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Reply #120 posted 04/28/16 4:10pm

controoversy19
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Hey all, just found this forum few days ago, was feeling a bit lost and joining felt right,I saw a clip of my guitar gently weeps the other day and somebody had put, "imagine being so talented that being one of the greatest rock guitarists of all time is a little known fact about you!". That for me sums prince up, hopefully the rest of the world will now realise what we have lost. Icon and legend are thrown about to easily nowadays, but sometimes people earn it, Prince was and always will be a true icon, he did his own thing and he did have a god given gift, I hope they release some of those 20000 songs for years to come coz I for one am not ready to hear no more amazing and ground breaking music. Sorry may have rambled on a bit, Prince RIP, heavens band just got a mega upgrade x
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Reply #121 posted 04/29/16 5:12am

purpleizpassio
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bigtimefan said:

P.S. Am I the only one that finds it significant that the date of his death equals 7???


I actually had not paid attention to that...wow. eek
Shake....shake, shake, shake.
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Reply #122 posted 04/29/16 9:37am

Melted

I am at a lost for words, for me that's rare. I haven't cried, I haven't felt anything much these past few days, just numb. I just keep playing the music and starring into space. My half-sister first hipped me to Prince for real. One day she showed me his Dirty Mind album cover like it was a nasty mag lol. I was mesmerized by his daring sexuality. That is why I love him so (besides he's funky). Fine tuned to his female side (his twin), yet the male side was well defined and apparent. This is how I know he was guilded by Mother and I'm no different than any other woman, we love a sensitive/strong man. For me I guess he's not dead. Just transitioned. Like water. You can freeze it, but after a while it melts eek. Nevertheless, it's still water just in a different form. Such is life in this universe. Prince...Don't rest in peace. Spread your love throughout the world cause the world is in need. Don't rest in heaven because people are still dying on inner city streets at the hands of their protectors, racists, gangs, judges (who are the worst kind of gangsta). Religious fanactics have caused great world wide agony. Let your words and music open up the minds and hearts people throughout the world as they finally discover the legacy that is Prince. I love you baby.

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Reply #123 posted 04/29/16 12:43pm

Diananeith

So..... it's been a very very long time since I have posted on the org. I still come by to see what's going on but that's it. Of course with recent events I feel a need to say something. Not sure what since I have been feeling pretty empty since I heard that Prince died. Doesn't even look right typing it. When the news first broke it didnt even cross my mind that they were talking about Prince. Then a friend texted me around my lunch time saying that he died. I promptly called him and cussed him out for saying such horrible things and getting his news from untrusted news sources. I scolded him for believing everything that he reads on the internet. Then I got back to my desk and my boss came running over because he knows that I'm a fan. Asking me if I knew. I guess the look on my face caused him to say that the news was coming from trusted sources. I remember feeling dizzy and dropping everything that was in my hands and telling my boss that I coudn't talk right then. Felt like someone ripped something out of me and in the hole I was being filled with thick black smoke that prevented me from thinking and moving. I felt like this thick black smoke was filling my body and I couldn't feel anything but a mix of anger and sadness. By Monday I was feeling the smoke start to leave. But I'm feeling anxious when I wake up then I see the color purple in my mind and I feel better. It's crazy that I never meant him and I feel like this. I don't want to talk to anyone that doesn't feel the way I do about him because this isn't just news for me. I am experiencing a loss right now. I finally found someone yesterday that I could talk to and I got to thinking I should connect more on the org to find like minded people. I'm just grateful for the org right now. I've really needed to be able to come here during this time. I feel so bad for his family and people that knew him closely. Because they also have to deal with the fans that loved him so. I don't know what kind of world this will be without Prince in it. A piece of me still doesn't believe to this day that he is actually gone.

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Reply #124 posted 04/29/16 7:42pm

eire

The physical pain is gone from my chest finally. But an hour doesn't go by that I don't think of him. I walked into the supermarket yesterday and saw his face everyone on magazines and stopped breathing for a moment as if I was punched in the chest and no one around me knew that all I wanted to do was break down and cry right there, it's so hard sometimes. I have started listening to each album in order today on my drive to work. I feel best when I am listening to the music, I think in a way I'm pretendng while he's singing in my car that this hasn't happened to us all.

