JDINTERACTIVE said:

Well when you are a teen or early twenties you got loadsa hormones running round your body and you end up being tempted by others.

Thats how I see it anyway, thats what happened with us and many of my friends.

And another little thread killer, I love this place...

petski said:

he called me today

msserendipity said:

Did I ? ! I cant remember that, must have been drunk at the time



Only messing !

Awww aint that nice !

msserendipity said:

Sure--I've done it. But it's difficult, or at least, that was my experience.

The cell phone suggestion is a good one. Free nights and weekends, plus free long distance, are great to have. I'd get bills showing that I'd used 2,500 minutes in a month. But since most of them were used at night and during weekends, my bill was the usual $45 or so.

It also helped that airfare between the two cities was relatively inexpensive, and I was in a position where I could afford to make the trip often. (I've got a Northwest Airlines Silver Elite card to show for it.)

Still, despite the lengthy "phone dates" and frequent visits, I found the experience very rough, and so I packed up and moved more than halfway across the country. The relocation was (and continues to be) its own matter with difficulties. But I don't regret it. In fact, I wish I'd done it sooner.

Not that I'm any sort of expert at relationships, but I think it's worth doing a cost-benefit analysis. And if the costs currently outweigh the benefits, but you otherwise want to keep the relationship, are there things you can do to change the balance, such as scheduling regular "phone dates"?

I wish you the best.

I hope so.....

mrbungle said:

Cloudbuster said:

mrbungle said:

he's looking for a buddy to replace Haystack

SunRiseSunSet said:

What happen to stack? or was that

I've done it twice, it's possible, and it's hell. I wouldn't suggest it unless you can at least see the light at the end of the tunnel, ie, have a planned time when the distance will go away.

HI Sammy... I told you yesterday that I wished you luck with it... you seem to be rather smitten with your man, but I wanted to add something to that...

I have had my share of long distance relationships and they never worked.... it' emotionally draining to miss someone. That's not to say that yours cannot work, as long as both parties buy in to it.

Right now, you are both in your prime and it feels, at least at times, that your life is passing you by. If you haven't felt this way... it will come. If you both can come to terms with your feelings and BOTH commit to biding your time, then hey, why not. As the old saying goes... absense makes the heart grow fonder... I am more of a live in the moment kind of person myself, but I sincerely hope for you, that if this is TRUELY what you want... that it works out!

Just a guys point of view.... take it as you need...

kendogg said:

damn ken..you're not just a rude mo fo after all

ta for that.

I guess it depends on the person I guess. From personal expericence I wouldn't go that rout because it's alot of anger and frustration all because your apart. It is very draining. And when u get tired of it you just tired. But if u have a good plan I suggest u stick to it ! Sometimes plans don't work out u know. It can work for some people, but I ain't digging that no more.