prodigalfan said:
artist76 said:
I don't think that saying you understand someone's actions is the same as condoning or encouraging it. Prodigalfan seems more pro-Mayte than I am now, but she (he?) is only saying s/he understands Prince for probably wanting out of that marriage, not that s/he thinks it was right. As for being in control, I'm sure Prince thought he was "in control" too; Mayte probably also felt "in control" - she has said she never thought she'd be divorced and that marriage should be forever. Most people go into marriage with the sincere intent and expectation of forever. But sometimes things happen and you realize that you are NOT in control. Nobody could anticipate that such a tragedy as the baby's death would happen, that is out of your control. The way that your partner reacts to it is also out of your control. There's only so much one person can do - there are two people in a marriage - and revisiting some old interviews, I get the sense that Prince actually did try to get through this together, he did feel bad for her, but they seem to have different incompatible coping mechanisms. He has said that he would like to be able to stop his wife's crying, and that he does not wallow in the past (I thought he was only referring to WB at the time); she, on the other hand, cries a lot and wallows. Lots of people get divorced for much smaller reasons, over much smaller challenges and stresses. In this case, I think what prodigal and I are saying is to cut them some slack.
Thanks for coming to my Defense here. I am pro Mayte. I think she got a raw deal. I was just realizing that prince got a raw del as well he jut didnt handle it well. I cn understand that though he didn't choose correctly, I can understand how things went the way they did. I also agree with you that they had different ways of coping. It is one thing to say you believe that marriage is forever. It is another thing to WORK on making that happened. I wonder if Mayte got therapy back then to work on her grief. Instead if burdening prince with her grief. It is true that they should have helped each other but if your spouse is incapable of helping you because he isn't strong enough to carry both in their emotional grief; then you have to help yourself or risk being left alone. Not morally correct, but reality here.
I am not judging Prince, maybe the old Prince. I'm only referring to the" Old Prince".
Because Prince is a changed man and he would never treat another woman like
this again..Right? .ok now he just reminds me of someone that just
treated women as objects, that is used to getting his ways. Whatever his heart desires.
He sees or searches for the next trophy to be on his arm and tells his people to
go fetch them for him. reminder: I'm still talking about the O.P.
He gets them,molds them, and treats them like they will be his one and onlyBut
actually they will never be his one and only because they have to compete with
his first love and that is his "Music".
Sooner or later he gets bored with both of them. He reminds me
of someone that won't confront the person to tell them that it is over.
Instead he will have someone else do their dirty work or instead just don't
talk to the woman at all.
I was thinking maybe when Prince was touring all
crazy after the loss of their baby. that she was left all alone at their
home. While he was still on the road touring, doing all those
concerts back to back, trying to cover his pain through his music,
he had someone tell her she had to move out and has
never spoken to her since. I know that sounds a little bit too cold.
It's not just men,but women can behave like this just as well.
and what makes it's even sadder is when theirs children involved.
I You can tell that P wanted to be Somebody's Somebody
and become an Honest Man and for him to say I finally have
a wife that will be Forever In My Life.
That's why I enjoy the new Prince. I know he's not perfect
and like us we all have issues.
It's when we can forgive one another is what counts.
If God can forgive us for our sins, then we should be able
to forgive one another.