with somebody's boyfriend or husband, cuz 4 some reason i'm always always attracting somebody elses man. fuck doing the right thing u know, i'm just gonna be like everybody else and get my freak on.

What for? You will pay later.

Are you serious, DL?

this is what my book is going to be about.

Mizzunderstood said:

You worry me sometimes, you know that?

One thing about "cheating" is that sometimes there is justification for straying from one's married partner.

IMO, if a couple have sex on a regular basis before they get married and then after they get married the woman holds out and only gives sex once a month or worse, once every few months then you can't realistically expect the man to be faithful. I'm not saying that women should be bound to their male partners every sexual whim without consideration for their female partner but if women continually deny men a healthy sex life, they only have themselves to blame if their man strays.

Likewise, if a woman is being abused by her husband I don't think it's unethical to find comfort and solace with another man. It's obvious the husband doesn't respect his wife if he's abusing her so where there is no respect given, none should be expected in return.

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

What!?

AzureStarr said:

Does it sound realistic to expect a man to be faithful if he's only having sex with his wife 4 times a year?

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

Of course. That's what his hand is for, silly.

And... if they're only having sex four times a year, their realtionship isn't healthy in the first place and they probably shouldn't be together. But... he shouldn't cheat. That is a "no-no".

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

But see, it's only cheating if it's behind someone's back. In that type of situation, it would behoove the man to TELL his wife that he wasn't satisfied and what he would be doing if she wasn't gonna give it up. She could then decide if that was something she could live with or if meant time to separate. I can't abide cheating. But I can understand people who have an open relationship.

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

Hell no. 1 month is the most amount of time a couple should go without sex, imo. There are many reasons why sex can be skipped for a week or two... emotional issues, trouble at work, etc... Although making love can be a good stress-reducer, it's sometimes hard to get fully in the mood if you got a lot on your mind. The important thing is to talk about things and understand each other.

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

Four times a year!?!

Lucky bastard!

AzureStarr said:

True. I wouldn't recommend "cheating" in any form for a long period of time. At that point, you know it's time to move on. A one-time "mistake" under certain circumstances is sometimes understandable.

CarrieMpls said:

OK, yes I agree the man should leave before cheating. So let me amend that, I don't think it's "justified" but I understand it and don't feel so bad for the woman in that case.

And I do think that all steps should be taken, i.e. counceling, communication etc..., before cheating.

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

Okay... I probably wouldn't feel so bad for her either if she was only giving it up four times a year.

I know a woman who is in her late 40's and she is seeing two men right now. Both men are married and she is fully aware of it. Neither man is willing to leave their wife and she is completely happy about that.

I don't understand why the men would cheat on their wife if they are not wanting to leave her... clearly, something is lacking in the relationship if the man (men in this case) are willing to be with another. And... I don't agree with this woman being with these men, being fully aware that they are married. She's married herself... sort of going through a separation... she prefers the men to be married. That way she gets all of the trips and gifts and fun without the hassle of being attached to them. It makes no sense to me what-so-ever.

*shrug*

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:[quote]

AzureStarr said:

I could never be a 4 times a year person....

I am to spoiled now... purrrrr!

sag10 said:[quote]

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

I wanna be like you when I grow up!

AzureStarr said:

I must give alot of credit to Jess... He is so passionate, verile...

u guys i would never do a thing like that, but if it's a revenge thing

they shouldn't have a thing 2 worry about , let's celebrate ugly



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VinaBlue said:

Vina, this is shocking to me, did this just come out of your fingers?

I'm not going into a holier than thou rant but I've never cheated on anybody because it's a choice and respect. It's not like you're walking down the street and your dick accidently slipped into someone. It takes more than one choice to cheat and if a person is unhappy in the relationship, end it out of respect for the person you're suppose to care about. Then go fuck whoever you want.

Better be careful cause what goes around comes around

You ever see "Fatal Attraction"???

Slave2daGroove said:

Well... I've never cheated. But I wanted to when I was neglected and ignored by my "boyfriend". Communication goes a long way. If I'm not given a reason as to why I'm not getting a healthy amount of love-making and even kisses and hugs from my significant other and someone else wants to show me affection... Well....


I'm a lot better at waiting now though.

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

Women are denied sex too! My best friend just dumped her man yesterday for this reason! If it gets to the point where you're going to be unfaithful, why not just end the relationship?

VinaBlue said:

VinaBlue said:

You know what.... a woman, or man should not have to wait..

Love, caressing, kissing is so vital to any relationship.. I still don't understand why this is such a problem..

sag10 said:

there are so many people who have a genuinely hard time expressing affection. sometimes it's because of the way they were raised or because of some trauma they've experienced. it's important to undrestand that and be supportive of them even though they can't lavish you with affection. sometimes they may love you very deeply but just not know how to express it. it can be devastating for all involved if there isn't proper communication.

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

In both cases wouldn't the appropriate course of action be to get help or get out?

AzureStarr said:

Always growing and learning! Patience was NEVER a strong point for me...