Hola citizens of Orgland

I'm having a strange night....

I logged on the Internet tonight and so far I have talked to two of my ex's in IM's in the last 15 minutes.I'm friends with both in a kinda sorta way, at least I try to keep those I cared/care about close to me.

It's just that it's hard sometimes... My ex boyfriend, they guy I lost my virginity to, the guy I came this close to marrying, the guy I spent 7 YEARS of my life with... is now telling me about how he's seeing these two different girls and it's getting to the point where he has to pick one and he wants me to help him pick!!! It's cool and all, I mean I've asked his advice in the love department but it just feels....icky...

The other ex... is someone who I only dated briefly... was casually intimate with ... but who wanted more from me than I was able/willing to give... I'm DEFINITELY getting the vibe from him that he wants to rekindle something between us... I have NO interest in doing so, but again I don't want to hurt his feeling either.

I feel like I'm walking on a tight rope!

How do you guys deal with your ex's?

Any tips....

LittlePill said:

Stay away from them.....

GET THEM BOTH DRUNK! END OF STORY.

anastesiatalk2me said:

I agree!!!
[This message was edited Mon Jun 14 18:31:21 2004 by LittlePill]

ex-lovers...just say no!

Milty said:

Can't argue with that!

i used to try to stay friends with my exes, but i decided recently that this policy just holds on to a bunch of baggage and that it's hard to move forward with all those anchors to the past. i'm sure there's an ex-turned-friend or two in my life that i haven't accounted for, but for the most part, past is past and done is done, and it's kind of a lame decision to have to make, but at the same time it's kinda liberating. if any of that makes a drop of sense.

You have to learn not to be so nice. It's a tough one, I know cause I'm the same way. It's sooooo much better in the long run if you make a clean break. Worry about yourself first. If you don't wanna talk to them you can't worry about hurting feelings anymore. Isn't that why you're not together anymore?

Milty said:

Milty said:

Just look at some pics of J-LO's ahem 'business" and you'll be alright.

The thing is I don't see why I should have to cut people out of my life at all...


Oh well...

Christopher said:

Did I ever tell ya how much I like ya Christopher? Cuz I like ya lots my friend


I'm thinking about that ketchup stain on my white pants...

I use a hella lotta bleach but that fucker is still there.

Sweeny79 said:

why thank you

and ketchup is tought to remove....hmm

you can pick up these stain removers from the store that are made just for certain stains.

i was just watching the simpsons

"I like you but not in that way.You're more like....a Big Sister."-Lisa to Milhouse

Christopher said:

You are welcome

I think I need a sand blaster though


and cosign on the Simpson's quote.

Sweeny79 said:

just dye your pants black!

and i love the simpsons.

Christopher said:

Good idea!!!

Me too

I am/was too nice to them. The good thing is that the girl who I had my last long term relationship with I haven't spoken to since we split. Just aswell really because I think overall it's best to sever all ties. Its no good in regurgitating old feelings and hurts.

Sweeny79 said:

I don't!

Sweeny79 said:

The courts papers tell me I'm not allowed to discuss this.

Dealing with the ex's is hard....
so don't!

It is nice that you want to be nice and all.... but what do you think would happen if the roles were reversed? You had 2 guys to choose from and asked him for assistance- would he be nice about it? He would probably make rude and snide comments, then build himself up because he felt bad that you moved on.... and then he would joke about you and him... HOPING that you would say- yes you are right, you are the one for me!!!!
It is a power thing- and I would tell him it is his issue and that you have nothing to do with it-

leave it at that and don't attempt to be his friend....

Don't get me wrong- don't be mean to him.... but don't go out of your way, cause he probably wouldn't for you----- ok honey?

You got lots of friends- you don't need the ex.... when you feel lonely, just sign on to the Org....
O-tay?

Whatever goes on in your ex's lives, you cannot make decisions for them. As for the one who wants to rekindle I say forget it. Do you think it is going to work out again?

ew Sweeney I'm going through an eerily similar experience. After coming back to California, I logged onto AIM for the first time in nine months. I was immediately bombarded with IMs, two of which were my ex boyfriends. One was my first serious boyfriend throughout high school (who told me I 'really needed to get over him' and I STILL can't tell if he was kidding or not) and the other was one that I had something for for years and years and years but our relationship was always ultimately a physical one. The latter keeps coming onto me and saying suggestive things - I'm just having fun yanking his chain. He doesn't know I have a boyfriend and am not interested in the slightest.

in any case, these two are keeping me entertained when the org is slow...

uhm, i don't talk to any of them bar one, who's still a good friend of mine. acrimony rules, people.

My ex lover was a banana...I ate him.

MNlivingCA said:

I did ask my ex about choosing between two guys... he was nice about it and honest I didnt listen to his advice but he turned out to be right!

luv4u said:

He wasn't asking me to decide just asking for advice.

and

OH HELL NO!!!