Many things are going on within my life, and today... well, actually about ten months ago, I thought about moving out of Michigan. The thing is, well, I have no idea where to move to.

I was thinking Arizona for a while, but, I've never been there and was only going by what another was telling me. I'd like someplace that is warm, no bug ridden (not a spider town), somewhere that is just "nice"... not a big city, as it would overwhelm me, but not county either.

Indiana and Ohio and Michigan do not please me.

So... help me in deciding on where to move to. Please. If I were to move. To be honest, I'm thinking of taking my husband and kids and moving. I can't be with him here, now that we've both had relationships. I don't honestly know if it is the best thing, however, I do know that I could be with him if somewhere else. I know that I could deal with it. And, he has changed. Sooo... help me find a place to go. Sell your state!!

how sensible...

Tessa said:

I'm sorry for my post not being as sensible as you'd like. Perhaps you'd have rather not posted on it. I'm sure all in your life is completely sensible. Foolish of me to throw mine out there.

AzureStarr said:

absolutely...

Don't worry about her, Heather.....

Anyway, what you are saying makes perfect sense. When I was with Ericks dad, we both thought about leaving Michigan and starting over. It is much easier to start over with someone you've had a rocky relationship with when you leave. Being someplace new and not running into someone you or your significant other has dated will undoubtedly make things easier.

Good luck to you, girl

Smooches;)

AzureStarr said:

i live n AZ now i am from the crazinss of cali orginally.... its nice here but hot as hell n the summer but its worth it n the winter... that is what i tell myself for 4 months out of the year.... U want any info hit me up in a note...

I can only suggest places in Europe, sorry Az

What about Florida?

MsMisha319 said:

I'm not exactly sure if what I say makes perfect sense, lol... however... he is what I know. I've come to realize in this year and a half that what he and I were is what I know and, probably, what I know how to deal with. All of these knew relationships... while I love certain things about them (well, one)... while I love this and that about it, it isn't the same. The bad things in the "new" are petty compared to the bad in the old, but I know how to deal in the old. I'm not sure that the "good" out-weigh the bad in this situation, you know?

I'm wondering if new suroundings... because of the other relationships that we've had, would be a good thing and am seriously considering doing just that. I mean, I've been married to this man for eleven years... I'm not so sure that I can just really... REALLY end it. Especially when I've searched my soul and realize there are feelings there... putting aside the bad.

And... it's not my running into someone he's dated... that I could handle. It's my running into the one that I'm currently with that I couldn't handle. Unfotunately.

Thanks you... I'm very happy to see you around here again!

kdowney said:

Is it humid there?

Lleena said:

'Tis okay... would move to that area of the world if I weren't so scared to do so.

(Get some sleep, woman!)


And... 9's... Florida would be perfect! I have family and friends in Florida... unfortuanly... Florida is not somewhere I'd like to live... for, really, no good reason at all. Perhaps I should check into that more.

AzureStarr said:

If you go, get me a t-shirt!

AzureStarr said:

only during the monsoons but it lasts just for a bit... the monsoons are cool... we have some beautiful sunrises and sunsets here year round...

kdowney said:

That's where my husband would like to move to... I think I could deal. I'm just not sure about going somewhere that I know nothing about. I've no idea what city to move to, etc... you know?

9's... I'll get you a Tee from any place you'd like.

AzureStarr said:

depends on where U find work and willing to drive... the east side of the valley is more expensive... i am on the west side clost to the new areans.....

www.azcentral.com here is a good start to see more and some good links to other sites U may need....

How about California? It's a bit pricey, but I wouldn't live anywhere else... except for Oregon, temporarily, maybe...

kdowney said:

Work wouldn't be an issue, nor the drive. I just want somewhere that is a nice neighborhood, not a lot going on... but with quite a few things close.

Going to check that site out later! Thank you!

Natsume said:

I don't know the first thing about California... I wouldn't know where to move to, etc...

Oregon? Why?

AzureStarr said:

Stay away from Southern California, and the Valley (though all the socal people are going to kill me for saying so!) I love the Bay Area - yanno, San Francisco/Oakland/Berkeley ish. The weather is good the vast majority of the time, and it's just so damn diverse and interesting... although I am a bit biased, since I've been here the whole of my life.

My mom and her family are all from Oregon, and most of them still live up there. Since we collectively own a bit of property (lake cabins, beach house, and all of the relatives' places) there, I spent all of my summers in Oregon just hanging out. It's still my most favorite vacation spot. It's just really laid back, and people are so nice, and it's not nearly as scary as California can be. Plus, it's absolutely beautiful...

AzureStarr said:

It is very hard to let go. I really think that if you still have feelings there...both of you...then moving away would definitely be a good thing for the sake of the relationship and family.

Oh, well.....I could understand that as well



Smooches;)
[This message was edited Sun Aug 8 18:32:16 2004 by MsMisha319]

Come to Denver!

The weather is dry, you get to experience all of the four seasons..

The winters are not a bad as they were.

And look at the beauty of this!..






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[This message was edited Mon Aug 9 8:38:13 2004 by sag10]

Hi Heather.... I am with you on getting the hell away from this area(I'm in Ohio). I checked out Vegas to see if I liked it. Looked at some houses and discovered a few big drawbacks. Looked in to Arizona as well, but found similar problems with the terrible school systems for my kids. Right now, looking at moving to Florida, maybe Naples area.

I still love Vegas, but not a place to move to right now with kids. I will stiil visit for the party weekends with my brother and cousins!
[This message was edited Mon Aug 9 8:25:13 2004 by kendogg]

ok you guys are doggin Ohio but In my opinion it is one of the best places to raise a child. especially where I live which is Dover ohio.

You do have to deal with everyone knowing your business,but in exchange for that you have everyone watching out for you one way or the other, I can leave my keys in my ignition if I wanted to and no one would mess with my vehicle.

the school discrict is fantastic,
we have seasons
we haev rolling hills, picture perfect views.

lol ok im done defending

Uh, MINNEAPOLIS!!!!

It's actually a really cool city. And then we could hang out all the time too.

ella731 said:

Now now ella, don't get defensive on us here

Actually I am from Minneapolis originally, and I like Ohio in the summer. I moved from Minnesota to Texas (with the Air Force), then to California... here.... I hate snow and cold! The older I get the more I hate it. I too live in a pretty safe area, but the school system up here is pretty bad where I live (North Ridgeville).

Florida, although I have never been there, appeals to all of my senses....
[This message was edited Mon Aug 9 8:54:32 2004 by kendogg]

ella731 said:

Not at all... probably cheaper, economically.

Kendogg, North Ridgeville isnt the best school system. I think if I remember correctly Wooster has the best in Ohio, I just feel really safe around here, I have moved away a couple times but I miss this place so I always come back.


I am kinda a small town kinda girl

I can relate to u. Michigan sucks ass..... glade I moved the fuck out of that place.

California rocks. Even Southern Cali

admittedly traffic can be a whore but living in LA puts me about 2 hours away from Mexico, 6 hours from Vegas, 20 minutes from the beach, an hour from the mountains, an hour to the desert, 6 hours from San Francisco. Northern California is a dreamy place if you can swing the rent but So Cal is wonderful too. Besides living down here you'd get to go to my dinnners I hope you find a place that works for you and your family Az