But thankfully after 30+ years of having him in my life I got one my most invaluable lessons from him " Love is God, God is Love". Prince is with me, I will be ok.

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Reply #125 posted 04/29/16 10:04pm

free2bfreeda

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4/21 was crazy

yeah, today i'm just feeling the brunt of the sorrow

from

when Prince passed on, on 4/21 of April, i'm thinking, at the time i heard it,

i was in shock/overloaded/in disbelief,

maybe more like an overload of hearing unbeievable words

that sunk into the very fiber of my being.

all the way into my heart and soul.

and all this emotion was based upon a 57yr old Prince who was gone.

i felt all this terrible info coming in at me via a car radio viz a south bay ca news station, KCBS

i didn't want to face

all this horrific info that came at me while i was out and about on a suny ca day.

so

since then i've been evading the time needed in processing this sad truth

while knowing

i have to come to the sorrowful and very sad eye realization in my life & face this new reality

prince

now no longer can i (think) i feel (really feel) his presence in my weekly music listening moments.

every since 1978 i welcomed Prince into my life.

and have felt so cool the way he shared

his musical genius and intellect with me.

now he's gone

dove

for the following i thank you Prince

-> for being a master music instrumentalist, vocalist and very confident musician

crysball

for being

-> a master lyricist

-> a master vocalist

-> a master body mover (man could dance nod )

a man that was so cool, confident and bold in his approach on to the musical landscape of this/my time & space.

his unusual looks of man beauty. his celebration of his maleness made me appreciate me more in being a female person.

his voical tones were the coolest fusion of jazz/gospel/funk/rock/and evolutionary pop. imo he was truly a rainbow and beyond as far as his talent went.

Prince was my wooly haired warrior.

i appreciated

-> his look ~ unique

-> his sense of style ~ bold, free, uncompromising

-> his growth in music - phenominal

-> his business acumen - courageous, shrewd and sharp

yes i loved his time and presence on this earth during my then/now time.

so yes missing Mr Prince Rogers Nelson has meant he gave me the musical feeling(s)

of new dimensions

in love.

today i'm truly missing him.

however having faith in me to be moving on is a necessity, so thank you prince for touching my life with beauty in song that you shared with me and mine so wonderfully.

i wil miss ur

"kiss"

on my life.

(i wore a purple crystal earring today in his/your honor)

thk u Prince several billion times, times infinity

FOR being YOU.

now

moving forward

with

yes

and

great Prince Music Memories




(thank u for letting me share my Prince feelings of an emotional visual nature)

[Edited 4/30/16 20:28pm]

“Transracial is a term that has long since been defined as the adoption of a child that is of a different race than the adoptive parents,” : https://thinkprogress.org...fb6e18544a
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Reply #126 posted 04/29/16 10:05pm

free2bfreeda

double post

[Edited 4/29/16 22:07pm]

“Transracial is a term that has long since been defined as the adoption of a child that is of a different race than the adoptive parents,” : https://thinkprogress.org...fb6e18544a
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Reply #127 posted 04/30/16 12:36am

Finchy65

As some of you might have seen, I only joined up here after Prince's passing. I was a regular on here for many years, sometimes quite a few times daily, to get my 'dose' of Prince news. I didn't join, as there was often lots of politics etc here, which I didn't want to be a part of.

Since Prince's passing the love for our musical genius has been so heartwarming, with so much positivity. I, like so many, have been grieving since the news and again wish to pass on my condolences to fans here. It has been hard to comprehend that he has gone...

I'm no different from so many here - it's our love of Prince's music and live performances that made me such a huge fan since a DJ friend of mine played my Controversy in 1981. Becoming the 'Aussie Connection' for Eileen Murton's 'Controversy' magazine, before the Internet, was a real honor and so many friendships formed and great experiences.


My good friend, Marylou Badeaux, who I mentioned was part of the 'inner circle' for 20 years and had LOTS of contact with Prince, like so many in that 'circle' is absolutely gutted right now. Prince had so much more to give and LIVED for his fans.

In the last day or two, there has been some bitching amongs Orgers on posts I'm reading. Some people's views may not be the same as yours, but everyone grieves in a different way. Please, keep positive and let's respect the memory of this amazing man, who gave so many of us, so much joy, over so many years...

