This is what concerns me--you said he backs off when your boyfriend is around, but earlier you said he threatens to stab him? That isn't someone that feels too intimidated by your boyfriend.

You are in a predicament, for sure, but what you need to do is get out of there, get some help--if it is only one more week til the man gets back, find another friend to stay with. It seems like the guy could get violent any time. You need some expert advice on how to make him back off without disturbing his already disturbed mind.

Every time you give him attention, negative or otherwise, he is getting what he wants--you. Go somewhere and don't worry about his feelings, your other roomies, or the cds. You can get more cds. You are priceless, however.

This is just red flags all the way. And if your boyfriend or other roommates see this as something you caused, you don't want them as friends, or lovers.

head spin in oh nellie way back! lunatic drop like milk over floor!

bluesbaby said:


I should explain that... He tells ME he's gonna stab my boyfriend. He thinks he's being chivalrous. He wants to be like a knight and kill him with a sword to free me from him. But HE'S actually the one I want away from me... When my boyfriend's in the room, he goes right back to being the guy who used to be one of the best friends I've ever had... But he does make fun of every word my boyfriend says and that's what makes him mad. The only reason my boyfriend knows that he's honestly made threats like that is because I've told him because I was concerned. My boyfriend of course isn't afraid of him one bit, but a few months ago when he was telling me all the time he was gonna stab him, I was really scared. I'm not afraid for my own life. I don't think he'd ever try to hurt me. And if he did, well I'd put up a hell of a fight. But when he told me he wanted to kill my boyfriend, I told him that would kill me... He never mentioned it again, but I can't forget it...

Man, this guy seriuosly used to be my best friend... I mean, I used to talk to him about EVERYTHING. Then one night he was home when my boyfriend and I had a nasty fight that almost got really violent. That's the only time he threatened him to his face, and after that he started telling me he was gonna kill him. He can't seem to see past that night and he thinks I'm in danger being with this guy. But really, that was just that one time. We were both under a ton of stress and we were fighting about something. It's over now. I wish he'd realize that...

bluesbaby said:
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At first they did. They thought I was just being mean to him. Then they started noticing that I wasn't kidding. Now they're more concerned for my welfare than anything and they've been very supportive... Last week he was bothering me so bad that I called one of the roommates. He drove two hours just to ask him to hang out and get him away from me for a while. It's the same roommate who lets me vent about all this on the phone every week when he's off work. He's kept me going so far...

bluesbaby:


I agree. I've been staying as far away from him as I can. I really have nowhere else to go, though. See, I used to live in a house, but it's gone now. It's practically in ruins. And it's two hours from here and I have no transportation. That's why I ended up living with these guys again. They invited me to stay here because I had nowhere else to go and I needed a place to stay to go to school here. So I'm kinda stuck here with him. But maybe I can convince HIM to leave. Maybe I can get his parents to ask him to come home for a while. Once my boyfriend gets back, we can go stay at his new house. I just can't go there now because I don't have my own keys yet and my boyfriend is 2 1/2 hours away with no car to come back to me until the weekend....

Too many words!

Can someone summarise this for me?

thanks in advance

doctormcmeekle said:

HisMirror is asking for advice regarding a new car she wants buy and can't decide on the Colour Meekle. What would you advise?

doctormcmeekle said:

man crazy before girl run sneak in rooms! many personality in man head sputter boo to woman she sneak in room! fish of dozen turn to seven!

doctormcmeekle said:

Super-Condensed Summary:
Current roommate:
Boyfriend: but currently not there

YarrowElffly said:

This is getting biblical!

Lleena said:

Blue!

doctormcmeekle said:


Yeah, it's gettin' long...
It's the story of me and the past year of my life in a nutshell. I live in an apartment with four guys. Two are my good friends, and in this situation the only ones keeping me sane. One is a good friend who was at one time a guy I was looking to get with. He turned me away then and now three years later he's decided he's in love with me and that it's my fault we're not together. He's gone completely insane and I'm stuck here with him for the past few weeks. The fourth guy is my boyfriend. He's home helping his parents with something. The other two I mentioned before are gone home for the summer.

