Because of your race or religous beliefs? I have been turned down once because I wasn't Catholic and I can understand that to some extent some people just want religion to be a major factor in any possible relationship.....That didn't bother me.....

But race now that one has happened many many times and I didn't even realize it at the time.... I grew up in a very very large mexican population over in Phoenix Arizona and in high school I wasn't very sure of myself in the romantic department, but the times I got over my shyness and fear I would ask girls out and get turned down all the time. I never choose by color but by personality and if there was some physical attraction....I never had a girlfriend in High School....wasn't a nerd.....was well known and liked and always was myself and treated people like I would like to be treated. I had a date here or there but nothing was to come out of it....Last year or so I was at an old high school buddies house and he broke out the year book...We began to look and I was feeling very bad and depressed looking at it. I didn't have a very good high school experience and getting turned down all the time gave me a very bad low self esteem problem that I have to this day. (getting better) Anyways I started pointing out all the girls I could remember liking asking out and getting dissed....He knew just about everyone in school and he was like "well yeah she wasn't going to date you your black..." I was like so what! He said " Her parents don't approve of mixed dating and if you got her pregnant....whew forget about it she would get kicked out the house!" He pointed out some others that were the same way.....Then it started to dawn on me....

There was very little interracial dating at my school....I would say maybe less than 10 in 4 years that I can remember.....and those 10 got flack for it. I never even considered it as a reason for me getting turned down....Im so oblivious to people's color I never even considered it. I am a realist and assume that if I got turned down there is something about ME that the girl didn't like....I don't make race excuses either; if im not good looking enough for her, or my personality is not too her liking or she just plain ain't interested in what I got thats it period. I don't make excuses so that caused a lot of doubt about my appearance I didn't think I was ugly (sometimes i did) but I thought I must just be "average" nothing special.....In my school your looks are what seperated you not your personality....personality got you friends but looks got you women and respect. I never wanted to play that game I just wanted a girlfriend like a normal teenager...Never got one though just dates with girls that kinda liked me and there was never any chemestry so that made it worse...

I just want to know if anyone else here knows what im talking about? Has experienced being turned down not because of you but just your color. Unfortunately because of all the self loathing i did in school it took me a long time to get a healthy self image. I still don't really think Im all that even though now I get attention from females it's more weird and uncomfortable than flattering....I look the same got a little more buff but the face and personality is the same I guess I just got outta that enviorment that made the difference. I only mention this cause I realized I still deal with self esteem issues a little....I don't need any massaging of my ego I just want to know if anyone else has gone through something similar to this and how did it affect you?

Never

( I'm Catholic too )

I've never asked a woman out on a date, so I'd have to say "no"....

No from me also

I have experienced that...when i was 16 i met my first love...his parents didn't approve off an interracial relation so after 3 months he ended what we had.
It made me feel realy insecure abt myself first, later i became very angry abt it...anyway I'm over it now
We just have to accept the fact that there are, still, a lot of ignorant ppl


for you Sinister

I've never been on a date, asked someone out, or been asked out.

I was once turned down for a date when I told someone I was against the war in Iraq...this was last year, when everyone was all uber-jingo and we were supposed to say stuff like "freedom fries" and stuff.

It was all going fine and well until we got on the topic and I gave my opinion on it, then he was all "I can't talk to you anymore, have a good life" (?!) and he stomped off.

Some people are just weird, is all.

angelfishseven said:

OMG me too! LOL

Natisse said:

Well y'all two need to get out there strut,and show em' whatcha workin' with.....and they'll come running to y'all

I have only truly 'dated' myself... sometimes I reject myself. Although most of the time I accept.

Freespirit said:

You ever kept yourself waiting in the livingroom while you finished putting on your makeup??...I bet you hated that, huh??..

Freespirit said:

I hear ya Julie... I really do

Sweeny79 said:

I never let religious preference interfere with my dating unless she was an apostolate of hell or something like that.

Nope, but then like Byron I have never asked anyone

Ocean said:

Thats because all the guys ask you doofus!

NCC2012 said:

What if she had some nice wholesome Jewish roots

althom said:

dawhitegurlbecrazyazzhell said:

I don't think it really matters if her last lover was Jewish.

althom said:

Nahh my last lover was actually Polish

dawhitegurlbecrazyazzhell said:

Sinister said:

Yes, I hear you. I am bi-racial and have felt the sting of that all my life. I was born in 1963 in the Midwest – and was put up for adoption – not only because of my mothers age – but because of my mixed back ground.

I was adopted by a white couple – but they could not place me for over 13 months. I was then moved to a very white area – in fact I was the 1st bi-racial child in this area. School was very hard for me. I was attractive but was never asked out on a date. When I got the courage to ask a boy out – he said yes, but his parents couldn’t know. We dated a few times but the 1st time he kissed me he felt we could go further. When I questioned him as to why he said because girl like you are suppose to be easy. I never dated again in school.

The whole thing has affected me with how I handle my relationships now. So yes I do understand how you feel.