Cheers - Michael S
[Edited 4/30/16 0:36am]
[Edited 4/30/16 0:39am]
[Edited 4/30/16 0:40am]
Former 'Australian Connection' for Eileen Murton's Controversy Magazine. Massive fan of Prince's music since 1981, collector since 1983....
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Reply #128 posted 04/30/16 11:30am

purplethunder3
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When Doves Cry—Why the Lost Child Deeply Grieves the Loss of Prince

By Toshia Humphries Apr 23 2016

Prince

Though an entire nation of fans grieves the loss of Prince Rogers Nelson—simply known as Prince—there are those of us who are seemingly devastated in ways typically reserved for only family members and close friends. Yet, though we’ve never met him—and some of us might have never had the chance to witness his live performance—we feel a deeper connection than that of a mere fan. For those of us once in the role of a lost child, Prince was a caretaker and a trusted companion.

The lost child is one of five dysfunctional family roles. Essentially, this role is self-explanatory. The child loses themselves in music, books, movies, etc. Buried in his or her room—a safe haven from the storm raging in other areas of the home—the lost child straps on headphones or crawls inside a book or video game and escapes.

Characters in novels, actors in movies and artists behind songs become the guardians of a beautifully constructed fantasy world—one in which no pain, shame or abuse of any kind exists. These fictional personas, musicians and thespians unwittingly assume a savior role within our lives. They shield us from pain, death and rescue us from a certain destruction.

.

As such, when the world loses one of its celebrities, we lose a childhood champion, an emancipator and someone we indeed considered a member of our fabricated, fantasy family. Since most of us were surrounded by people who were emotionally unavailable, negligent and incapable of connecting, the latter is not a concept completely impossible to believe.

.

The lost child typically doesn’t have access to authentic relationships within the biological family. Family members are generally escaping their own realities with drugs, alcohol and other destructive means. They’re void of compassion and empathy. Essentially, even living in the same home, they aren’t any more accessible than Prince, himself.

.

Therefore, creating emotional bonds with artists who speak meaningful words of wisdom, share love and intimate emotional experiences through lyrics and masterfully produced songs is somewhat expected of a lost child. Additionally, the grief those of us who once identified as a lost child now feel is very real, regardless of the fantastical ways in which our deep, emotional connections were formed. Moreover, just as we needed and deserved the right to feel, grieve and express that experience in our childhood, we are still now entitled to that right in adulthood.

.

RIP, Prince. And, from this onetime lost child, thank you for saving me. You were appreciated and cherished in ways you could never know, and you will be greatly missed and celebrated, eternally.

"Music gives a soul to the universe, wings to the mind, flight to the imagination and life to everything." --Plato

https://youtu.be/CVwv9LZMah0
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Reply #129 posted 04/30/16 12:14pm

bigtimefan

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purplethunder3121 said:

When Doves Cry—Why the Lost Child Deeply Grieves the Loss of Prince

By Toshia Humphries Apr 23 2016

Wow, so beautifully put and well written. Thank you for this.

Eventually every cloud runs out of rain.
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Reply #130 posted 05/01/16 2:02am

isobelfq

Wow, so interesting. This answers a lot of questions that I've even been asking myself. The funny thing is I see myself in a majority of those roles, including the scapegoat. My family tried very hard to turn me into the scapegoat but it just wasn't in my nature. Prince was a shepard for the lost children because he was one himself, I think. Thank you, Prince. This lost child will never forget the love and the family you gave her.

purplethunder3121 said:

When Doves Cry—Why the Lost Child Deeply Grieves the Loss of Prince

By Toshia Humphries Apr 23 2016

Prince

Though an entire nation of fans grieves the loss of Prince Rogers Nelson—simply known as Prince—there are those of us who are seemingly devastated in ways typically reserved for only family members and close friends. Yet, though we’ve never met him—and some of us might have never had the chance to witness his live performance—we feel a deeper connection than that of a mere fan. For those of us once in the role of a lost child, Prince was a caretaker and a trusted companion.

