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Printableunlucky7 said: AzureStarr said:  what? Just, that I didn't know what to say to that. Wasn't sure if you were serious, and if you were, which I was thinking that you were, well... I didn't know how to respond. So, I grabbed an emoticon to express the feeling that I got when I read that, which is that I'm sorry that your insecurites were caused from your mother. | |
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3mta3 said: i have noticed when i feel pretty or i look good (in my mind) dressed nice or whatever i feel better about myself
Yeah... I have those moments, too. They usually fizzle out rather soon, though... lol. I read that we're supposed to clean while we're all dressed up. Not in evening wear, but something rather than sweats or lounge-wear (or like me and in my jammies or a long Tee) and a must is having our shoes on while doing it. I tried it once, I did feel better about myself while cleaning, but it's too awkward for me. Edit: and if that makes you feel pretty... dressing nice. Do it every day! 
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AzureStarr said: unlucky7 said: what? Just, that I didn't know what to say to that. Wasn't sure if you were serious, and if you were, which I was thinking that you were, well... I didn't know how to respond. So, I grabbed an emoticon to express the feeling that I got when I read that, which is that I'm sorry that your insecurites were caused from your mother. ohhh, yeah i was serious and all those emoticons are how I felt or feel. | |
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AzureStarr said: As I was out and about today, I was thinking about those things that I dislike about myself, trying to talk myself into accepting them. Anyway, I started trying to figure out when these poor self-image/low self-esteem issues came about, and more importantly why. I can remember a lot of them from when I was a very young girl.
For example: My feeling as though I am pretty much useless when compared to others... I can remember feeling this way in pre-school (gingerbread school). I was never good enough... well, never felt as if I were. My shyness, which is so bad, that I have a difficult time even speaking to members of my family, except my mother and my grandmother. I can remember being this way when I was a young girl, and still cannot speak to them comfortably, to this day. I'm just that shy. Poor body image: Again, I can remember feeling this way as a young girl, for no apparent reason, what-so-ever. Actually, I can only think of one thing, that I have a problem with, that has stemmed from something in my years as an adult. What about you guys? I'm just curious as to whether the majority of our insecurities are from childhood and from just being born that way, or if something had caused them. From as far back as I can remember, I've just always been/felt this way... with absolutely no reason. OMG Azure we are truly in sync here...I've been thinking about the same things exactly!! In the last week and a half I've begun to lose weight again and it feels really good and I'm proud of myself BUT it's just the beginning - I'm still not happy with what I see when I look in the mirror but I know only I can change that mentally (coz that's where it all is) My insecurities, like you, started when I was young...my father is the kind of man you can NEVER please no matter how hard you try or how much you "achieve". Personally, I see my biggest achievement as being a good person who has a lot of love to give...he doesn't see it that way unfortunately and see's me and my brother as a bit of a "failure" and lazy. This is the same man who left us when I was 5 years old, tho, for a 19 year old...I've always had "issues" with men in general and I believe it stems from all that - there's very very few men that I can REALLY have a conversation with and talk to with comfort. That's not to say I don't like men (ahem quite the opposite  ) but what I mean is there are still a LOT of issues that I probably need to talk to a professional about. My main insecurites are with men, as I've just explained, and also a "fear of abandonment" I guess...I'm always scared that people don't want to know me any more. It's a BAD BAD habit and I need to get myself out of it...it's something I tend to project onto those closest to me and I think that, too, comes from so many changes and people leaving through my life. My life changed dramatically when I was 5 with my Dad leaving and again at 12 leaving our home town in Country NSW for the Central Coast just above Sydney. Then Mum met Kevin my stepdad (well, technically he's not now but to me he always will be) and everything was good until 1997 when he and Mum split up. Then Mum got diagnosed with a brain tumour and 7 months later died...since then NOTHING in my life has been the same and it's still constantly changing
Funny for someone who has a almost phobic fear of change 
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unlucky7 said: AzureStarr said: Just, that I didn't know what to say to that. Wasn't sure if you were serious, and if you were, which I was thinking that you were, well... I didn't know how to respond. So, I grabbed an emoticon to express the feeling that I got when I read that, which is that I'm sorry that your insecurites were caused from your mother. ohhh, yeah i was serious and all those emoticons are how I felt or feel. 
