Did she somehow forget that God is Love and He is color blind...Jill needs to sing and Stop the male/female bashing...

Jill is speaking out against black men discriminating against black women. there is nothing wrong with that.

This is impart the crux of the matter but I think black women time and energy is being spent in the wrong direction. Sadly, to many Black men are stuck on stupid, lazy, and/or too narcissistic to see how this involves them as it relates to the well being of our community. Demographics are very important to the viability the sustainability of nations. Black people need to start asking ourselves why numbers, our numbers don't appear to give us all pause.

Black men are being marginalized out of communities at a rate that's so furious in most metropolitan cities when black women reach middle age we out number black men by 37 %. Those number jump to almost half by the age of 60, 48%. Diseases, mass incarceration, gun violence, uneducated, chronic unemployment,and underemployed are the main reasons why black women can't find suitable mates. Those suitable mates are in jail, in the grave, dying of: gun violence, diabetes, high blood pressure, strokes, lung/prostrate cancer and AIDS), high school drop outs, drug addicts, and convicted felons. Until there's some type of concerted effort to address the causes that leads to the affect, Black women like Ms. Scott will still have an issues with interracial marriages and or relationships.


Of course this is a complex issue: I've address just one of the main issues. There are others: the lying and psychological gamesmanship be played out in black relationships. I've been waiting since the Black Power Movement for use to speak truth.. author Michele Wallace tried and was railraod out of the community on rail. the band plays on.


This is the best post so far on this subject. You appear to be very well read. I like Michelle Wallace. Are you familiar with the daniel moynihan report? In a nutshell, this report basically blamed the problems of the black community on the black woman. It stated that black women were to dominant and undermining black men. This report was accepted by a lot of black men in the 60s including those in the black power movement, which was very sexist and contradictory ( the men talked black but slept white). This bullshit report I believe started the tensions between black men and women that we see today.



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Or are they dancing to the beat of their own drum? There's a fine line, one that Jill doesn't acknowledge which, IMHO, turns her argument petty.

Non-black people please stop making comments about racial issues because you guys are ignorant as hell. Shut up because you don't know what you're talking about. Black women don't date outside their race as much as non-black women because many non-black people aren't insterested in having a serious relationship with a black woman. They may have sex with them, but marriage is out of the question.
I also don't understand how so many non-black females date/marry black men, but are still racist. The sad part is that these black men know that those broads are racist, but will hook up with them anyway. I guess they're so desperate to have light-skinnned/good hair kids that they will put up with trash. All mixed kids aren't cute, so they better be careful. Look at Tiger Woods and Rain Pryor.
Black people really don't care if you call them racist. You're just changing the subject because you know that racism is still around. If that makes you uncomfortable, we don't care.

If *I* was Jill's friend, I would be hurt to read what she felt about my relationship.

So, in the story she keeps a smiling face but winces on the outside.

Oh, how gracious.


I would be so glad to call her my friend.

So..

No one seen the SVU episode huh?

If I continue to agree with you and Harlepolis, I am gonna find The Org a boring place. BTW: You dig the darkness, ehh?

I highly doubt that the male or female was plotting on classism when they found happiness within each other.

Real love is not exclusive like that.

Folks would be better off understanding and welcoming relationships made in love and harmony.

Yes. Real love is free from all that fuss.

She has a point and is speaking the truth but it's just a shame that it bothers her to see black men with white women. I don't think she can help the way she feels and it's this country's fault for it. But as far as a black woman having a hard time finding a mate, there is a whole world of other men out there besides just black men. A lot of black men aren't limiting themselves to just black women and she doesn't have to limit herself either. I see it this way, if white people are free to date every race under the sun, then why can't black people do the same if they wish to do so?

Really? Love can cost you a lot of things if you're not careful, and I'm not just talking about in terms of so-called "Taboo" relationships, like interracial dating/marriage.

As far as Black women are concerned, it's not that simple. According to surveys and marriage records and what I see in real life, we are the least desirable mates for other races in the US. I mean, it's easy for me to say Jill should drop Black men altogether and date a Caucasian/non-Black dude, but what is not easy is actually finding one that is genuinely attracted to Black women. It's sad, but white/non-Black women are apparently the top choices for men, and that's where the resent comes from.....Black men can get an race they want, but the same cannot be said for Black women, for some strange reason.

Well, you broke down my sentence into a fragment to put a spin on it. But I'm not taking this to heart.

Yeah make fun of my bad grammar why do you. It seems like Non-Black folks are getting buttburt about what Scott said.

You took a portion out of context and started to run on a tangent with it.

Well, you broke down my sentence into a fragment to put a spin on it. But I'm not taking this to heart.

Yeah make fun of my bad grammar why do you. It seems like Non-Black folks are getting buttburt about what Scott said.

Yeah make fun of my bad grammar why do you. It seems like Non-Black folks are getting buttburt about what Scott said.