The lost child is one of five dysfunctional family roles. Essentially, this role is self-explanatory. The child loses themselves in music, books, movies, etc. Buried in his or her room—a safe haven from the storm raging in other areas of the home—the lost child straps on headphones or crawls inside a book or video game and escapes.

Characters in novels, actors in movies and artists behind songs become the guardians of a beautifully constructed fantasy world—one in which no pain, shame or abuse of any kind exists. These fictional personas, musicians and thespians unwittingly assume a savior role within our lives. They shield us from pain, death and rescue us from a certain destruction.

.

As such, when the world loses one of its celebrities, we lose a childhood champion, an emancipator and someone we indeed considered a member of our fabricated, fantasy family. Since most of us were surrounded by people who were emotionally unavailable, negligent and incapable of connecting, the latter is not a concept completely impossible to believe.

.

The lost child typically doesn’t have access to authentic relationships within the biological family. Family members are generally escaping their own realities with drugs, alcohol and other destructive means. They’re void of compassion and empathy. Essentially, even living in the same home, they aren’t any more accessible than Prince, himself.

.

Therefore, creating emotional bonds with artists who speak meaningful words of wisdom, share love and intimate emotional experiences through lyrics and masterfully produced songs is somewhat expected of a lost child. Additionally, the grief those of us who once identified as a lost child now feel is very real, regardless of the fantastical ways in which our deep, emotional connections were formed. Moreover, just as we needed and deserved the right to feel, grieve and express that experience in our childhood, we are still now entitled to that right in adulthood.

.

RIP, Prince. And, from this onetime lost child, thank you for saving me. You were appreciated and cherished in ways you could never know, and you will be greatly missed and celebrated, eternally.

Join me under the waterfall
Climb the rainbow tree

love is my color when I am shown love in return
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Reply #131 posted 05/01/16 6:28am

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This is very strange. His passing has affected me more than I would have expected because I am not the hardcore "fan" type nor did I actually know him personally.
I'm just someone who listened to his music since the 1980's and didn't pay too much attention to his career because of this thing called life. Only over the last few years did I manage to listen to all his albums and much more. And watch the emergence of a new band, experimenting with social media and livestream and lots of fantastic music. I particularly enjoyed the horn and string arrangements embedded in his last album. Just divine.
I've had the opportunity to see him live 3 times, including a brilliant aftershow with the NPG and one of the recent absolutely fantastic piano and a microphone concerts. This was a gift, he played for us two hours straight.
The depth and breadth of his music is astounding, and together with the sad circumstances of his death, this is what makes it so hard now that his creative force has suddenly stopped. And he was such a cute and sexy man.
Only through his passing, and the widespread mourning from family to associates to fans and celebrities does it become apparent what a great loss it is, this charismatic, genius force of creative energy called Prince.
.
PS: Knowing the viciousness of some orgers, just want to add that I realise this might all be obvious to many of you but for me to write this down, on a fan page, it's what I need to do right now.
[Edited 5/1/16 6:40am]
...every night another symphony...
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Reply #132 posted 05/01/16 6:35am

psychodelicide

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OldFriends4Sale said:

Prince’s regular table at Dakota jazz Club, in Minneapolis, was adorned with roses to commemorate his death. Photograph: Ryan Felton for the Guardian

Prince’s regular table at Dakota jazz Club, in Minneapolis, was adorned with roses to commemorate his death.



Aww, that damn near made me start crying again. sad

RIP, mom. I will forever miss and love you.
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Reply #133 posted 05/01/16 8:27am

spastic78

purplethunder3121 said:

When Doves Cry—Why the Lost Child Deeply Grieves the Loss of Prince


By Toshia Humphries Apr 23 2016



Prince



Though an entire nation of fans grieves the loss of Prince Rogers Nelson—simply known as Prince—there are those of us who are seemingly devastated in ways typically reserved for only family members and close friends. Yet, though we’ve never met him—and some of us might have never had the chance to witness his live performance—we feel a deeper connection than that of a mere fan. For those of us once in the role of a lost child, Prince was a caretaker and a trusted companion.


The lost child is one of five dysfunctional family roles. Essentially, this role is self-explanatory. The child loses themselves in music, books, movies, etc. Buried in his or her room—a safe haven from the storm raging in other areas of the home—the lost child straps on headphones or crawls inside a book or video game and escapes.



