The talented Debarge family will be on the new Dr. Drew's show called

Dr. Drew's Lifechangers-- on WED 9/21 (check ur local listing.. for the time)

I hope this will be the start for reaching out for help and this time following

the steps that are needed to break the chain---- break the chain..

FYI: FROM THE VERY SHORT CLIP PROVIDED THE EPISODE WILL

NOT HAVE THE ENTIRE FAMILY ON.

short clip on future shows below..btw: James..

http://www.lctv.com/

RosesRred said:

The talented Debarge family will be on the new Dr. Drew's show called

Dr. Drew's Lifechangers-- on WED 9/21 (check ur local listing.. for the time)

I hope this will be the start for reaching out for help and this time following

the steps that are needed to break the chain---- break the chain..

FYI: FROM THE VERY SHORT CLIP PROVIDED THE EPISODE WILL

NOT HAVE THE ENTIRE FAMILY ON.

short clip on future shows below..btw: James..

http://www.lctv.com/

Oh, no! Please tell me the Debarges haven't jumped aboard the sensationalized rehab reality train like so many others have... Too late!

purplethunder3121 said:

RosesRred said:

The talented Debarge family will be on the new Dr. Drew's show called

Dr. Drew's Lifechangers-- on WED 9/21 (check ur local listing.. for the time)

I hope this will be the start for reaching out for help and this time following

the steps that are needed to break the chain---- break the chain..

FYI: FROM THE VERY SHORT CLIP PROVIDED THE EPISODE WILL

NOT HAVE THE ENTIRE FAMILY ON.

short clip on future shows below..btw: James..

http://www.lctv.com/

Oh, no! Please tell me the Debarges haven't jumped aboard the sensationalized rehab reality train like so many others have... Too late!

A talk with Dr.Drew may do them some good. They need more than one hour with him.

It's a start and hopefuly they still continue therapy with Dr. Drew and his crew.

It's never too late as long as they are alive and want the help, it was too late for Bobby.

RosesRred said:

purplethunder3121 said:

Oh, no! Please tell me the Debarges haven't jumped aboard the sensationalized rehab reality train like so many others have... Too late!

A talk with Dr.Drew may do them some good. They need more than one hour with him.

It's a start and hopefuly they still continue therapy with Dr. Drew and his crew.

It's never too late as long as they are alive and want the help, it was too late for Bobby.

No it's never too late. My only concern is about them doing it on television. Being in the public eye has played a role in destroying that family enough already. They don't seem to handle being in the spotlight well at all and I'd hate to see them any of them go down any further. Especially while trying to get help.

HatrinaHaterwitz said:

RosesRred said:

A talk with Dr.Drew may do them some good. They need more than one hour with him.

It's a start and hopefuly they still continue therapy with Dr. Drew and his crew.

It's never too late as long as they are alive and want the help, it was too late for Bobby.

No it's never too late. My only concern is about them doing it on television. Being in the public eye has played a role in destroying that family enough already. They don't seem to handle being in the spotlight well at all and I'd hate to see them any of them go down any further. Especially while trying to get help.

I meant too late to stop them from appearing on a despicable reality show that makes money off people's pain and struggles with addiction. It is never too late to get help for addictions.

purplethunder3121 said:

HatrinaHaterwitz said:

No it's never too late. My only concern is about them doing it on television. Being in the public eye has played a role in destroying that family enough already. They don't seem to handle being in the spotlight well at all and I'd hate to see them any of them go down any further. Especially while trying to get help.

I meant too late to stop them from appearing on a despicable reality show that makes money off people's pain and struggles with addiction. It is never too late to get help for addictions.

purplethunder3121 said:

HatrinaHaterwitz said:

No it's never too late. My only concern is about them doing it on television. Being in the public eye has played a role in destroying that family enough already. They don't seem to handle being in the spotlight well at all and I'd hate to see them any of them go down any further. Especially while trying to get help.

I meant too late to stop them from appearing on a despicable reality show that makes money off people's pain and struggles with addiction. It is never too late to get help for addictions.

I have a problem with them appearing on Dr. Drew as well. Are they sincere about seeking help? Or, is this just another way of seeking publicity?

RosesRred said:

The talented Debarge family will be on the new Dr. Drew's show called

Dr. Drew's Lifechangers-- on WED 9/21 (check ur local listing.. for the time)

I hope this will be the start for reaching out for help and this time following

the steps that are needed to break the chain---- break the chain..

FYI: FROM THE VERY SHORT CLIP PROVIDED THE EPISODE WILL

NOT HAVE THE ENTIRE FAMILY ON.

short clip on future shows below..btw: James..

http://www.lctv.com/

It's so sad to see James crying because he's been hurt so badly.

Toxic said:

RosesRred said:

The talented Debarge family will be on the new Dr. Drew's show called

Dr. Drew's Lifechangers-- on WED 9/21 (check ur local listing.. for the time)

I hope this will be the start for reaching out for help and this time following

the steps that are needed to break the chain---- break the chain..

