Is there anybody who actually wants to be a mod?

Renhoek is the only one who actually allways is nice and respectfull to everybody.

He seems to like people and is not afraid to welcome people. He has no tendencies to exclude or alienate anybody who is not part of "the group of befriended orgers".

I never noticed him gaining popularity by means of unholy glee of orgers.

Some people only know how to bully, they can't be humorous in any other way. When they would restrain from bullying, I bet they don't know what to do, really. That's probably the only form of communication they know.

However, it's self sustainable modus on here isn't it?

If your not making fun of other orgers,

if your not part of the group that orgnotes eachother to make fun about orgers,

or not a member of the group that teams up against one orger,

or make fun of orgers with codenames,

then you just don't fit in.

And it's up to the mods to stand up against the bullies. Therefore, bullies will make sure that their friends will be selected as a mod. In that way the don't get called to account for their behaviour. Because what's left if you don't know anything else than to bully?

Als Ms. Paintedlady is well respected and therefore has natural authority.

Serious said:

dJJ said:

Renhoek is the only one who actually allways is nice and respectfull to everybody.

I very much had that impression too, but sadly lately that changed. He was very much bullying against one orger here a couple of weeks ago. And he seems to not be here much at the moment anyway.

I disagree with you on that one. I interpreted his post as advice coming from his hart. And confronting with someone her own behaviour and own up to it, is something very different than bullying. It doesn't seem his character to bully, he is to kind and generous for that kind of stuff.

It is easy to interpret other people as being intentionally wrong and consider yourself a victim.

From a victim's point of view, almost everything is bullying.

Because a victim doesn't take on any responsibility in events.

This is right in many situations, however, it's a trap. Sometimes a non victim steps into that deep, steep black hole of victimizing oneself and getting depressed.....

Serious said:

dJJ said:

I disagree with you on that one. I interpreted his post as advice coming from his hart. And confronting with someone her own behaviour and own up to it, is something very different than bullying. It doesn't seem his character to bully, he is to kind and generous for that kind of stuff.

It is easy to interpret other people as being intentionally wrong and consider yourself a victim.

From a victim's point of view, almost everything is bullying.

Because a victim doesn't take on any responsibility in events.

This is right in many situations, however, it's a trap. Sometimes a non victim steps into that deep, steep black hole of victimizing oneself and getting depressed.....

Well I see it differently. As you know I was not the victim and I am not a friend of her and never ever talked to her ever. In fact I could not even say I liked her a lot from her posts. But it made me sad that somebody was made fun of who obviously is struggling, especially as it was by him and some others who I like a lot and respect. They seemed to enjoy making fun of her. No matter if it is the person's own fault or not, I did not like that at all. The same thing was also continued on that fb group BTW even at a time when she was no longer around, so I doubt it was only about trying to get it into her head that she needs to change something. BTW don't get me wrong I still like Renhoek as well as my other org friends who took part in this, It just surprised me in a negative way to watch it and I know that I am not the only one who feels like that.

I do agree with you that it became very nasty in the end towards Purplemookie. And I also do think that people judged her without realizing what kind of limitations she had to deal with. So, due to a lack of compassion and understanding she was confronted harshly.

On the other hand, she did ask for support and opinions. And she received them. And sometimes tough love can be very healing and better for you than getting pampered all the time.

I'm lucky not to be part of the 'ingroup' that was invited on fb. I only laughed at the sorry souls when I found out there was something like that going on.

I do oppose to shift all the responsibility for that to Renhoek. Somebody just wrote one sentence, knowing it would lead to bashing by others. That kind of manipulation is also questionable.

I think that the people who think they went out of line can allways apologize to her and explain why they did what they did. At least then everybody learned from that pityfull course of events.

So, back to the mod question.

I would like to know who actually wants to be the mod. Because then the voting seems more usefull to me. Lot of waist of time when evaluating characters when not wanting to mod anyhow.

Serious said:

dJJ said:

I disagree with you on that one. I interpreted his post as advice coming from his hart. And confronting with someone her own behaviour and own up to it, is something very different than bullying. It doesn't seem his character to bully, he is to kind and generous for that kind of stuff.

It is easy to interpret other people as being intentionally wrong and consider yourself a victim.

From a victim's point of view, almost everything is bullying.

Because a victim doesn't take on any responsibility in events.