Characters in novels, actors in movies and artists behind songs become the guardians of a beautifully constructed fantasy world—one in which no pain, shame or abuse of any kind exists. These fictional personas, musicians and thespians unwittingly assume a savior role within our lives. They shield us from pain, death and rescue us from a certain destruction.


.


As such, when the world loses one of its celebrities, we lose a childhood champion, an emancipator and someone we indeed considered a member of our fabricated, fantasy family. Since most of us were surrounded by people who were emotionally unavailable, negligent and incapable of connecting, the latter is not a concept completely impossible to believe.


.


The lost child typically doesn’t have access to authentic relationships within the biological family. Family members are generally escaping their own realities with drugs, alcohol and other destructive means. They’re void of compassion and empathy. Essentially, even living in the same home, they aren’t any more accessible than Prince, himself.


.


Therefore, creating emotional bonds with artists who speak meaningful words of wisdom, share love and intimate emotional experiences through lyrics and masterfully produced songs is somewhat expected of a lost child. Additionally, the grief those of us who once identified as a lost child now feel is very real, regardless of the fantastical ways in which our deep, emotional connections were formed. Moreover, just as we needed and deserved the right to feel, grieve and express that experience in our childhood, we are still now entitled to that right in adulthood.


.


RIP, Prince. And, from this onetime lost child, thank you for saving me. You were appreciated and cherished in ways you could never know, and you will be greatly missed and celebrated, eternally.





Wonderful analysis. Beautiful. Thank you. He was a beacon of light for me too. As a bi-racial child living in a white world during the '70s and '80s his music helped me bridge the divide and certainly eased the tension with "friends".
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Reply #134 posted 05/01/16 9:18am

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^..."Prince was a Shepard 4 the lost children, because he was one himself..." nod cry
[Edited 5/1/16 9:19am]
"We just let people talk & say whatever they want 2 say. 9 times out of 10, trust me, what's out there now, I wouldn't give nary one of these folks the time of day. That's why I don't say anything back, because there's so much that's wrong" - P, Dec '15
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Reply #135 posted 05/01/16 12:43pm

spoida

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i'm just adding my thoughts. i cant believe he has gone, his music enriched my life so much, as he did to us all. thanks to all for giving your thoughts, i'm not alone feeling empty.

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Reply #136 posted 05/01/16 4:13pm

OzlemUcucu

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I am missing Prince. confused

Prince I will always miss and love U.
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Reply #137 posted 05/01/16 9:09pm

free2bfreeda

Empress said:

free2bfreeda said:Related image

when U left us, there was a great global disturbance. U were/are so loved. U will be missed and at the same time U will be celebrated 4ever.

thx 4 ur great musical contribution to my/our world Prince.

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Freeda

[Edited 4/25/16 11:11am]

This is beautiful. Thank you.

u too.

(note: page image refreshed)

“Transracial is a term that has long since been defined as the adoption of a child that is of a different race than the adoptive parents,” : https://thinkprogress.org...fb6e18544a
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Reply #138 posted 05/02/16 11:34am

yellowday

Love isn`t love when it`s not forever. Anything else is liking.

You cannot stop loving. You just go on. Don`t try to fight it, it is easier this way.

Love the one`s you are with and when you turn on the music, he is right there.

He has given us so much. It will last for a lifetime.

I am looking forward to listening to all the goodies that will hopefully come out of his vault.

The only thing I am afraid of is that in a couple of years I won`t trust myself that I did actually experience all those wonderful, exciting, funky moments in concert. They were truely unbelievable! And not from thi earth:-)

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Reply #139 posted 05/02/16 12:44pm

free2bfreeda

Related image star star star star star star star

[Edited 5/2/16 20:10pm]

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Reply #140 posted 05/02/16 8:59pm

0rlando

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I still mourn my biggest loss.
This grief & heartache is still so strong.
He moved me like no other...

A BiG & heartfelt thank U 2 Ben, all the Orgers, & everyone in the Prince community. Hugs 2 All.

His legacy begins now &
It's up 2 us 2 make sure it gets a good start.

It ain't over!!
-"If U don't like,
what U see here
-get the FUNK out."
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Reply #141 posted 05/04/16 2:09am

Saxjedi

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14 years since I joined, and 10 years since my last post, but I have never stopped listening to Prince.