FYI: FROM THE VERY SHORT CLIP PROVIDED THE EPISODE WILL

NOT HAVE THE ENTIRE FAMILY ON.

short clip on future shows below..btw: James..

http://www.lctv.com/

It's so sad to see James crying because he's been hurt so badly.

4yemaya said:

Toxic said:

It's so sad to see James crying because he's been hurt so badly.

Sorry about that too. Especially, since I thought he was doing okay. Didn't know he was having any trouble. I just hope they are on the level, about seeking help. And, not just trying to seek publicity/attention.

Them being on Dr. Drew (who I despise for some reason) is not gonna work either.

Yeah, I don't care for his show either, but I hope someone posts a link to the show (I have to be at work and can't watch it). But you know, I really thought that James was doing better. I saw unsung not long ago, and it seemed like he was turning his life around. Sad how addictions can ruin a life.

Timmy84 said:

Them being on Dr. Drew (who I despise for some reason) is not gonna work either.

Toxic said:

Yeah, I don't care for his show either, but I hope someone posts a link to the show (I have to be at work and can't watch it). But you know, I really thought that James was doing better. I saw unsung not long ago, and it seemed like he was turning his life around. Sad how addictions can ruin a life.

Timmy84 said:

Them being on Dr. Drew (who I despise for some reason) is not gonna work either.

I always thought he (and the rest of the family) were still struggling with their addictions even with the front some of them had on Unsung (particularly James, Randy and Bunny).

Well, yeah, maybe. But to see James today, compared to just one year ago, it's sad. He looks like he hasn't eaten in a long while. Really, it just makes you wanna give him a hug and tell him you love him.

Timmy84 said:

Toxic said:

I always thought he (and the rest of the family) were still struggling with their addictions even with the front some of them had on Unsung (particularly James, Randy and Bunny).

Watched the show they were on and it was sooo sad to watch.

The pain they are holding onto so deeply

inside needs to be released. Their life story is so deep.

I don’t know how anyone can despise Dr. Drew but anyway I saw it earlier I hope they get help and James

babybugz said:

I don’t know how anyone can despise Dr. Drew but anyway I saw it earlier I hope they get help and James

I think Dr. Drew did a good job talking to them. He really wanted them to get

help. He wasn't just trying to get ratings and telling them next.

I just don't understand how a mother can let their children stay in a house

with such a terrible abusive man for so long.

RosesRred said:

babybugz said:

I don’t know how anyone can despise Dr. Drew but anyway I saw it earlier I hope they get help and James

I think Dr. Drew did a good job talking to them. He really wanted them to get

help. He wasn't just trying to get ratings and telling them next.

I just don't understand how a mother can let their children stay in a house

with such a terrible abusive man for so long.

That was a lot of food to buy and rent to pay, and a lot of children to be watching after all alone. Back in the day we were just not addressing abuse issues in the same manner we do as a society today. And Love and Sex (not the regular kind, but the kind that moves you from the bottom of your toes to the top of your head) are also big players. Most humans fear the hell out of change and hide from it. And as someone who has worked with children who have experienced extreme trauma from a parent, it can be shocking the level of torture a child can experience and still crave access to that parent on the hour. I don't know about Eterline's childhood, but she may well be an abused child grown old - making her a biological mother, but leaving her lacking in other areas of parental importance.

DID JAMES GO TO REHAB? That preview clip was tough to watch.

allsmutaside said:

RosesRred said:

I think Dr. Drew did a good job talking to them. He really wanted them to get

help. He wasn't just trying to get ratings and telling them next.

I just don't understand how a mother can let their children stay in a house

with such a terrible abusive man for so long.

That was a lot of food to buy and rent to pay, and a lot of children to be watching after all alone. Back in the day we were just not addressing abuse issues in the same manner we do as a society today. And Love and Sex (not the regular kind, but the kind that moves you from the bottom of your toes to the top of your head) are also big players. Most humans fear the hell out of change and hide from it. And as someone who has worked with children who have experienced extreme trauma from a parent, it can be shocking the level of torture a child can experience and still crave access to that parent on the hour. I don't know about Eterline's childhood, but she may well be an abused child grown old - making her a biological mother, but leaving her lacking in other areas of parental importance.

DID JAMES GO TO REHAB? That preview clip was tough to watch.

He left shortly after he started.

babybugz said:

allsmutaside said:

That was a lot of food to buy and rent to pay, and a lot of children to be watching after all alone. Back in the day we were just not addressing abuse issues in the same manner we do as a society today. And Love and Sex (not the regular kind, but the kind that moves you from the bottom of your toes to the top of your head) are also big players. Most humans fear the hell out of change and hide from it. And as someone who has worked with children who have experienced extreme trauma from a parent, it can be shocking the level of torture a child can experience and still crave access to that parent on the hour. I don't know about Eterline's childhood, but she may well be an abused child grown old - making her a biological mother, but leaving her lacking in other areas of parental importance.