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This is hard for me to share with you all but here goes. My insecurities are from when I was very young and I know that the insecurities I have about myself are from the way I was raised by my mother. Being told that you were never good enough or that you are not wanted from the age of five on up affected me greatly. I heard that so often as a little kid I believed fully that I would never do anything positive in my life.
It has been rather hard confronting my own doubts and fears and even gathering the courage to do so has been extremely difficult but I've learned to do that. I've learned to be honest about my insecurities as well as my strengths. To my own credit, I fought all the negativity every inch of the way since I was little. I may have given up a few times (I was a little kid you know) but something inside always resisted what my mom was telling me. Bracing against the negativity taught me to always keep on fighting for myself. I just wish the lesson didn't have to be so hard. No one should ever have to go through anything like that and most certainly NOT a five year old. "I ordered no broth! Away with ye lest my cane find your backside!!"- Ralph Wiggum, Actor. | |
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I'd agree that many of my insecurities are from childhood too. A few years back I was going through old things at my parents and found a school assignment from 3rd or 4th grade. You had to fill in the blanks about yourself and one of them was Most people would tell you that I am... and I'd filled in the word "ugly". If I saw a child today write that I'd just die and hug them forever. It broke my own heart reading it, thinking back to just how difficult a time I had in my own skin as a child and still sometimes struggle with now. I also was painfully shy, assumed people wouldn't like me, etc. I've gotten over the worst of all of it, thank goodness, but yeah, they still rear their ugly head from time to time no matter how much I KNOW I'm being irrational about things. |
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NovaAngel said: This is hard for me to share with you all but here goes. My insecurities are from when I was very young and I know that the insecurities I have about myself are from the way I was raised by my mother. Being told that you were never good enough or that you are not wanted from the age of five on up affected me greatly. I heard that so often as a little kid I believed fully that I would never do anything positive in my life.
It has been rather hard confronting my own doubts and fears and even gathering the courage to do so has been extremely difficult but I've learned to do that. I've learned to be honest about my insecurities as well as my strengths. To my own credit, I fought all the negativity every inch of the way since I was little. I may have given up a few times (I was a little kid you know) but something inside always resisted what my mom was telling me. Bracing against the negativity taught me to always keep on fighting for myself. I just wish the lesson didn't have to be so hard. No one should ever have to go through anything like that and most certainly NOT a five year old. Powerful shared words NovaAngel... my heart  for you and all that struggle with limiting insecurities. We all have struggles with life issues from time to time and to different degrees.
I personally have used the negative, the apparent ways of life that are only destructive to one's sense of being. The negative (which can be defined differently depending on each unique moment), are endlessly long... anything that hinders positive growth to a degree of self-destruction or prevents one to grow in a direction that is healthy for self-growth. There is much I had to contend with while growing up (nothing I wish to change, one should not live in regret)... and yes, such as you... the thoughts and profound emotion of "not wanted and why"... endless questions I had until... I simply started to believe... what is, simply is. It's been a long road to where I am... insecurities for me... are seldom. Do they exist? Sure, I believe naturally as human beings we struggle with doubts and questions about this or that... then I find myself believing... what is, simply is... if I am not happy, make the change to be happy and I usually do just that. I have so much more to say (always do)... I have more to elaborate on... although right now... I just don't feel like typing much or sitting in front of this computer. ~Smile. As for petty insecurities, ones I find silly although have always existed in my life... ~I wish for my thighs to be slimmer, my ears to not stick out so much...   Oh well... we all have our issues and insecurities to some degree, it's natural... as long as it doesn't hinder your everyday life to a sense of isolation, compulsion or self-destruction.
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I totally getcha!! I know for sure dat da "selfless" (ie put otherz before me) attitude comez from da fact dat I noticed dat..whenever I had other cousinz n stuff over when I was younger..even friendz..my mum kinda used to alwayz favour what they wanted before I did..n i kinda accepted it and kinda also made me fink..perhapz I'm not dat important..which is not true, but u know u kinda feel dat way anyway.
I also notice I get nervous when anyone realises a crap or weak side of me..always strivin to be dat perfect person...a very silly goal..one should alwayz peak their own level of self satisfaction first...it's da one true way i know to total self assurance as a credible human being. 
