Any fellow orgers ever indulged, or fantasized about indulging? If so, do you feel it's better to give or to receive?

Neither is "better". Just a matter of personal preference. Like chocolate or vanilla.

CarrieMpls said:

Uh...that's what I'm asking about - your personal preference.

Sorry. I get silly over value judgements and semantics. Give or receive is kinda weird too. I'm guessing by "give" you mean top or dominant and by "receive" you mean bottom or submissive. (again, I just get picky about words. my own deal.)


I'm a bottom. But in the experiences I've had, I tend to top. If that makes sense.

CarrieMpls said:

It does. Because I'm an agressive bottom and even though technically I'm bein taken, make no mistake, I'm in charge

CarrieMpls said:

It was meant to be a joke. Yes, by "give" I mean Top and "receive" I mean bottom.

Hi Ace!

Am definitely looking for the right guy with whom to experiment.

I'm interested in being a "sub".

I've only "really" fantasized. But the thread about NYC Bound makes me want to know more.

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

i think any bottom who isn't the one really in charge just plain ain't doin' it right...but that's just my opinion.

Lleena said:

Hi, Lleena

Anxiety said:

Well, the bottom (should) ultimately always have the power to end the scene. And generally, I think that the bottom can strongly direct what is happening with their reactions. But "in charge"? Mm. . .dunno. Isn't part of the fun supposed to be handing over power?

Fuck me, what do I know, I'm a top.

tackam said:

you're absolutely right, please never stop thinking that, hee hee hee, ahem

the best tops are somewhat or have been bottoms themselves.

It's just that I want to be all over somebody and in (or the other way around). I even try to breave that person in. I want him to become a part of me, only if it's only for a few minutes ! When that happens the whole world disapears and all that's left is this incredible sensation that is just mindblowing !!

I think I'm off topic ???

Fhunkin said:

yes, but it sounds fucking horny.

dawntreader said:

And I enjoy the physical aspect of bottoming, but I really have trouble getting into a submissive headspace.

Anxiety said:

tackam said:

i understand that...
maybe it's not really in man's nature.
but when you can, boy you can have fun

i like the s and the m, not so much the b, and no comment on the d.

dawntreader said:

Well, I'm a girl. I think it's just not in MY nature. Not that it never happens, but I'm not good at deciding to "go there."

...anyone else noticed Ive been unusally absent from this thread?

tackam said:

'scuse me: human's nature

I consider myself a Dom. There's a BDSM group called Wicked Detroit that has semi-regular meetings. Being a Sub is unsatisfying since I was pushed around by my parents and in many previous relationships. BDSM is a way to balance myself out and LEAD rather than follow. I prefer BDSM to psychotherapy; the clothes are better.

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

That's got to be your new sig!

Case said:

BOTH