I do sometimes, but it sure is lonely at times not to go with a buddy.

I do, all the time...

I've never felt uncomfortable, not even once...

Byron said:

Dork!!!!!

althom said:

althom said:

Now, now...let's keep Julie's thread free of animosity...


























..and besides, you smell rusty.

Freespirit said:

What up FreeJulie! ....

Movies.... I just couldn't go by myself, but movies on video/DVD I often rent and watch by my
lonesome, esp. off beat thought provoking 'world cinema' films.

Dinner.... Can go to Maccy D's and such places to eat by myself but never a slap up meal

Moonlight walk under the stars.... Nah, I'd much rather appreciate that with company, although
many nights I have sat on my stoop with my Marlboro Lights,
gazing at the twinkles in the sky playing with my Zippo.

Road trips and Museums I have done by myself, would mind a me, myself and I holiday but
not a relaxing hols (would want my buddies there!), more a cultural city break that would intrigues me and more private interests.

I'll hit a movie alone occasionally but I have rules about it I can just up & go but only if it's a matinee - if it's night I have to be coming from work or an errand or something.

I don't really do any of the other stuff alone but I can see myself taking a vacation alone someday I value my alone time but I kinda get enough of it (lunch every day, commuting in my car, shopping, piddling around in the middle of the night when my part of the world is asleep, etc.) so I don't really feel the need to make "dates" for myself. And I never feel uncomfortable when I'm doing stuff alone... maybe b/c I just don't do a whole hell of a lot

I like spending time by myself, and am perfectly happy to go to a movie or eat in a restaurant or whatever by myself. Problem is, I have limited time and enough people in my life who I don't see enough of that I don't often go out on my own. I need to be better about that.

When I went to Australia by myself, the travel agent couldn't believe I was doing so...lol..She thought it was great that I could do something like that by myself, but admitted that she wouldn't feel comfortable traveling to a foreign land without someone with her. To me, it just felt extraordinarily natural...although, yes, there are times when you really do wish someone was with you. Doing things by yourself helps you to have experiences that are undiluted...

Handclapsfingasnapz said:

Wet blankets?!? If only.

I find it beautiful to hear of outings alone. Perhaps for some, like me... it didn't happen overnight, atlhough over years of just deciding to do so. Whether one is single or in a relationship... I feel it to be valuable either way.

I have been severely independent since the day I was born... and yes, it has followed me throughout my present life. Although, I remember going to dinner for the first time alone (even though I was married and involved at the time). During the moments of experimenting, I felt so awkward... didn't know how to sit, was anyone looking as me wondering... "Why is she alone" etc. So as with anything else in life, including public speaking, one must do it repeatedly (practice) over and over again until it becomes more of a norm. Through the years... I would have to say over the past 6 years, I did just that. I began traveling, watching movies... everything by myself, I began to love it. My husband and I had so many differences in interests, the communication was so poor...

I remembering dragging him along... while he would just either sit quietly in the car, sleep or attempt to stay awake out of respect that I was driving. I remember feeling or thinking... I would much rather him stay at home or go play softball, golf or whatever he truly enjoyed more. You see, I realize how important it is to have commonalities with another, to talk and truly enjoy one anothers presence, critical it is in a relationship. I also believe that even while in a relationship, trust and time alone is quality as well... two people should always have their own identity... while contributing to one relationship as a whole.

Anyways... today and being single, I have endless people in my life... although very few in which I can relate with on the level that feeds my soul. There are several that I do feel connected with... lately I have meet some very wonderful people . Yes, I still hang out with many in which I have no commonalities with... there is always a lesson to learn even if one is not enlightened but annoyed to a degree. (sorry) Not to say one way is more right than another... we simply are who we are, I respect that fully... although two people may not always click.

So dating myself is for sure the more fulfilling way for me at the moment, until that certain one comes along (there are a few pending at the moment), options forever exist and I surely have my eyes open. My is a bit weary... but I have faith. Loving yourself is the safest way to go.

Don't mind me...

I have to get ready for work.

I always get really drunk then take advantage of myself.

bkw said:

Lack of self respect!!

I do enjoy my own company but I often get pangs of loneliness about it.

This is interesting!! Because i study and my timetable is so seperate even from my friends at uni...i find myself goin out to lunch by myself...sittin at da front window indulging! I'm not worried at anyone lookin at me...at least not anymore, i remember when i first finished high school and had to go out studying part time..only few moments wif friends n stuff..i had to get used to keepin my own company i guess. I have no problems pamperin myself, infact u gotta do it, it's absolutely a must!!

Byron said:

Are you trying to tell me that you didn't want me tagging along?

althom said:

More or less, yeah...

Byron said:

I LOVE alone time, as long as it is balanced with quality friend/lover time!!!! If I jump off one deep end- too much alone time or too much lover time- I get weird- Like land the mothership weird!!!!

Movies- my rule is as long as it isn't a traditional "date" night.... I will go, but a friday or saturday night? I think I would feel like a complete Ninny! Like the girl who couldn't get a date!!! LOL!

All though- I am way les hassle than anyone I have ever dated- so maybe I should just become androgenous (sp?) and date myself.

I don't need sex. I don't need anyone to pay for my dinner. I don't need someone to drape a coat onme when it is cold. I don't need someone to open the jar of jam when it is closed too tight. I don't need sex...

well ok, ya got me on the first and the last!

Cheers to dating ourselves!!! From me to me- I am gonna buy myself a drink- anyonce joining my date with myself?

Oxy moron huh? *giggle*

althom said:

Whoops..did I say that outloud??...

althom said:

bkw said:

All the time

I'm a damn good lover to myself too!

Ain't noboby like yo body baby....

Byron said:

So

perfectly

said

I've never thought of it as a date but yeah.
I like being alone.
Nobody yakkin in your ear about bullshit etc...
Freespirit if I ever see you eating by yourself
I'll come over and mess it all up for you.

Freespirit said:

I do it all the time!!! most of my friends and family I'm used to living a fair way away from me so I'm very selfsufficient when it comes to things like that - I can probably count on one hand the concerts I've been to actually WITH someone LOL for instance...it's all good!