DID JAMES GO TO REHAB? That preview clip was tough to watch.

Didn't know he went to rehab. Was this recently/sometime in the past? Allsmutaside, you have a point about how things were handled in the past. Especially in the black community. People didn't admit there was a problem, let alone seek professional help, if any existed. Mainly, they worried about what others would think. Seeking help was seen(and in some ways still is)as a sign of weakness. But, another thing about their mother, was maybe her religious belief played a part too. She might have been taught that divorce was not an option. Or, that if her marriage ended, that she was a failure/she didn't want that. But, then again, she might have been abused herself, in someway, like you said.

He left shortly after he started.

Jesus... what happened to James since Unsung.. He looks sooo bad and indicated that he's been living on the streets off and on for the pass to years... James look like he has other health issues going on... I hope he can get it together..

So I watched both shows and Bunny, Randy and James agreed to treatment and they took them to the facility direct from the show. Bunny and Randy are still getting help and James left the facility after a few hours...

Bunny and Randy

James

banks said:

So I watched both shows and Bunny, Randy and James agreed to treatment and they took them to the facility direct from the show. Bunny and Randy are still getting help and James left the facility after a few hours...

Bunny and Randy

James

Bunny and Randy seem to take staying sober seriously. James is trying but is tougher on him. I can imagine how it is for Marty, El, Chico and the rest.

Bunny... wow... Randy don't look much different from when I saw him on Unsung but James definitely looks spaced out. I saw the clip of him discussing how Michael saved his life.

Really sad

I hope this family get the help it needs

phunkdaddy said:

Really sad

I hope this family get the help it needs

Real tragic. That entire family... I get speechless sometimes because it's like are they cursed forever with this?

banks said:

Jesus... what happened to James since Unsung.. He looks sooo bad and indicated that he's been living on the streets off and on for the pass to years... James look like he has other health issues going on... I hope he can get it together..

I know I hope and pray for the entire family. It was really heartbreaking watching that clip. Such a shame, their so talented and they were a good looking family as well sad to see what drugs have done on exception of EL who looks great for his age despite his addiction.

mjscarousal said:

banks said:

Jesus... what happened to James since Unsung.. He looks sooo bad and indicated that he's been living on the streets off and on for the pass to years... James look like he has other health issues going on... I hope he can get it together..

I know I hope and pray for the entire family. It was really heartbreaking watching that clip. Such a shame, their so talented and they were a good looking family as well sad to see what drugs have done on exception of EL who looks great for his age despite his addiction.

I still can't get over this show. I guess it hurts more because you can see

how much pain they are in and you hate to hear any of them dying from this

addiction, not just their family, but anyone dealing

with any type of addiction. I really wanted to cry when James broke down

and said something about Bobby and Dr.Drew stated

something like 'James, Bobby isn't here.'

also when James and Randy were hugging and crying

together when heading to the car.

My mother and I were calling in between commercials

telling our thoughts and then

I called her when the show ended she was crying/ She said "I felt like I was at a funeral"

"This is so sad."

I hope we will see big changes with this family.

The next time I see this family on any television programs ,I want to see

a healthier family, great smiles, tears of joy, lots of laughter, and them telling

us they are getting the group back together.

What I really want to hear them say: "We are drug-free and this time for good."

-- TIME WILL REVEAL

RosesRred said:

mjscarousal said:

I know I hope and pray for the entire family. It was really heartbreaking watching that clip. Such a shame, their so talented and they were a good looking family as well sad to see what drugs have done on exception of EL who looks great for his age despite his addiction.

I still can't get over this show. I guess it hurts more because you can see

how much pain they are in and you hate to hear any of them dying from this

addiction, not just their family, but anyone dealing

with any type of addiction. I really wanted to cry when James broke down

and said something about Bobby and Dr.Drew stated

something like 'James, Bobby isn't here.'

also when James and Randy were hugging and crying

together when heading to the car.

My mother and I were calling in between commercials

telling our thoughts and then

I called her when the show ended she was crying/ She said "I felt like I was at a funeral"

"This is so sad."

I hope we will see big changes with this family.

The next time I see this family on any television programs ,I want to see

a healthier family, great smiles, tears of joy, lots of laughter, and them telling

us they are getting the group back together.

What I really want to hear them say: "We are drug-free and this time for good."

-- TIME WILL REVEAL

I think for their health they are really going to need to say goodbye to thoughts of the "group" and getting back together. Trying to recapture that experience, or the fall from the Grace of that existence, could pull on heart guilt strings and other emotional baggage - a precursor to relapsing. And wow, what year was their Unsung? They look decades older in this footage from Dr. Drew. It is heartbreaking. I don't pray much, but I will be praying for these guys in the coming days.