JackieBlue said:

Rhondab said:

can't help it. my dad raised me to be the opposite of what this song portrays.

its really not portraying anything. I think they were trying to say that if you're in a relationship, that you want to take care of, love on, be there for, your partner. This song is coming from young women who just lost their virginity a few years back and are dating rappers and athletes.

Handclapsfingasnapz said:

its really not portraying anything. I think they were trying to say that if you're in a relationship, that you want to take care of, love on, be there for, your partner. This song is coming from young women who just lost their virginity a few years back and are dating rappers and athletes.



I think its a little off....but I get the point.

what happened to independent women?

ehuffnsd said:

they at home all day now, rubbin their man's crusty-assed feet and washin their dirty drawerz, i suppose.

OnionJuice said:

I don't give two pumps and a stroke about being madly in love with someone and I don't care if she is just talking about her man. I've been in love before, madly and never thought the other person was my reason for living, my purpose in life. Fuck that. If that person moves on or croaks, you no longer have a purpose in life?

Cater 2 U

Baby I see you working hard
Wanna let you know I’m proud
Let ya know that I admire what you do
Don’t know if I need to reassure you
My life would be purposeless without you

If I want it (got it) when I ask you (you provide it)
You inspire me to be better
You challenge me for the better
sit back and let me pour all of my love let a

Let me help you
Take off your shoes
Untie your shoe strings
Take off your cuff links
What you wanna eat boo?
Let me feed you
Let me run your bath water
Whatever you desire
I'll supply ya
Sing you a song
Turn the game on
I’ll brush your hair
Help you put your do-rag on
Want a foot rub
Want a manicure
Baby I’m yours
I wanna cater 2 u boy

Let me cater 2 u
Cause baby this is your day
Do anything for my man
Baby you blow me away
I got your slippers
your dinner
Your dessert and so much more
Anything you want,
Let me cater to you
Inspire me from the heart
Can't nothing tear us apart
You all I want in a man
I put my life in your hands
I got your slippers, your dinner,
Your dessert and so much more
Anything you want,
I wanna cater 2 u

Baby I’m happy you're home
Let me hold you in my arms
I just want to take the stress away from you
Makin’ sure that I’m doing my part
Boy is there something you need me to do
If you want it, (I got it)
Say the word and (I will try it)
I know whatever I’m not fulfillin’
another woman is willing
I’m gone fulfill you my body and spirit
I promise ya
I'll keep myself up
remain the same chick
you fell in love with
I'll keep it tight
I'll keep my figure right
I’ll keep my hair fixed
be rockin the hottest outfits
When you come home late
Tap me on my shoulder, I’ll roll over
Baby I heard you,
I’m here to serve you
this love you need
to give it is my joy
All I wanna do is cater to you boy

Let me cater 2 u
Cause baby this is your day
Do anything for my man
Baby you blow me away
I got your slippers
your dinner
Your dessert and so much more
Anything you want,
Let me cater to you
Inspire me from the heart
Can't nothing tear us apart
You all I want in a man
I put my life in your hands
I got your slippers,
your dinner,
Your dessert and so much more
Anything you want,
I wanna cater 2 u

Wanna give my class
my strength
my will to live
That’s the least I can do
Let me cater to you
Through the good, the bad
the ups and the downs
I’ll still be here for you
Let me cater to you
Cuz you’re beautiful
I love the way you walk
Fullfill your every desire
Your wish is my command
I wanna cater to my man
Your heart
So pure your love shines through
The darkness we’ll get through
So much of me is you
I wanna cater to my man

Let me cater 2 u
Cause baby this is your day
Do anything for my man
Baby you blow me away
I got your slippers
your dinner
Your dessert and so much more
Anything you want,
Let me cater to you
Inspire me from the heart
Can't nothing tear us apart
You all I want in a man
I put my life in your hands
I got your slippers,
your dinner,
Your dessert and so much more
Anything you want,
I wanna cater 2 u


[Edited 7/21/05 5:18am]

when michelle sings..all i hear is



baaaaa baaaaa baaaa

I aint really no fan of Destinys Child, but I do like them though. "Cater 2 U" is one of DC's best songs. Im feelin it to death. But the song is seriously being taken out of context. The song aint even about women being nothing without men. Remember this is from the same group that made "Independent Woman". Whats wrong with wanting to do anything/whatever for your love partner? It aint like they said they wanted to lick his dirt of their man's boots or anything.
[Edited 7/21/05 12:16pm]

ehuffnsd said:

they at home all day now, rubbin their man's crusty-assed feet and washin their dirty drawerz, i suppose.