My friendz say dat i alwayz look "perfect" to them. I groom myself well..therez nothin wrong wif dat  but...my constant need to ask "do i look okay" like most galz do 'spose, comez very much from being firstly recognised for my outward appearance from when i was young. You know..da fact dat "isn't she purty" came before "isn't she clever"...n stuff like dat.
I guess in retrospect it'z all pretty normal. Just dat people don't think what and how they handle a situation when a kid is around! Tryin to make a kid this all round shining sweet angelic beautiful creature...can give them a complex   No hablo espanol,no! 
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... can I just give everyone a gigantic  , for that is exactly what I wish to do in person if I could ever be lucky to do so.
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AzureStarr said: As I was out and about today, I was thinking about those things that I dislike about myself, trying to talk myself into accepting them. Anyway, I started trying to figure out when these poor self-image/low self-esteem issues came about, and more importantly why. I can remember a lot of them from when I was a very young girl.
I know what your saying hun, I think most of my insecurities came somewhat from childhood. I must say that when I first saw your picture I thought wow she is stunning, I guess we never see ourselves as others do, take care and I hope you are feeling better For example: My feeling as though I am pretty much useless when compared to others... I can remember feeling this way in pre-school (gingerbread school). I was never good enough... well, never felt as if I were. My shyness, which is so bad, that I have a difficult time even speaking to members of my family, except my mother and my grandmother. I can remember being this way when I was a young girl, and still cannot speak to them comfortably, to this day. I'm just that shy. Poor body image: Again, I can remember feeling this way as a young girl, for no apparent reason, what-so-ever. Actually, I can only think of one thing, that I have a problem with, that has stemmed from something in my years as an adult. What about you guys? I'm just curious as to whether the majority of our insecurities are from childhood and from just being born that way, or if something had caused them. From as far back as I can remember, I've just always been/felt this way... with absolutely no reason. | |
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Natisse said: AzureStarr said: As I was out and about today, I was thinking about those things that I dislike about myself, trying to talk myself into accepting them. Anyway, I started trying to figure out when these poor self-image/low self-esteem issues came about, and more importantly why. I can remember a lot of them from when I was a very young girl.
For example: My feeling as though I am pretty much useless when compared to others... I can remember feeling this way in pre-school (gingerbread school). I was never good enough... well, never felt as if I were. My shyness, which is so bad, that I have a difficult time even speaking to members of my family, except my mother and my grandmother. I can remember being this way when I was a young girl, and still cannot speak to them comfortably, to this day. I'm just that shy. Poor body image: Again, I can remember feeling this way as a young girl, for no apparent reason, what-so-ever. Actually, I can only think of one thing, that I have a problem with, that has stemmed from something in my years as an adult. What about you guys? I'm just curious as to whether the majority of our insecurities are from childhood and from just being born that way, or if something had caused them. From as far back as I can remember, I've just always been/felt this way... with absolutely no reason. OMG Azure we are truly in sync here...I've been thinking about the same things exactly!! In the last week and a half I've begun to lose weight again and it feels really good and I'm proud of myself BUT it's just the beginning - I'm still not happy with what I see when I look in the mirror but I know only I can change that mentally (coz that's where it all is) My insecurities, like you, started when I was young...my father is the kind of man you can NEVER please no matter how hard you try or how much you "achieve". Personally, I see my biggest achievement as being a good person who has a lot of love to give...he doesn't see it that way unfortunately and see's me and my brother as a bit of a "failure" and lazy. This is the same man who left us when I was 5 years old, tho, for a 19 year old...I've always had "issues" with men in general and I believe it stems from all that - there's very very few men that I can REALLY have a conversation with and talk to with comfort. That's not to say I don't like men (ahem quite the opposite ) but what I mean is there are still a LOT of issues that I probably need to talk to a professional about. My main insecurites are with men, as I've just explained, and also a "fear of abandonment" I guess...I'm always scared that people don't want to know me any more. It's a BAD BAD habit and I need to get myself out of it...it's something I tend to project onto those closest to me and I think that, too, comes from so many changes and people leaving through my life. My life changed dramatically when I was 5 with my Dad leaving and again at 12 leaving our home town in Country NSW for the Central Coast just above Sydney. Then Mum met Kevin my stepdad (well, technically he's not now but to me he always will be) and everything was good until 1997 when he and Mum split up. Then Mum got diagnosed with a brain tumour and 7 months later died...since then NOTHING in my life has been the same and it's still constantly changing
Funny for someone who has a almost phobic fear of change
whew!!! sorry I rambled there...it felt good to get it out tho (and that's just a fraction...I could've kept going for so long!!!) | |
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Freespirit said: NovaAngel said: This is hard for me to share with you all but here goes. My insecurities are from when I was very young and I know that the insecurities I have about myself are from the way I was raised by my mother. Being told that you were never good enough or that you are not wanted from the age of five on up affected me greatly. I heard that so often as a little kid I believed fully that I would never do anything positive in my life.