I'm sure everyone here understands what I want to say, but I don't know how to say it. Reading some of your posts here, it feels like many have spoken for me.
I know u people worthless scum give no heart but wrath of insults a brain-driven wave of destruction your bite is worse than your vocabulary. Shame on you all of you. Go feed your pigs coward.
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Reply #142 posted 05/04/16 1:28pm

bilbolives

purplethunder3121 said:

When Doves Cry—Why the Lost Child Deeply Grieves the Loss of Prince

By Toshia Humphries Apr 23 2016

Prince

Though an entire nation of fans grieves the loss of Prince Rogers Nelson—simply known as Prince—there are those of us who are seemingly devastated in ways typically reserved for only family members and close friends. Yet, though we’ve never met him—and some of us might have never had the chance to witness his live performance—we feel a deeper connection than that of a mere fan. For those of us once in the role of a lost child, Prince was a caretaker and a trusted companion.

The lost child is one of five dysfunctional family roles. Essentially, this role is self-explanatory. The child loses themselves in music, books, movies, etc. Buried in his or her room—a safe haven from the storm raging in other areas of the home—the lost child straps on headphones or crawls inside a book or video game and escapes.

Characters in novels, actors in movies and artists behind songs become the guardians of a beautifully constructed fantasy world—one in which no pain, shame or abuse of any kind exists. These fictional personas, musicians and thespians unwittingly assume a savior role within our lives. They shield us from pain, death and rescue us from a certain destruction.

.

As such, when the world loses one of its celebrities, we lose a childhood champion, an emancipator and someone we indeed considered a member of our fabricated, fantasy family. Since most of us were surrounded by people who were emotionally unavailable, negligent and incapable of connecting, the latter is not a concept completely impossible to believe.

.

The lost child typically doesn’t have access to authentic relationships within the biological family. Family members are generally escaping their own realities with drugs, alcohol and other destructive means. They’re void of compassion and empathy. Essentially, even living in the same home, they aren’t any more accessible than Prince, himself.

.

Therefore, creating emotional bonds with artists who speak meaningful words of wisdom, share love and intimate emotional experiences through lyrics and masterfully produced songs is somewhat expected of a lost child. Additionally, the grief those of us who once identified as a lost child now feel is very real, regardless of the fantastical ways in which our deep, emotional connections were formed. Moreover, just as we needed and deserved the right to feel, grieve and express that experience in our childhood, we are still now entitled to that right in adulthood.

.

RIP, Prince. And, from this onetime lost child, thank you for saving me. You were appreciated and cherished in ways you could never know, and you will be greatly missed and celebrated, eternally.

Thank you for this insight, which helps explain my deep connection to Prince and others. I also thank Prince for saving me. "Love God. May U live 2 see the dawn."--Prince

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Reply #143 posted 05/04/16 1:36pm

bilbolives

isobelfq said:

Wow, so interesting. This answers a lot of questions that I've even been asking myself. The funny thing is I see myself in a majority of those roles, including the scapegoat. My family tried very hard to turn me into the scapegoat but it just wasn't in my nature. Prince was a shepard for the lost children because he was one himself, I think. Thank you, Prince. This lost child will never forget the love and the family you gave her.

purplethunder3121 said:

When Doves Cry—Why the Lost Child Deeply Grieves the Loss of Prince

By Toshia Humphries Apr 23 2016

Prince

Though an entire nation of fans grieves the loss of Prince Rogers Nelson—simply known as Prince—there are those of us who are seemingly devastated in ways typically reserved for only family members and close friends. Yet, though we’ve never met him—and some of us might have never had the chance to witness his live performance—we feel a deeper connection than that of a mere fan. For those of us once in the role of a lost child, Prince was a caretaker and a trusted companion.

The lost child is one of five dysfunctional family roles. Essentially, this role is self-explanatory. The child loses themselves in music, books, movies, etc. Buried in his or her room—a safe haven from the storm raging in other areas of the home—the lost child straps on headphones or crawls inside a book or video game and escapes.