FunkMistress said:

Again, I want to emphasize that I feel that you're taking Rhonda's comments about the song out of proportion. I have to agree with her that the song in no way is condoning being overly submisive to men and is about treating your male mate special which is not wrong if you're in love.
[Edited 7/21/05 12:04pm]

MsLegs said:

Exactly and something that wasn't mentioned in the song, which I'm sure the girls do believe in (as do I), is that that whole "Cater to U" mentality GOES BOTH WAYS in a healthy and successful relationship. I'm sure those girls don't do all of that for nothing, nor should any other woman. There's another song on the album about a man who doesn't treat their woman right in which they sing "I cater to my man, baby cater to me. Take me out sometime. Give me my quality time" and so on. So it's two sided, give and take, not some Stepford Wife crap

PurpleRighteous1 said:

Yeah, take me out to dinner once in a while if I'm not too tired from brushing your hair, cooking your dinner, working out so I don't get fat, slicing the corns off your toes, fetching your slippers, buying the "hottest outfits," sucking your earwax out with a straw...

Give and take, you know?

Scorpion said:

Lose my Breath????

Dude that record sounds like an ESPN News bed. Whenever I hear that wackness I'm expecting to hear Stuart Scott.... Oh yeah! Today Lebron James gave it to em in Seattle! or something. Dude that record should have been a TV jingle

OnionJuice said:

I don't give two pumps and a stroke about being madly in love with someone and I don't care if she is just talking about her man. I've been in love before, madly and never thought the other person was my reason for living, my purpose in life. Fuck that. If that person moves on or croaks, you no longer have a purpose in life?

Stymie said:

No, it means you find another purpose. Strength is being able to give your everything to somebody knowing that if something goes wrong you'll be okay. You just have to be wise enough to know what and who to give all of yourself to.

whodknee said:

You've made a valid statement.

MsLegs said:

Thank you

Stymie said:

No, it means you find another purpose. Strength is being able to give your everything to somebody knowing that if something goes wrong you'll be okay. You just have to be wise enough to know what and who to give all of yourself to.

The only lyric I don't like in the song is "my life would be purposeless without you."


Eveything else is fine.

The difference between this song and the 1950's oppressive male-centered atmosphere is that these women have choices and don't have to cook, clean, and care for their men unless they want too.

And because they love these men, they understand that intimacy is in small gestures.

Ever had a lover brush your hair?, not because you couldn't do it, but because grooming is such a very personal gesture that conveys a lot of sweetness. Relationships are made rock solid on such sweetness (I used to watch my uncle come home from a hard day at work and collapse on the floor at my aunts knees. She would take his shirt off and rub his shoulders. Then fix him dinner. That image can still bring a tear to my eyes. Seeing that definitely affected how I comfort a man. I've had one man tell me as he lay in my lap and I carresed his chest with one hand and rubbed his hair with the other "You sure know how to make a man feel good." )



We're talking not about how men and women should in general behave toward one another -- this song is not a footnote to the struggle between the sexes -- it's about a woman intimately catering to her one lover.


I like the lines about rolling over when the man comes home and keeping the figure right. This is how a man gets P-whipped so he won't be putting his nose (and his dick) elsewhere.

I think I'll make my future husband profess to keep his figure right. People gotta keep their shit together and not get all lax. Nothing wrong with that.


And, DC has said the album is like a story of love. Over the course of the songs, we see the women flirting, finding, and getting to know a man (Lose My Breath, Soldier), falling in love, becoming sprung (Cater to Me, T-Shirt), then realizing they are in too deep and making bad decisions for a no-good man (Is She the Reason, Girl), then they have to pry themselves away from the relationship (Bad Habit, If) and find themselves again (Free, Through With Love) and then engage in a healthier relationship (Love).


If you consider the entire story that's told over the album I don't think it contradicts their independent woman image at all. And I don't think girls will be negatively affected. The album clearly teaches girls to give your all in love if a guy is worthy, but if he isn't fall back on your girls, find your strength, and move on.

I love it.

An intense love requires some catering... keep in mind she screams at the end of Cater that the man is "such a good man." So, I'm sure he deserves whatever he's getting.


Women who don't want to do small gestures like fix dinner for their mates or put their do rags on ... will eventually be left to wonder where the intimacy went and why their guy if fucking someone else who's catering to him.


Neo-feminism is surging right now. Women have seen society change underthe pioneer feminists and know there is not now as GREAT a war between the sexes as there was before. So, modern women interpret the gender equality struggle differently.

Don't get me wrong... there is still war (I mean just look at the misogyny in hiphop) but that war doesnt' have to be fought in the bedrooms ... I mean unless you want your man to leave...
[Edited 7/24/05 13:42pm]