It has been rather hard confronting my own doubts and fears and even gathering the courage to do so has been extremely difficult but I've learned to do that. I've learned to be honest about my insecurities as well as my strengths. To my own credit, I fought all the negativity every inch of the way since I was little. I may have given up a few times (I was a little kid you know) but something inside always resisted what my mom was telling me. Bracing against the negativity taught me to always keep on fighting for myself. I just wish the lesson didn't have to be so hard. No one should ever have to go through anything like that and most certainly NOT a five year old. Powerful shared words NovaAngel... my heart for you and all that struggle with limiting insecurities. We all have struggles with life issues from time to time and to different degrees.
I personally have used the negative, the apparent ways of life that are only destructive to one's sense of being. The negative (which can be defined differently depending on each unique moment), are endlessly long... anything that hinders positive growth to a degree of self-destruction or prevents one to grow in a direction that is healthy for self-growth. There is much I had to contend with while growing up (nothing I wish to change, one should not live in regret)... and yes, such as you... the thoughts and profound emotion of "not wanted and why"... endless questions I had until... I simply started to believe... what is, simply is. It's been a long road to where I am... insecurities for me... are seldom. Do they exist? Sure, I believe naturally as human beings we struggle with doubts and questions about this or that... then I find myself believing... what is, simply is... if I am not happy, make the change to be happy and I usually do just that. I have so much more to say (always do)... I have more to elaborate on... although right now... I just don't feel like typing much or sitting in front of this computer. ~Smile. As for petty insecurities, ones I find silly although have always existed in my life... ~I wish for my thighs to be slimmer, my ears to not stick out so much... Oh well... we all have our issues and insecurities to some degree, it's natural... as long as it doesn't hinder your everyday life to a sense of isolation, compulsion or self-destruction.
Heather/Azure... I know I have not cared too much for your posts... although this by far is the most valid one I feel of deep profound search. Answers can not always be answered... and everything does not have to have reason, some things in life just are and we can either accept them, find value in the difficult and make a choice to to do our best to move forward despite life obstacles we may face. I don't know... but I do wish you all the very best. Thanks FreeSpirit. Your words are very kind and beautiful. These days I don't dwell negatively on my insecurities as much. Rather, it's more part of a process of continuing growth and l'm enjoying the process to be honest with you. All of it, the good and the bad. And thanks to all for letting me ramble and for allowing me to share this with you. [This message was edited Thu Aug 26 21:35:19 2004 by NovaAngel] "I ordered no broth! Away with ye lest my cane find your backside!!"- Ralph Wiggum, Actor. | |
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But I just wanted to add..that insecurities..is perfectly human. It's what makes us learn to be stronger
From crap, comez good! Postivity is a gift. Life has its frustrations..i experienced crap from a young age dat I won't go into, but...the one thing dat got me through..is hope  Soundz corny, but there'z some wisdom in that! If one would rather think postivity is simply sugar coating the truth..it'z sad. There is strength in positivity..and dat is: bein happy n contented no matter what...and it keepz ya goin! Oppurtunitiez arrise for those wif a outlook No hablo espanol,no!
