okay you know how sometimes women would compete against each other 4 the same guy, well I always wondered do gay guys ever compete with a straight woman 4 the same guy ?

DigitalLisa said:

When I was in college there was this guy that I had a big crush on and he was VERY straight and of course I never dared to try a damn thing. One day, he picked me up from school (don't remember why or where the hell my own car was) and I introduced him to my dearest friend Laura. Well, they hit it off. They became a couple and pretty much left me out of the equation. Don't know if I was jealous that I'd lost two of my best friends or if I was not willing to admit at that time that I was secretely in love with this guy. Anyway, they eventually ended up getting married and I'm the godfather to their son. When I came out of the goddamn closet I felt the need to come clean on my "crush." And they both said they already knew about both things: my gayness and my crush. They said they that they both loved me and that they had been waiting for me to make the next move and tell them the truth.

I was 20 when that happened and since then I've stayed FAR away from straight guys, cofused guys, bi-guys.

sheesh...excuse the typos. I need to preview my posts before I post them.

TheResistor said:

Of course. The only nice thing about it being a woman, is that many of my straight female friends will tell me anything and everything about their man.

I walked up to a guy at a straight bar one night and gave him my friends number and told him "she thinks you're cute, but was too shy to give this to you". He walked over and started talking to her, next thing you know, theyre dating.

He kinda suspected I was gay, and really would never say hi or anything when I was around them, he would more or less clam up and act all butch.

I almost spit my drink out one night a few months later when she started telling me how he liked to use her toys on himself...

Well, I know it can sometimes work the opposite way. When I was married, my wife's best friend was a gay guy, and he was really jealous of my wife spending time with me. In fact, he did a few things to try and encourage her to split up with me.

When we finally did split up, he seemed to really regret it, and then started encouraging her to get back with me. Of course, by then it was too late, and ultimately he wasn't the reason we decided to divorce at all. I don't hold anything against him at all, and in fact I always felt a bit sorry for him that he was so insecure. He was a nice guy, and I never minded him hanging out with my wife.

I am jealous of straight women and the fact that fashion is their slave. Women can get away with so much more than men. Sometimes you really do need a set of tits to wear the right shirt

I get jelous of lesbians. They can make love to woman yet they have self control!

I've never tried to seduce a straight guy, let alone compete against a girl to get one. That just seems like setting myself up for a doomed outcome.

I do check out straight guys and sometimes wish they were "family," though.

oh yes yes yes. I am jealous because it is a gay man's dream 2 have a gay man who is straight in every way. Fortunatley my partner is like that.

Anyway, there arent alot of Straight looking men in the gay community. Oh, and they have a pussy. I wish i had one sometime. Sometimes i dont.

Fortuneatley also, is that i am little and petite like a woman, so i can convert a straight man easily. They wont feel threatened by me.

yes of course.

straight woman have 90 percent of all the men for themselves, the gay men only 10.

if you are attracted to a guy you always have to question yourself if he is gay or not.

do straight people ever wonder about that before flirting ?

being in love with someone who is not even interested in your sex can be very difficult.

but then again some of the gay men look way better than straight ones.

Do ya think the Effeminate ones are? If so they really shouldn't. I actually would share with my Gay Friends and Love going out Dancing . The Best Disco Songs are Always at the Gay clubs specially was at the Limelight ya heard Disco classics and got Free or Cheap Drinks for hrs. I think my Straight Boyfriends Hated me taking them to Gay clubs and shopping at Gay stores to buy them clothes. Why I hadda have them wearing white tee-shirts and Red Tight Jeans with Black Boots. Why I was So into Tight Jeans.I had The so called FAG TAGS so like the HOMO Extras were in my Posession. I do Feel my INFATUATION with GAY MEN actually PUSHED some GUYS I KNOW to EXPERIMENT into BI or GAY FANTASIEs. It was my Fascination that led them as I was Extremely Turned On with ALTERNATIVe LIFESTYLES.I hungered for the Wild.....
[This message was edited Tue Mar 2 14:22:00 2004 by Zelaira]

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

I think you just described my favorite part of being a girl.

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

And if it is the right kind of shirt it makes them look 10 times bigger then they really are.....trust me I know

TheResistor said:

Staying away from straight guys and confused guys makes sense, but why would you avoid bi-guys?

dawntreader said:

oops I'm in the wrong thread.

PEJ said:

don't make me go down on you.

No competition, unless the guy is bisexual, which is pretty hard to find out. What's point of admiring someone you know doesn't share your sexual orientation? Despite this, I have been envious of some women and vice versa. I envy the fact they get attention from a much larger pool of men, while they envy the fact I get much more attention from my limited selection of available guys. Straight women are more bound by social conventions about sexuality than I am.

That's about it.

This is a very interesting question, I wonder this all of the time!

dawntreader said:

I don't. If I like somebody, I don't make any secret of it - I'll tell them.