The crazy guy has threatened to stab my boyfriend, guilts me for every unkind word I say to him, and won't leave me alone. He's driving me insane. It's a touchy situation because his parents are watching my cat for me. I can't take the cat back yet because I haven't moved to a place where I'm allowed to have him yet. If I'm mean to the guy, well you see where I'm going with this... And leaving the cat behind is not an option. It's also tough because we're in the same circle of friends. To walk away from him is to leave them all behind.

The psychopath has been driving me crazy in various ways. There are a few stories from the last few weeks in the longer posts. Skim thru and you'll see what I mean. He copies me in everything I do, he follows me everywhere, he keeps talking to me and asking stupid questions and he doesn't hear a word I say. Life's been...interesting here... A few nice people have offered up some advice, and I appreciate both the advice and their concern tremendously. I was hoping I'd get some good advice and maybe entertain some people with my messed up life. It seems to be working so far.

I think that sums it up.
[This message was edited Tue May 25 16:44:10 2004 by hIsMiRRoR]

hIsMiRRoR said:

I think you should, er, buy a blue car?

doctormcmeekle said:

...as doctormcmeekle is thrown into the Gorge of Eternal Peril.

NCC2012 said:


Wow, that IS super-condensed! And yet just as effective as all the long-winded crap I've been spewing out all day... I salute you!

Lleena said:

Whoops, posted it twice... Better now...
[This message was edited Tue May 25 17:05:00 2004 by hIsMiRRoR]

NCC2012 said:

I think I get that!

If I have, you might be interested to know I pass one of the featured castles every day on my way to work.

doctormcmeekle said:

Yes, you did.



That's cool! Is it the Castle Anthrax?

NCC2012 said:

You tell me!

That is soooo cool.

Wow, that IS cool!

hIsMiRRoR said:

You can get it at any bookstore. I have it in paperback. It has some sections about dudes like him. Keep safe walk with a friend.

I'm donating plasma today all by myself. I made my appointment while he was still sleeping and he doesn't know I'm going. Shhhhh... Wish me luck. No more cell losses, please Lord! I'm finally gettin' out of the apartment for a while... Wahoo!

I'll look for that book while I'm in town too. I didn't get to go yesterday, but I'm definitely escaping, er...going out for a walk, today! Thanks everyone for your concerns and advice! I've never had so many people care so much, and you guys don't even know me. I really appreciate it. I'm glad I joined this forum.

Get the assistance of the apartment/building manager (who has the master key to every apartment) to come and go in and get them for you or go in with the Manager. Give Manager the cd titles to look for so you get them ALL back.

2the9s said:

Well if she drops the dude first do ya think she can get her cd's back? Not! The intent is getting the cd's back, there!

my advice?...

1. Move

2. restraining order

hIsMiRRoR said:

God forbid he has an account here, don't tell him you do - you will have more probs.

Seek the assistance of the police and also victims services of the police. Maybe a Peace Bond or a Restraining Order and that the "police may arrest" clause is put in - good luck. Dangerous unstable dude. He is capable of more dangerous stuff. Take different routes walking and driving leaving and coming at different times so he does not know when you come and go. Make sure your door is locked and windows locked whether you are home or not. Don't let him make your home a prison cell.

Thanks guys. He's really more irritating than scary, which was the original point of the thread. But you guys are all right. He has the potential to be quite dangerous. My boyfriend will be back Saturday. He has the keys to the new house, so we can hang out there for a while. It's a 20 minute walk from here, and crazy boy would never walk that far. He has personal convictions against walking anywhere and no one's home to give him a ride. Just a few more days...

Kissmequick said:

agree. run like hell. use whatever means you have at your disposal to get the hell out of there ASAP. seriously. if you have to sleep at a friend's on the floor till you BF returns, do it. then move out. life is too short to deal with that kind of crap. my 2c

Success! I donated plasma today, NOTHING WENT WRONG, and crazy face is none the wiser!

XxAxX said:


Damn, I'd love to except everyone I know went home for the summer. That's the only reason I'm putting up with him at all. I really have nowhere else to go. But he's starting to spend time with his friends upstairs again. I have some peace for now.