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I think it's a crock.
First u have to ask what the extent of research for this was, and then there's the problem of defining 'smart', which I wouldn't consider an IQ test covers in the slightest. Then there are some of the generalisations that have been made on this thread based on very little at all. "Smart women know marriage, in general, benefits a man while it tears down a woman." Based on what?
"I suspect that smart women are more likely to have careers that take up a lot of their time, are less likely to want to have kids, and just generally don't see what's in it for them." Damn, so smart women aren't making babies. We know women are still overwhelmingly in favour of having babies or the population would be dwindling, so the only conclusion is that smart kids in this current generation owe their intelligence to men? | |
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i think smart women are more likely to use birth control, which is a major preventative to marriage.
also, smart women tend to pursue higher education and after that, careers. marriage can be a good thing for womean, but overwhelmingly it means an extra burden in terms of housework, plus the usual full-time job. things have changed since our mothers' generation, when getting married meant staying home with the kids. now marriage means working full time at a job and working full time in the home. imo there's nothing wrong with defining intimate relationships on one's own terms. it's possible to have a supportive, mutually beneficial long term relationship without 'getting married' | |
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Fauxie said: Damn, so smart women aren't making babies. We know women are still overwhelmingly in favour of having babies or the population would be dwindling, so the only conclusion is that smart kids in this current generation owe their intelligence to men? That same afternoon talk show wants YOU to be a guest next week!  | |
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Spats said: I agree with the survey. Smart,independant, confident women don't need marriage. The proof is there whenever you see women asked why they want to get married or why they married. The reasons are always lame.
love is lame? then again maybe i'm just stupid according to this study. I mean i'm 25 and have been married a total of 5 years since i was 18, oh and i have, 2 kids, must make me more stupid.  | |
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Ace said: This study is obviously flawed. More accurate statistics have shown that the most intelligent women in the world marry and marry often, always buying their gowns from a certain bridal retailer based in Toronto.
lol...so maybe i'm NOT that stupid for being married and having kids? whew....but i didn't buy any fancy gown..certainly not from canada. hm...is htat part of the prerequisite for it?  | |
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Fauxie said: I think it's a crock.
First u have to ask what the extent of research for this was, and then there's the problem of defining 'smart', which I wouldn't consider an IQ test covers in the slightest. Then there are some of the generalisations that have been made on this thread based on very little at all. "Smart women know marriage, in general, benefits a man while it tears down a woman." Based on what?
"I suspect that smart women are more likely to have careers that take up a lot of their time, are less likely to want to have kids, and just generally don't see what's in it for them." Damn, so smart women aren't making babies. We know women are still overwhelmingly in favour of having babies or the population would be dwindling, so the only conclusion is that smart kids in this current generation owe their intelligence to men? i agree with faux!! shit are pigs flying? anyway....i DO agree with the study in that yes smarter women ARE more likely to have longer careers and may feel that they value their career more than homelife. I do also agree that smart women are less likely to get themselves into a belittling relationship etc, and therefore have fewer choices as far as men go...far fewer....but I don't thin kthat makes htem any less likely toget married IN THERIGTH CIRCUMSTANCES.. I do think SOME smart women...as wel las some average women...view marriage as a sort of indentured servitude and balk at the principle of it....I do think that some less intelligent women see very little other redeeming qualities in their future and may be more apt to jump at the first moron that comes into their life...but so can a young an naive, but still SMART, woman. I buy into the statistics...but not y'all's reasoning/explanations therein mostly. Also...smart men are more likely to get married because that's teh accepted quality a husband shoudl have: intelilgence and the ability to provide...well doctors and lawyers are the "ultimo" of marrital prospects in many a mind...and are also on average careers for the mroe intelligent of men, so therefore smart men would be mroe likely to catch a mate just out of that aspect. But I also think more men are intimidated by smart women because many liek to feel superior to them. or at least stronger...and if they feel less intelligent, they may consciously or unconsciously shy away from a more intelligent woman...thus giving the intelligent woman even fewer opportunities TO say yes....and on and on, i've lost my train of thought here  | |
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Fauxie said: Damn, so smart women aren't making babies. We know women are still overwhelmingly in favour of having babies or the population would be dwindling, so the only conclusion is that smart kids in this current generation owe their intelligence to men? that's a very dismal prospectfor the human race if intelligent people aren't reproducing....i think it is true to an extent in that smarter peopel tend to have higher incomes on average due to schooling, and that lower income persons are often left without birthcontrol...and considering the general feeling in our culture today is to jsut fuck fuck and fuck somemore...well you get my drift. | |
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cuntroversial said: Fauxie said: I think it's a crock.
First u have to ask what the extent of research for this was, and then there's the problem of defining 'smart', which I wouldn't consider an IQ test covers in the slightest. Then there are some of the generalisations that have been made on this thread based on very little at all. "Smart women know marriage, in general, benefits a man while it tears down a woman." Based on what?