This is right in many situations, however, it's a trap. Sometimes a non victim steps into that deep, steep black hole of victimizing oneself and getting depressed.....

Well I see it differently. As you know I was not the victim and I am not a friend of her and never ever talked to her ever. In fact I could not even say I liked her a lot from her posts. But it made me sad that somebody was made fun of who obviously is struggling, especially as it was by him and some others who I like a lot and respect. They seemed to enjoy making fun of her. No matter if it is the person's own fault or not, I did not like that at all. The same thing was also continued on that fb group BTW even at a time when she was no longer around, so I doubt it was only about trying to get it into her head that she needs to change something. BTW don't get me wrong I still like Renhoek as well as my other org friends who took part in this, It just surprised me in a negative way to watch it and I know that I am not the only one who feels like that.

I also feel some were being to harsh with her, you can give good advice without being mean!

[Edited 5/6/11 10:22am]

Serious said:

dJJ said:

I disagree with you on that one. I interpreted his post as advice coming from his hart. And confronting with someone her own behaviour and own up to it, is something very different than bullying. It doesn't seem his character to bully, he is to kind and generous for that kind of stuff.

It is easy to interpret other people as being intentionally wrong and consider yourself a victim.

From a victim's point of view, almost everything is bullying.

Because a victim doesn't take on any responsibility in events.

This is right in many situations, however, it's a trap. Sometimes a non victim steps into that deep, steep black hole of victimizing oneself and getting depressed.....

Well I see it differently. As you know I was not the victim and I am not a friend of her and never ever talked to her ever. In fact I could not even say I liked her a lot from her posts. But it made me sad that somebody was made fun of who obviously is struggling, especially as it was by him and some others who I like a lot and respect. They seemed to enjoy making fun of her. No matter if it is the person's own fault or not, I did not like that at all. The same thing was also continued on that fb group BTW even at a time when she was no longer around, so I doubt it was only about trying to get it into her head that she needs to change something. BTW don't get me wrong I still like Renhoek as well as my other org friends who took part in this, It just surprised me in a negative way to watch it and I know that I am not the only one who feels like that.

I do agree with you that it became very nasty in the end towards Purplemookie. And I also do think that people judged her without realizing what kind of limitations she had to deal with. So, due to a lack of compassion and understanding she was confronted harshly.

On the other hand, she did ask for support and opinions. And she received them. And sometimes tough love can be very healing and better for you than getting pampered all the time.

I'm lucky not to be part of the 'ingroup' that was invited on fb. I only laughed at the sorry souls when I found out there was something like that going on.

I do oppose to shift all the responsibility for that to Renhoek. Somebody just wrote one sentence, knowing it would lead to bashing by others. That kind of manipulation is also questionable.

I think that the people who think they went out of line can allways apologize to her and explain why they did what they did. At least then everybody learned from that pityfull course of events.

So, back to the mod question.

I would like to know who actually wants to be the mod. Because then the voting seems more usefull to me. Lot of waist of time when evaluating characters when not wanting to mod anyhow.

Your name wasn't "dragged" in...

Your name was ONLY mentioned because of they reply she made to your post.... she needed clarification on why I thought she was dealt with fairly by SCNDLS. Your name was just to tell her when it happened.... your post wasn't at issue, hers was. Ya need to pull back on that one.

BTW. I knew that you were being light hearted in your post... I understood it... if you understood mine you could easily see I wasn't dragging you into anything, just letting serious know what she did was of her own doing.

sextonseven said:

paintedlady said:

^^^^ I read that as a jab... especially when serious repsonded with emotes.

I have no idea why Serious posted that reply.

I thought it was obvious I was being facetious. The view from SCNDLS' room on all sides was so ridiculously amazing that to cancel her trip because of one building under construction is clearly absurd. I even added the at the end to make sure everyone knew I was joking. And since SCNDLS immediately responded with makes me think she knew I was joking too.

In the future, please don't drag my name into other people's drama. Thank you.

Your name wasn't "dragged" in...

Your name was ONLY mentioned because of they reply she made to your post.... she needed clarification on why I thought she was dealt with fairly by SCNDLS. Your name was just to tell her when it happened.... your post wasn't at issue, hers was. Ya need to pull back on that one.

BTW. I knew that you were being light hearted in your post... I understood it... if you understood mine you could easily see I wasn't dragging you into anything, just letting serious know what she did was of her own doing.