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Ocean said: Natisse said: OMG Azure we are truly in sync here...I've been thinking about the same things exactly!! In the last week and a half I've begun to lose weight again and it feels really good and I'm proud of myself BUT it's just the beginning - I'm still not happy with what I see when I look in the mirror but I know only I can change that mentally (coz that's where it all is) My insecurities, like you, started when I was young...my father is the kind of man you can NEVER please no matter how hard you try or how much you "achieve". Personally, I see my biggest achievement as being a good person who has a lot of love to give...he doesn't see it that way unfortunately and see's me and my brother as a bit of a "failure" and lazy. This is the same man who left us when I was 5 years old, tho, for a 19 year old...I've always had "issues" with men in general and I believe it stems from all that - there's very very few men that I can REALLY have a conversation with and talk to with comfort. That's not to say I don't like men (ahem quite the opposite ) but what I mean is there are still a LOT of issues that I probably need to talk to a professional about. My main insecurites are with men, as I've just explained, and also a "fear of abandonment" I guess...I'm always scared that people don't want to know me any more. It's a BAD BAD habit and I need to get myself out of it...it's something I tend to project onto those closest to me and I think that, too, comes from so many changes and people leaving through my life. My life changed dramatically when I was 5 with my Dad leaving and again at 12 leaving our home town in Country NSW for the Central Coast just above Sydney. Then Mum met Kevin my stepdad (well, technically he's not now but to me he always will be) and everything was good until 1997 when he and Mum split up. Then Mum got diagnosed with a brain tumour and 7 months later died...since then NOTHING in my life has been the same and it's still constantly changing
Funny for someone who has a almost phobic fear of change
whew!!! sorry I rambled there...it felt good to get it out tho (and that's just a fraction...I could've kept going for so long!!!)  thank you hon, I know...and the same goes for you
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Freespirit said: ... can I just give everyone a gigantic , for that is exactly what I wish to do in person if I could ever be lucky to do so.
The more I read everyone's responses... the more my heart truly goes out to each and everyone of you. exactly, Julie...  for everyone | |
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My insecurities have to do with what my peers did to me as a child | |
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Janfriend said: My insecurities have to do with what my peers did to me as a child
I want to know what they did. | |
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unlucky7 said: Janfriend said: My insecurities have to do with what my peers did to me as a child
I want to know what they did. They called every horrible name they could think of. I looked like every animal they could think of, which hs affected my self-image to this day | |
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Natisse:
Just... hugs all around! Especially to those of you who developed these insecurities due to the words/actions of another. I cannot imagine having a parent create such pain within their own child. FreeSpirit: I'm so utterly pleased that you found a post of mine that made you feel was actually valid, in your eyes, and "of deep profound search". Now, I would give you flowers and smiley's and all that there, but I don't need to hide behind an emoticon. | |
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My insecurity comes from my terrible shyness. I often think about it. It's to some extent compounded by the fact that throughout my life I've always been around super confident friends. As much as I've tried and still keep trying I find it hard to just break out of it although I try not to show it ever. My friends have always had the confidence to go up to girls and be successful where as I am more shy and reserved. I'm conscious of the fact that it gives me the impression that I'm boring and disinterested in them but I'd give anything to have the confidence they have. My family and close friends tell me that I'm mysterious and interesting and that I'm handsome. However, this reassurance doesn't help because I don't want to be this way. Metophorically speaking you could say I'm an orange. You have to peel away at me to get to the juicy part.
I'm also like Sag10 in this sense in that I have difficulty time even speaking to even members of my family. except my mother and my grandmother. I've got so much laughter and things I want to share with people but I'm too conscious of the feeling they won't be interested or what I want to discuss it kinda geeky. There's so much that I could say about my insecurities now but I could go on forever. | |
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JDINTERACTIVE said: My insecurity comes from my terrible shyness. I often think about it. It's to some extent compounded by the fact that throughout my life I've always been around super confident friends. As much as I've tried and still keep trying I find it hard to just break out of it although I try not to show it ever. My friends have always had the confidence to go up to girls and be successful where as I am more shy and reserved. I'm conscious of the fact that it gives me the impression that I'm boring and disinterested in them but I'd give anything to have the confidence they have. My family and close friends tell me that I'm mysterious and interesting and that I'm handsome. However, this reassurance doesn't help because I don't want to be this way. Metophorically speaking you could say I'm an orange. You have to peel away at me to get to the juicy part.