"I suspect that smart women are more likely to have careers that take up a lot of their time, are less likely to want to have kids, and just generally don't see what's in it for them." Damn, so smart women aren't making babies. We know women are still overwhelmingly in favour of having babies or the population would be dwindling, so the only conclusion is that smart kids in this current generation owe their intelligence to men? i agree with faux!! shit are pigs flying? anyway....i DO agree with the study in that yes smarter women ARE more likely to have longer careers and may feel that they value their career more than homelife. I do also agree that smart women are less likely to get themselves into a belittling relationship etc, and therefore have fewer choices as far as men go...far fewer....but I don't thin kthat makes htem any less likely toget married IN THERIGTH CIRCUMSTANCES.. I do think SOME smart women...as wel las some average women...view marriage as a sort of indentured servitude and balk at the principle of it....I do think that some less intelligent women see very little other redeeming qualities in their future and may be more apt to jump at the first moron that comes into their life...but so can a young an naive, but still SMART, woman. I buy into the statistics...but not y'all's reasoning/explanations therein mostly. Also...smart men are more likely to get married because that's teh accepted quality a husband shoudl have: intelilgence and the ability to provide...well doctors and lawyers are the "ultimo" of marrital prospects in many a mind...and are also on average careers for the mroe intelligent of men, so therefore smart men would be mroe likely to catch a mate just out of that aspect. But I also think more men are intimidated by smart women because many liek to feel superior to them. or at least stronger...and if they feel less intelligent, they may consciously or unconsciously shy away from a more intelligent woman...thus giving the intelligent woman even fewer opportunities TO say yes....and on and on, i've lost my train of thought here 
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XxAxX said: i think smart women are more likely to use birth control, which is a major preventative to marriage.
also, smart women tend to pursue higher education and after that, careers. marriage can be a good thing for womean, but overwhelmingly it means an extra burden in terms of housework, plus the usual full-time job. things have changed since our mothers' generation, when getting married meant staying home with the kids. now marriage means working full time at a job and working full time in the home. imo there's nothing wrong with defining intimate relationships on one's own terms. it's possible to have a supportive, mutually beneficial long term relationship without 'getting married' from most of your posts i've read, xxaxx...i think i'm in love LOL i actually agree with someone on most points! amazing.   | |
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Fauxie said: cuntroversial said: i agree with faux!! shit are pigs flying? anyway....i DO agree with the study in that yes smarter women ARE more likely to have longer careers and may feel that they value their career more than homelife. I do also agree that smart women are less likely to get themselves into a belittling relationship etc, and therefore have fewer choices as far as men go...far fewer....but I don't thin kthat makes htem any less likely toget married IN THERIGTH CIRCUMSTANCES.. I do think SOME smart women...as wel las some average women...view marriage as a sort of indentured servitude and balk at the principle of it....I do think that some less intelligent women see very little other redeeming qualities in their future and may be more apt to jump at the first moron that comes into their life...but so can a young an naive, but still SMART, woman. I buy into the statistics...but not y'all's reasoning/explanations therein mostly. Also...smart men are more likely to get married because that's teh accepted quality a husband shoudl have: intelilgence and the ability to provide...well doctors and lawyers are the "ultimo" of marrital prospects in many a mind...and are also on average careers for the mroe intelligent of men, so therefore smart men would be mroe likely to catch a mate just out of that aspect. But I also think more men are intimidated by smart women because many liek to feel superior to them. or at least stronger...and if they feel less intelligent, they may consciously or unconsciously shy away from a more intelligent woman...thus giving the intelligent woman even fewer opportunities TO say yes....and on and on, i've lost my train of thought here
Just that u agreed with me to some extent was a small miracle. i agree with you far mroe often than i am comfortable with. I must end this  lol | |
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cuntroversial said: Spats said: I agree with the survey. Smart,independant, confident women don't need marriage. The proof is there whenever you see women asked why they want to get married or why they married. The reasons are always lame.
love is lame? then again maybe i'm just stupid according to this study. I mean i'm 25 and have been married a total of 5 years since i was 18, oh and i have, 2 kids, must make me more stupid. Well, exactly. Spat's argument is based on the idea that a brilliant, wonderful woman would not want a soul mate. I don't think this holds up. Certain women might not need a man in their particular life, but I find it hard to believe that women, and people in general, would ever consider a great love a hindrance in their dream of an ideal life. | |
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cuntroversial said: Fauxie said:
Just that u agreed with me to some extent was a small miracle. i agree with you far mroe often than i am comfortable with. I must end this lolYaaaaay! The feeling's mutual, another thing we agree on! 
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Fauxie said: cuntroversial said: love is lame? then again maybe i'm just stupid according to this study. I mean i'm 25 and have been married a total of 5 years since i was 18, oh and i have, 2 kids, must make me more stupid. Well, exactly. Spat's argument is based on the idea that a brilliant, wonderful woman would not want a soul mate. I don't think this holds up. Certain women might not need a man in their particular life, but I find it hard to believe that women, and people in general, would ever consider a great love a hindrance in their dream of an ideal life. awwwww so does that mean you think i'm a brilliant wonderful woman? lol (me-->)  | |
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cuntroversial said: Fauxie said: Well, exactly. Spat's argument is based on the idea that a brilliant, wonderful woman would not want a soul mate. I don't think this holds up. Certain women might not need a man in their particular life, but I find it hard to believe that women, and people in general, would ever consider a great love a hindrance in their dream of an ideal life. awwwww so does that mean you think i'm a brilliant wonderful woman? lol (me-->) You don't want a soulmate? I find that hard to believe. True, it may be hard to find, it may be far-fetched for some. | |
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Fauxie said: cuntroversial said: awwwww so does that mean you think i'm a brilliant wonderful woman? lol (me-->) You don't want a soulmate? I find that hard to believe. True, it may be hard to find, it may be far-fetched for some. nono i have mine you said you did NOT agree that brilliant wonderful women wanted this etc. | |
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cuntroversial said: Fauxie said: You don't want a soulmate? I find that hard to believe. True, it may be hard to find, it may be far-fetched for some. nono i have mine you said you did NOT agree that brilliant wonderful women wanted this etc.No. I didn't agree with Spat's argument. A brilliant women need not be any less brilliant if she also wants to spend her life with the right man for her. This is obvious to you, me and 49% of the people who view this thread. | |
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