Characters in novels, actors in movies and artists behind songs become the guardians of a beautifully constructed fantasy world—one in which no pain, shame or abuse of any kind exists. These fictional personas, musicians and thespians unwittingly assume a savior role within our lives. They shield us from pain, death and rescue us from a certain destruction.

.

As such, when the world loses one of its celebrities, we lose a childhood champion, an emancipator and someone we indeed considered a member of our fabricated, fantasy family. Since most of us were surrounded by people who were emotionally unavailable, negligent and incapable of connecting, the latter is not a concept completely impossible to believe.

.

The lost child typically doesn’t have access to authentic relationships within the biological family. Family members are generally escaping their own realities with drugs, alcohol and other destructive means. They’re void of compassion and empathy. Essentially, even living in the same home, they aren’t any more accessible than Prince, himself.

.

Therefore, creating emotional bonds with artists who speak meaningful words of wisdom, share love and intimate emotional experiences through lyrics and masterfully produced songs is somewhat expected of a lost child. Additionally, the grief those of us who once identified as a lost child now feel is very real, regardless of the fantastical ways in which our deep, emotional connections were formed. Moreover, just as we needed and deserved the right to feel, grieve and express that experience in our childhood, we are still now entitled to that right in adulthood.

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RIP, Prince. And, from this onetime lost child, thank you for saving me. You were appreciated and cherished in ways you could never know, and you will be greatly missed and celebrated, eternally.

Thank you for the contribution that "Prince was the shepherd of lost children because he was one himself, I think." His lyric, "I'm your messiah and you're the reason why" came to mind. He understood alienation at a deep level. Thank you, Prince, for leading us out of the forest of conformity and into the flowing fields of funkiness.

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Reply #144 posted 05/04/16 4:52pm

MoBettaBliss

i know people deal with things in their own way... but i don't understand all the speculation from fans surrounding what may or may not have happened... i expect it from the media... but as a fan surely the right thing to do is to wait until we have the facts... rather than throwing out opinions on things we really don't have a clue about... it's just kinda gross to be honest

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Reply #145 posted 05/04/16 8:03pm

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I've avoided trying to read articles about the cause of his passing or his estate- its becoming too much of a media circus. After 2-3 days, I couldn't read anything anymore because after the tributes, it seemed to look like they wanted to go back and call him weird and eccentric again.

Which it was nice to come back to this site to see people who sincerely love his work and were touched by his impact. Aside from the vault, that may be the best legacy he has. I'd rather read anything on this site than a news article now.

"So shall it be written, so shall it be sung..." whistle
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Reply #146 posted 05/05/16 7:52am

MissRuby

I just wanted to post here to express my grief cause people in my life are sick of me talking about it now.

It's been 2 weeks now and it still hurt more than seems right. Tonight I saw Purple Rain at the cinema. I thought that would be my closure, my goodbye. I thought I was ready for it. But man I wasn't. I sobbed. I sobbed as it began, I sobbed during The Beautiful Ones, I sobbed badly as he started to play Purple Rain on his piano and I sat in my chair still sobbing as the lights came back on at the end. I could barely speak to anyone afterwards, just like on the morning of his death.


worst of all... I feel guilty. I feel guilty that I hurt so bad still. I'm a grown woman, I shouldn't still be crying over a man I never met, yet truely loved in some strange way.

I'm so sorry you have to listen to this fair weather orger who has floated in and out for the past 5 years. I just don't have anyone else who will listen.

Much love to you all
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Reply #147 posted 05/05/16 9:03am

isobelfq

MissRuby said:

I just wanted to post here to express my grief cause people in my life are sick of me talking about it now. It's been 2 weeks now and it still hurt more than seems right. Tonight I saw Purple Rain at the cinema. I thought that would be my closure, my goodbye. I thought I was ready for it. But man I wasn't. I sobbed. I sobbed as it began, I sobbed during The Beautiful Ones, I sobbed badly as he started to play Purple Rain on his piano and I sat in my chair still sobbing as the lights came back on at the end. I could barely speak to anyone afterwards, just like on the morning of his death. worst of all... I feel guilty. I feel guilty that I hurt so bad still. I'm a grown woman, I shouldn't still be crying over a man I never met, yet truely loved in some strange way. I'm so sorry you have to listen to this fair weather orger who has floated in and out for the past 5 years. I just don't have anyone else who will listen. Much love to you all

It's ok. You cry. Don't feel guilty. We all love him and because of him we all have each other. I haven't been able to watch Purple Rain. Hell, I can't watch the end of Under the Cherry Moon. Who cares if you never met him in the flesh? I feel like I lost someone more important to me than a family member or loved one. There are no words to express this grief. We all just need to be here for each other.

