Ok all my beloved org brethren, Sweeny is tossing and turning about.....here's why:

Today I saw a co-worker I was involved with last school year, haven't seen or heard from him since the last day of school.


Last school year, we were casually involved but I broke things off with him when it became obvious he wanted more than I was willing to emotionally expend at the time.

Things got a bit rocky in my classroom since he was at the time my assistant, and I was becoming involved with Pill, he swore something was up between Byron and I....Jeez he was really JEALOUS and terrotorial....then things settled down. we learned to stay strictly professional...then of course things backslided a bit...he started flirting making in appropriate comments etc...the we found some common ground and we were pretty cool with eachother, if a bit awkward at times, by the end of June.

Ok as I said i haven't seen this guy all summer....Today i did.

At first the mother fucker tried to walk right past me, like he didn't know me!

Now, sweeny been down THAT road before and I was not gonna have another fool treat me like that so I was REAL friendly, Got in his face and said Hello. Things were cordial and I was happy.....then during a faculty meeting the fucker is staring at me, My friend was even passing me notes saying "when is the boy gonna get over you?"

Later in the day my friend and I saw him again, he was a little more relaxed but strange around me, then he tells us he got engaged over the summer!

I was genuinely happy for him, I wish him nothing but the best and i told him so, He asked about Pill and I... i told him I just got back from visiting him and everything is great, he looks at the floor and says "well that's good" but you can tell he don't mean it, well at least not 100%

Then there is another faculty meeting in the afternoon ... he's all staring a me again!

I ignored it best I could ... then as I was leaving to go home at the end of the day he walks past me and AGAIN tries to ignore me, AGAIN, Sweeny been down that road before and I ain't having it. I got in his face again and said Have a goodnight Mr. , he smiles like I called him out o something said Goodnight and that was it.


This guy was way more into me than I was him, it's the first time in my life I can say that, I've been on the other side of this equation most of my life...but I never acted strange. I wish he wouldn't, Byron says that in a few days he won't be like this and I hope so. I miss him as a friend, he's a fantastic artist, a pretty good musician and we have a lot in common. Even if we just was friends at school I'd be happy.


I do not want to rekindle any romantic/sexual feelings I just want to be cool with him.


So what do I do? Is there anything I can do? Why is this bugging me as I lay my big old head down to sleep?

Should I try to talk to him or should I just avoid the fucker tomorrow?

Show him your love bites and torn stockings, that ought to cheer him up.

Thanks hon but I don't think that will help the situation much

Sweeny, we should have coffee. We'll talk.

avoid the situation, somethings only get worse when you try to mix past with present, TRUST ME on that one good luck on it....

Case said:

Lets....

nakedpianoplayer said:

Maybe your right

Thanks

Sweeny79 said:

On a serious note i vote for the ignore him reaction.

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[Edited 9/8/04 5:24am]

bkw said:

But why??? Why do people have to act all stupid....just because we were involved don't mean that we have to act like we never met. Does it?

What to do.....

He is getting married ain't he???

Well, obviously the flame is not rekindling. So if it were me I would forget him and go onto bigger fish, why waste your time. Good luck.

J0eyC0c0 said:

I hope you are right Joey

Drunk and High!

Sweeny79 said:

Yes, sort of.

I agree with what that drunken bum joey said above.

luv4u said:

EXACTLY! I do NOT want it rekindled I just want to be FRIENDS!

bkw said:

I'm sorry but that's fucking stupid and anyone who acts like that is fucking stupid!

i think the best thing is to just be cordial. and since you can't just say hi and bye cause you work with him, only talk about work, weather etc, if you do more than this, he might read more into it than what it is. if he wants to talk thats your chance to tell him that your over him and you want to be friends. but i think usually when your just cordial and nothing more, over time they get it.

heybaby said:

That's what I wanted to hear! I could kiss you!

If you guys were more than friends before and you just wanna be friends ONLY with the man, well I think it would be difficult and ..... Aw shit, just say hi and be civil as you work in the same buidling, .... and nothing more. You gotta have your own life. Forget the dude, what do you see in him anyway? What was the past is not the present.

luv4u said:

It's like this.... some people out there you just click with there is just this instant strng bond that goes above the hey you cute, kinda vibe, we got that. we get eschother....not many people get me.... I'm not to quick to let that go.

Sweeny79 said:

your welcome. this always works for me. i don't like hurting feelings but i also don't like dragging things out and making myself miserable by beating around the bush.

heybaby said:

Yup

Sweeny79 said:

teach him how to be a big girl.


j/k
sweeny....i have no answers but i got ze

Like I said, hun...it's his emotional immaturity which causes him to feel that he can't even talk to you... ...He should at least acknowledge your presence when you're in the same room together, or when you're passing each other like that. But I do believe that he'll start doing so soon enough... ...He's not worried about you getting the wrong idea, and you're not worried about giving him the wrong signals...it's just him not being emotionally mature enough to deal with simple friendly and warm conversation with someone where things didn't quite work out. (trust me, from everything you've told me of him in the past, I could easily see this coming...)...

And I cracked up at him thinking you and I had something going...lol ...I forgot all about that...

I would say just stay casual with him, but leave the friendship door open. Smile at him when you see him...ask him about his new fiance...stuff like that. He may come around...he may not. If he doesn't...fugetaboutit!

Sweeny79 said:

I find it's easier for guys sometimes to ignore people they feel a lot for, at least that's what my friends say.
As for me, once I fall IN love I hardly ever fall out again

don't you wish there was a switch?

i was once told that lust is temporary and love is eturnal

starkitty said:

yes life would be alot easier

Sweeny79 said:

What's wrong with you ? It's YOU that broke of the relationship
You say you don't want him , yet you feel offended if he walks right pass you
What is it you want ?

If i see an ex-girlfriend , and she broke off the relationship, there's nothing left for me to say
What's the use in all the bla,bla,bla if she doesn't want you anymore.
You deffenitely WOULDN'T wanna hear things about her new boyfriend and shit.