i am curious...

how many of you have dated out of your economic class, perhaps to the extreme?

my aunt is dating a millionaire, and he is just not cut from the same cloth my family is. i cannot fathom some of the amenities she tells me about (e.g., indoor climate/current controlled swimming pool in a mansion on the beach).

to qualify - my aunt is the sweetest person i know and she's been cursed with two vermin ex husbands (one may say bad judgement). so i am very happy for her.

i myself am not complaining, i've been very blessed.

but i'm curious - have you dated what you consider way out of your league, and how did it feel?

I once dated someone with a combine-tractor...

ive dated poor men before..

no difference...

sosgemini said:

are you rich?

2the9s said:

gee nines.

how did it make you feel?

i've dated a very, very rich young lady before.

didn't bother me. did bother her parents at first. but after a while they were cool.

i did used to feign a posher accent when at her house, which was dumb.

TheFrog said:

i don't like the part that it bothered her parents.

that didn't bother you?

starkitty said:

yeah, i guess it was slightly uncomfortable and definitely meant a slight atmosphere at times. but i was young and confident and far more interested in her than what her parents thought. and quite proud of my upbringing too, regardless of what they thought was acceptable.

anyway, they were lovely, really. just took a bit of time.

starkitty said:

depends on who is asking?

no, seriously though...i sorta feel stuck...i wasnt raised with wealth but im doing pretty good now in life...and i'll go on dates where i dont feel comfortable...i guess you cant take the ghetto out of a nappy haired boy.....

TheFrog said:

hmm. that's cool, i guess.

i think i've been the type as to where if my parents or grandparents had an issue with whom i was dating, i'd go further in that direction.

but i'm stubborn.

If I would feel she's "out of my league" then I doubt I'd date her. I only seem to like poor girls, but that's cool. I'm broke too.

sosgemini said:

lol - keep a little ghetto in ya.

what do you mean though - don't feel comfortable with what? if the person is, let's say poorer? or not as well off?

J0eyC0c0 said:

well damn. y'all be some broke asses sitting around together.

This thread is

2the9s said:

really. if you have nothing to say, get the fuck out.

starkitty said:

i dont feel comfortable dating guys who live within the same income bracket as i.....i seem to enjoy simplier things in life...my last boyfriend...oh boy was he annoying....making us drive to napa county just to buy freaken cheese.....its freaken cheese!!! eat velveta....that was a whole day wasted just for cheese...

sosgemini said:

but you could have enjoyed the drive, you know. it could have just been a way to spend the day.

or, he could have been a pain in the ass about cheese.

and no you didn't with the velveeta.

Back when I was 19, I dated a couple of women who were 29 and 31 respectively. They both made a lot more money than me, but didn't consider themselves "out of my league". It's funny, because the subject of money never seemed to come up. Maybe because the physical attraction was so strong and mutual. I was fresh meat, ready and willing to be schooled!

starkitty said:

i think she did. i'd be the same. but parental concern, blah blah. it's forgiveable, ain't it? i didn't think badly of them for noticing i didn't have the same honours of the British Empire after their name that they did. just something to wave away with a "well, okay". In my case, anyway.

their name.

my name.

whatever.

starkitty said:

ohh...i enjoyed the drive...we had a great time..until it came to the cheese....i am not a cheese fan...and he got all bent out of shape because i couldnt appreciate the texture and subtle hints of blah blah blar blar.....

OdysseyMiles said:

19?

dayum

TheFrog said:

what

ever.

starkitty said:

Well, when I got with my (ex)wife she was broke. But before that she was doing alright. After a while we were doing better again and actually had enough money to blow it on stupid shit like spending over $1100 on cd's in one trip to Best Buy's. In the end there was never a sense of financial security, so I considered ourselves "poor". We had money, but we weren't wealthy.

I could be with someone who's rich, but still has the same moral values and outlook on life I have. I would imagine that would be someone who once didn't have that much money and remembers what it was like to be "poor". One thing I've noticed is that there's a big difference between someone who has money and people who come from an entire clan of wealthy people.

sosgemini said:

that's when you grab a nice napa wine and say, eff the cheese.

J0eyC0c0 said:

i have to say that just sounds like bad money management. you can't have two spenders, ever.

but yeah, i hear you. it's sweeter to appreciate what you've worked for, but by the same token, i guess you can't blame the kid for being born into it.

this is a bit unrelated, but i got really burnt up once when a male friend made a comment about one of my friends dating out of her league, and he was talking about looks.

that's bullshit.

starkitty said:

Yeah, yeah. I guess I liked older women, and they liked me. I bet I looked younger than 19, but HEY....no need to go there!

it's funny, "out of my league" doesn't really occur to me as an economic bracket kind of thing...though maybe in some roundabout way it does...for me, it has more to do with where a person is in his life - for example, if someone has some kind of uber-professional job and takes vacations to a resort town regularly and has some kind of co-op/condo thing going on and blather blather blather, then i'd feel pretty intimidated - not so much because they can afford things that i can't, but more because this is the lifestyle they call home, and i'm not even really sure i can wholly appreciate those kinds of trappings. by the same token, though, i look at my life ten years ago and realize that i'm at a level of existence now that is in a higher "league" than i was then, so i'm led to believe that it's not a matter of what economic station i'm stuck in, but rather it's a matter of what things and places and standards are important to me at a particular time in my growth. i 'spose.

starkitty said:

I don't blame them, but I noticed there's lots of little things they just don't know or appreciate. If you're born into it changes your outlook on life and I'm simply not compatible with those type of people in general. Nothing wrong with it and it's nothing to be sad about IMO.

The point I wanted to make is that whenever I'd feel uncomfortable around someone and feel they're out of my league, whether it's financially or simply about looks, it's not going to work out.

As long as I can provide for my family I'm not sad about blowing money. In the end they'll stick my broke dead ass in the same dirt as they do with wealthy people.