I'm also like Sag10 in this sense in that I have difficulty time even speaking to even members of my family. except my mother and my grandmother. I've got so much laughter and things I want to share with people but I'm too conscious of the feeling they won't be interested or what I want to discuss it kinda geeky. There's so much that I could say about my insecurities now but I could go on forever. shyness is nice 
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CarrieMpls said: JDINTERACTIVE said: My insecurity comes from my terrible shyness. I often think about it. It's to some extent compounded by the fact that throughout my life I've always been around super confident friends. As much as I've tried and still keep trying I find it hard to just break out of it although I try not to show it ever. My friends have always had the confidence to go up to girls and be successful where as I am more shy and reserved. I'm conscious of the fact that it gives me the impression that I'm boring and disinterested in them but I'd give anything to have the confidence they have. My family and close friends tell me that I'm mysterious and interesting and that I'm handsome. However, this reassurance doesn't help because I don't want to be this way. Metophorically speaking you could say I'm an orange. You have to peel away at me to get to the juicy part.
I'm also like Sag10 in this sense in that I have difficulty time even speaking to even members of my family. except my mother and my grandmother. I've got so much laughter and things I want to share with people but I'm too conscious of the feeling they won't be interested or what I want to discuss it kinda geeky. There's so much that I could say about my insecurities now but I could go on forever. shyness is nice
Well defined. 'Shyness is nice'. [This message was edited Sat Aug 28 13:03:36 2004 by JDINTERACTIVE] | |
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JDINTERACTIVE said: My insecurity comes from my terrible shyness. I often think about it. It's to some extent compounded by the fact that throughout my life I've always been around super confident friends. As much as I've tried and still keep trying I find it hard to just break out of it although I try not to show it ever. My friends have always had the confidence to go up to girls and be successful where as I am more shy and reserved. I'm conscious of the fact that it gives me the impression that I'm boring and disinterested in them but I'd give anything to have the confidence they have. My family and close friends tell me that I'm mysterious and interesting and that I'm handsome. However, this reassurance doesn't help because I don't want to be this way. Metophorically speaking you could say I'm an orange. You have to peel away at me to get to the juicy part.
I'm also like Sag10 in this sense in that I have difficulty time even speaking to even members of my family. except my mother and my grandmother. I've got so much laughter and things I want to share with people but I'm too conscious of the feeling they won't be interested or what I want to discuss it kinda geeky. There's so much that I could say about my insecurities now but I could go on forever. That's exactly me and my shyness. Dating sucks for me, because I can't think of a thing to say. People have told me that I seem like I feel I'm better than them because I come off that way when I don't speak. It's not that... I just can't think of a damned thing to say!!! I can't talk to members of my family either... comfortably. | |
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AzureStarr said: JDINTERACTIVE said: My insecurity comes from my terrible shyness. I often think about it. It's to some extent compounded by the fact that throughout my life I've always been around super confident friends. As much as I've tried and still keep trying I find it hard to just break out of it although I try not to show it ever. My friends have always had the confidence to go up to girls and be successful where as I am more shy and reserved. I'm conscious of the fact that it gives me the impression that I'm boring and disinterested in them but I'd give anything to have the confidence they have. My family and close friends tell me that I'm mysterious and interesting and that I'm handsome. However, this reassurance doesn't help because I don't want to be this way. Metophorically speaking you could say I'm an orange. You have to peel away at me to get to the juicy part.
I'm also like Sag10 in this sense in that I have difficulty time even speaking to even members of my family. except my mother and my grandmother. I've got so much laughter and things I want to share with people but I'm too conscious of the feeling they won't be interested or what I want to discuss it kinda geeky. There's so much that I could say about my insecurities now but I could go on forever. That's exactly me and my shyness. Dating sucks for me, because I can't think of a thing to say. People have told me that I seem like I feel I'm better than them because I come off that way when I don't speak. It's not that... I just can't think of a damned thing to say!!! I can't talk to members of my family either... comfortably. I'm exactly the same. Exactly the same. | |
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starkitty said: i'm not here to feed your insecurities
i wanted you to love me *muah* I'm looking again, and it still looks like a breast to me!  | |
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JDINTERACTIVE said: AzureStarr said: That's exactly me and my shyness. Dating sucks for me, because I can't think of a thing to say. People have told me that I seem like I feel I'm better than them because I come off that way when I don't speak. It's not that... I just can't think of a damned thing to say!!! I can't talk to members of my family either... comfortably. I'm exactly the same. Exactly the same. You talk just FINE!!  | |
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