sag10 said:

there are so many people who have a genuinely hard time expressing affection. sometimes it's because of the way they were raised or because of some trauma they've experienced. it's important to undrestand that and be supportive of them even though they can't lavish you with affection. sometimes they may love you very deeply but just not know how to express it. it can be devastating for all involved if there isn't proper communication.

JasmineFire said:

I can relate to that due to the truamas in my life..

But there comes a time when you leave that behind, and take pleasure in what is given to you. Like I said, I have been sent wonderful people in my life to give, and teach me about love.. Thanks to my creator.

sag10 said:

there are so many people who have a genuinely hard time expressing affection. sometimes it's because of the way they were raised or because of some trauma they've experienced. it's important to undrestand that and be supportive of them even though they can't lavish you with affection. sometimes they may love you very deeply but just not know how to express it.

But there comes a time when you leave that behind, and take pleasure in what is given to you. Like I said, I have been sent wonderful people in my life to give, and teach me about love.. Thanks to my creator.

sag10 said:

true, but there is something to be said about helping someone you love get to the point of leaving all that behind. as i'm sure you know, it doesn't just happen overnight and it can be a very long process. sometimes even a lifelong one.

but there is something to be said about helping someone you love get to the point of leaving all that behind. as i'm sure you know, it doesn't just happen overnight and it can be a very long process. sometimes even a lifelong one.

JasmineFire said:

Yup! It can be.

Hopefully, that person started at an early age... (I did) And can enjoy many years of affection, and love...

sag10 said:

that's the thing, not everyone gets started at an early age. i've known people who haven't gotten started on that part of themselves until they were well into their 50's. better late then never but it can be so sad.

Better be careful cause what goes around comes around

One thing about "cheating" is that sometimes there is justification for straying from one's married partner.

IMO, if a couple have sex on a regular basis before they get married and then after they get married the woman holds out and only gives sex once a month or worse, once every few months then you can't realistically expect the man to be faithful. I'm not saying that women should be bound to their male partners every sexual whim without consideration for their female partner but if women continually deny men a healthy sex life, they only have themselves to blame if their man strays.

Likewise, if a woman is being abused by her husband I don't think it's unethical to find comfort and solace with another man. It's obvious the husband doesn't respect his wife if he's abusing her so where there is no respect given, none should be expected in return.

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

In both cases wouldn't the appropriate course of action be to get help or get out?

Muse2NOPharaoh said:

Why yes, you Viking Vixen

OK, I was starving when I typed my original response

I didn't mean justifiable as in that person has a valid excuse to continue in the relationship while cheating. Just that I can understand in those cases why, and that it's not as bad as some slut just banging or getting banged by everything with 2 legs while they have a partner at home that's willing to satisy them.

I would advocate getting out first and foremost.....

with somebody's boyfriend or husband, cuz 4 some reason i'm always always attracting somebody elses man. fuck doing the right thing u know, i'm just gonna be like everybody else and get my freak on.

Mizzunderstood said:

what will that prove?

Handclapsfingasnapz said:

....that she got her freak on

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

oh lawd....

with somebody's boyfriend or husband, cuz 4 some reason i'm always always attracting somebody elses man. fuck doing the right thing u know, i'm just gonna be like everybody else and get my freak on.

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

oh lawd....

AzureStarr said:

Does it sound realistic to expect a man to be faithful if he's only having sex with his wife 4 times a year?

Handclapsfingasnapz said:

This thread is sickening.

I can't believe that you would even consider trying to find a guy who is married or committed to have sex with. Sorry, but it is women like you that give the rest of us a bad name. I am thoroughly disgusted.

gemini13 said:

Uhhh, don't know why I quoted you Hands. The post was directed toward the threadmaker. Sorry.

You ever see "Fatal Attraction"???

NCC2012 said:

or "Damage"
??

or "Unfaithful" ??


Don't do it!!!!! Somebody's either going to find out, fall in love, wind up dead, or at THE VERY LEAST have their lives RUINED !!!!!

...Honeychile, the day you wake up after having crossed the line, there's NO TURNING BACK.

Listen to Aunty Reese, now :nono, DON'T DO IT!!!!

Whenever a situation came up that the woman was married etc...I always thought of my grandfather and what happened to him.Back in 47 or so he was sleeping with a married woman who happened to be white.The husband comes home early,finds the two of them sleeping in his bed.Walks back in with a shotgun and blasts the both of them.He never spent a second in jail due to the fact my grandfather was black.But the point I'm trying to make is there are alot of people in this world that arent married etc...If you choose to go ahead and get involved with one of them your asking for it.And just maybe you'll get it.Is it worth it?