Join me under the waterfall
Climb the rainbow tree

love is my color when I am shown love in return
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Reply #148 posted 05/05/16 9:49am

anotherfan

Yes it is OK to cry. It's healthy to cry or do whatever we need to do to mourn this. Letting it out is healthy. There is nothing wrong with feeling sad or feeling any other way.

I do very much appreciate this site. This place to mourn is so much of what I need. Popping in and out of this site, being a member forever or a day. Never joining this site. It all doesn't matter. It hurts period. Fans around the world are mouring.

May he be resting in peace

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Reply #149 posted 05/05/16 10:03am

larakay

purplethunder3121 said:

When Doves Cry—Why the Lost Child Deeply Grieves the Loss of Prince

By Toshia Humphries Apr 23 2016

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Though an entire nation of fans grieves the loss of Prince Rogers Nelson—simply known as Prince—there are those of us who are seemingly devastated in ways typically reserved for only family members and close friends. Yet, though we’ve never met him—and some of us might have never had the chance to witness his live performance—we feel a deeper connection than that of a mere fan. For those of us once in the role of a lost child, Prince was a caretaker and a trusted companion.

The lost child is one of five dysfunctional family roles. Essentially, this role is self-explanatory. The child loses themselves in music, books, movies, etc. Buried in his or her room—a safe haven from the storm raging in other areas of the home—the lost child straps on headphones or crawls inside a book or video game and escapes.

Characters in novels, actors in movies and artists behind songs become the guardians of a beautifully constructed fantasy world—one in which no pain, shame or abuse of any kind exists. These fictional personas, musicians and thespians unwittingly assume a savior role within our lives. They shield us from pain, death and rescue us from a certain destruction.

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As such, when the world loses one of its celebrities, we lose a childhood champion, an emancipator and someone we indeed considered a member of our fabricated, fantasy family. Since most of us were surrounded by people who were emotionally unavailable, negligent and incapable of connecting, the latter is not a concept completely impossible to believe.

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The lost child typically doesn’t have access to authentic relationships within the biological family. Family members are generally escaping their own realities with drugs, alcohol and other destructive means. They’re void of compassion and empathy. Essentially, even living in the same home, they aren’t any more accessible than Prince, himself.

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Therefore, creating emotional bonds with artists who speak meaningful words of wisdom, share love and intimate emotional experiences through lyrics and masterfully produced songs is somewhat expected of a lost child. Additionally, the grief those of us who once identified as a lost child now feel is very real, regardless of the fantastical ways in which our deep, emotional connections were formed. Moreover, just as we needed and deserved the right to feel, grieve and express that experience in our childhood, we are still now entitled to that right in adulthood.

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RIP, Prince. And, from this onetime lost child, thank you for saving me. You were appreciated and cherished in ways you could never know, and you will be greatly missed and celebrated, eternally.

Thank you for this, I really haven't had the words to express why his loss has been so profound for me but this sums it up perfectly.

I too was a lost child who never felt like I fit in, and his music saved me over and over again. No matter what happened in my life there was a Prince song or album to soothe my soul. He showed me it was sexy to be a powerful woman, it was okay to love whomever you wanted to love and you were cool as long as everything you did came from a place of love. Who he was as a person and his music have shaped who I am and have been doing so since the age of 7. He was one of my first childhood crushes! biggrin

He's been a part of my life for over three decades now, and I simply don't know what a world without him is. Frankly I thought he'd outlive us all!!! None of this make sense to me. Most days I only do the bare minimum, and I'm in a continual state of tears and exhaustion.

So I'm grateful for this site and for all of you to grieve with. I've lurked here off and on over the last 15, 16 years and I'm thankful for this community.

I'm grateful he brought us together. Rest in purple sweet Prince, you are missed dearly and forever.

[Edited 5/5/16 10:05am]

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