what? comming out of the closet or what im confused

a few days ago my gaydar went into full swing when I saw the Single video

People talk a lot about him being gay, whether he is or not (don't care) but I know for a fact that he's not going to do anything like that (especially if he wants to have a singing career)..... remember Tevin Campbell

I always thought Ne Yo and Tevin were similar

and the 90's are over, being gay is tolerated more this decade than last even though there is still a lot of homophobia

banks said:

I totally agree. He would not shoot his career in the foot, at this point of his career. If he was smart, he would not say a word and just keep people wondering.

I don't think being gay would change his talent or personality. I think he should come out if he really is

alphastreet said:

I agree. I hate when people suddenly try to "make it obvious" as soon as they "come out of the closet". Just continue to be yourself and do you and stop worrying about what others think.
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alphastreet said:

For the White and more mature consumers ... But Ne Yo's audience is young urban girls and guys and they will drop his ass fast
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banks said:

then they need to stop being narrowminded and same for other minority groups who are sooo homophobic and like to throw around "that's so gay" like it's degrading instead of empowering.

alphastreet said:

And poor Tevin was outed when he got caught propositioning the cop.. I still cringe when i think about how they dogged hin on the radio the day the story broke.. I was like damn here's is this young man dealing with something that he has no control over and he went from being loved by many to nothing

alphastreet said:

I hate that saying too...I wish that he could be himself if he is gay and still have a carrer but it will not be a Elton John or George Michael type of situation if he comes out

alphastreet said:

I guess if Ne-Yo was a rock/pop singer, it wouldn't have really been a problem. I remember the Tevin incident.

I sometimes say that's so gay but that's only if something literally is gay, not if it's 'so dumb' or 'so stupid' and I'm not all the way straight anyway but I don't flaunt my orientation in everyone's face either. If I say anything or even joke about it with narrowminded people, they will make it into a bad thing or think I have some kind of lifestyle when I'm really just shy and quiet me that likes guys and sometimes girls even if I would prefer dating guys.

whodknee said:

I didn't just mean blacks, I meant people of my background too who are worse than anyone when it comes to LGBTQQ
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alphastreet said:

In a perfect world.. but the world of r&b/hiphop will not be an accepting fraction in no NEAR FUTURE. It's just the way it is. Right or Wrong. Its a culture of heterosexual stereotypes.

Luther Vandross, RIP.. lived in that world for many many yrs and I dont blame him for not officially coming out. Sometimes what you do in the sheets is not a social issue. Not everyone can be a trailblazer in that regard.

I remember PATTI LABELLE, when asked said r&b/hip hop artists should stay in the closest. I was pretty surprised..as she has a legion of gay followers and has won the GLAAD award for acceptance and love for the LGBT community. But after thinking about it.. I see where she was coming from. She has kept luthers secret and many others for so many yrs. And having conversated with Ms Labelle in my lifetime.. I SO SEE, where she is coming from!

vandross was gay? he is too fat to be gay
tevin is gay??
where u got that from

I know people in the industry have said that a lot of r&b and hip hop artists are in the closet and no one knows but insiders, so I think it's being shunned and because of how some may associate it with AIDS when that is so 1980's of them.

asg said:

Vandross aluded to that fact for many yrs..and many people know of this..

Tevin got caught for accept a solicistation from an under cover cop and then said he was BI..lol

isthisdadawn said:

Cause she knows what will happen to their careers

isthisdadawn said:

Yeah Patti's right. I think in the R&B/hip-hop community, there's too many negative connotations with being homosexual that sometimes it's best for even proud gay black men to not wanna be so open with everybody. In a way some of us who are of different orientations never choose to wanna reveal it, not because we're scared but because...it ain't none of their business.

So it's kinda damned if you do, damned if you don't.

Timmy84 said:

Yup.. i agree.. let me do what I DO.. and not have to make a spectacle of myself.

asg said:

Where is the logic in that ?

He tried hard to control his weight, but suffered much from the extreme weight-losses and gains.

r.i.p.

isthisdadawn said:

Lol...baby u know better than to think he gonna come out. It would ruin his career. Yes he is on top of the radar catch list and I would not be suprised at all.

isthisdadawn said:

CORRECTION: Tevin once said he was trysexual.

That boy ain't bit more "coming out" than the man in the moon. I got to give it to him though, that Miss Independent remix - "She Got Her Own" is my SHIT!!!!! I swear he was thinking of me when he wrote that song

Now I don't know if he gay or not, though he is suspect...but he can write his ass off!

Sadly, his career will be over if he does that. Female fans want to believe they have a chance with their singer, they will abandon him.

I have no problem with Ne-yo pretending 2 b straight. I just want him 2 stop pretending 2 b Michael Jackson.

npgmaverick said:

Swagger jacking is bad for your health.