psychodelicide said:

To your question, yes she is a woman. I had a woman boss some years ago and she was a bitch, made my life a living hell. I prefer to have a male boss. Thank god the lawyer I work for is a man

BabyCakes said:

Oh I will start looking in the Friday and Saturday paper and emailing my cover letter and resume to other law firms. I will stay at my job until I get something better. Then I won't have to see that bitch anymore, hah!

Too bad the lawyer guy I work for is a real sweetie

shausler said:

Awww, thanks

CarrieMpls said:

some women don't know how to treat other women. this can be amplified with a boss/employer relationship or when two women are in competition. it can get personal for some reason.

Freespirit said:

Yeah, I bring Musicology and other P CD's to pass the time and play them on my office computer. Make myself get funky.

LittlePill said:

No, I work in a family law office.

lilmissmissy said:

What a cutie

JasmineFire said:

I have never bothered this woman for any reason. Just do my job.....#$#($UQ#(

Aren't you in a union? Is it a small company? If its stressing you out, get your blood pressure checked, ask for a sickness certificate because you need a rest and take a couple of weeks off.

Failing that, write her a letter. I've done this in the past. If she fails to acknowledge your concerns, pass a copy of the letter to her superior. Even if you don't send the letter, you will feel better writing it.

Be wary of your office "mate". I really, really would. It could develop into a situation. Be especially wary if your office mate also has her own issues with your boss (but has never had the guts to approach her previously). They may try to play you off against each other. I know it sounds paranoid, but this happened time and time again to me before I realised.

You could always find out where she lives and send her a random dog turd through the post.

BinaryJustin said:

No there is no union for Legal Assistants. Just going to start looking.

Sorta don't want to deal with her, just look for another job. Although I will Not use her for a reference.

Okay, I be wary of office mate. Time to keep my lip zipped and not trust anyone.

luv4u said:

I hear ya, I would prefer a male boss over a female ANYTIME. However, the lady boss I have right now is pretty cool and laid back, not bitchy at all. I had some reservations when I heard a woman was hired to oversee my department, but she's A-okay.

JasmineFire said:

Definitely, I agree with you.

luv4u said:

that is no way to be at work--that is a hostile work environment. Yes look for another job BUT use your lawyer boss as a reference. If he is a good boss he will ask what the problem was and tell him, don't whine "she doesn't like me" be very concise and articulate with your responce. It may not help you but it will alert him for the next person and also it will give him a chance to deal with the situation. since you work in law I know you realize you have a law suit in this. you can request EEO help with this if you really can't find another job. I hope this helps you.

It may be weighing on you now like a ton of bricks, but some time in the near future when you find a better job, you'll be able to look back at this whole experience, laughing at how much of an asshole that person was.

Alot of times moments like these are a kick in the butt that lead you to something way better...

Tom said:

The grass looks greener on the other side of the fence. At least the experience I gain I can put on my resume.

LittlePill said:

No I manage a corporate photography studio

luv4u said:

That's probably the best way to handle it. Think of this scenario of a "surival of the fittest"
situation and just figure out how to just get yourself out of this mess with aplomb; no need to ruffle any feathers and give the beastmaster boss in question any reason to to hold anything against you and try to use that in the future. I have to say that I would be wary of the co-worker as well, because I wonder if she has a vested interest by getting involved with your situation.

Just try your best to be above reproach in your work duties, polite to everyone around you, let WHATEVER she says or does just ROLLLLLoff your back and quietly find yourself another job.
Look long and hard for a new gig, and when the time comes, repectfully give your notice. Exit with dignity and grace with your fine reputation in tact....then maybe think about that mail doo-doo thing that L4U mentioned earlier .

In all sincerity though, it really WILL be alright. I've worked some high profile jobs under a COUPLE of BEASTMASTER bosses in my earlier years and the truth is you won't be stuck with them forever. Take the opportunity of learning from the abuse that she's heaping on you that:

1. you'll NEVER want to be the kind of boss that she is to people who will work under you

2. you've got bigger fish to fry than to be somebody's whipping post for the next 10 years
and are blessed enough to realize it

3. you have the gift of intelligence, free will, and most importantly, JOY and these qualities will
carry you through your personal and professional life in a way that you and even she NEVER
imagined


in the meantime, hang in there, don't let things get too complicated in the office with that co-worker, and hope you get a new gig soon !