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Printablebkw said: Unless it is spelt out who is paying i.e "I would like to take you out to dinner" then it should be split 50/50 between male/female, male/male, female/female.
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2the9s said: As a matter of ettiquette, I think the man should pay on the first date, as the default solution, in order to avoid awkwardness, which after all is what a first date is all about...avoiding awkwardness...that and getting to the second date.
I don't think a man paying should be necessarily seen as sexist, as long as there is an understanding that it is about social conventions and not "paying for sex." After that (or soon after that) financial issues should naturally find their own place in the relationship. If the couple is mature enough to properly weigh the importance of "who pays" then good on them. Whatever is comfortable for both parties, both financially and emotionally, should be the goal.  that's really good advice. i'll be sure to remember that. writing it down.... | |
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nesseone said: bkw said: Unless it is spelt out who is paying i.e "I would like to take you out to dinner" then it should be split 50/50 between male/female, male/male, female/female.
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I'm not into dates..... I ;like raisins...
but when I take a female out to eat some place I will pay no questions asked! To Sir, with Love | |
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PEJ said: I'm not into dates..... I ;like raisins...
but when I take a female out to eat some place I will pay no questions asked! nice answer | |
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I don't mind paying on a date if I've asked a woman out. Romance with other little things that costs money are also part of the deal, don't be a cheap bastid when it comes to making a woman feel good
But if a woman pushes the check at me (it's happened) I'll excuse myself to go to the restroom and go home | |
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I always offer to pay my share on a first date and don't mind at all. But if he offers to pay, I let him and I like it. Now if we've been on a date or two and he's always paid, I'll insist on paying on the the second or third date. By the 4th or 5th, it doesn't really matter anymore and should no longer be an issue. If it is, I would stop dating that person. Money's such a silly thing to get bent out of whack over. |
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Zelaira said: Evil is the Kind of Man who Turns me off. He is Too Brash and Agressive and Dirty. Not My Type. I Like Gentlemen. I have paid in the past when I didn't want Anything More than an ESCORT for an OCCASSION.
You obviously got the wrong impression about me and misunderstood my point. Don't matter though. You obviously have issues with the opposite sex and you're not my type either. You'd probably scream rape if a guy tried to kiss you goodnight. "You need people like me so you can point your fuckin' fingers and say, "That's the bad guy." "
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If he offers to pay, I let him and the next time I pay etc. it usually falls into a comfortable routine. | |
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EvilWhiteMale said: Zelaira said: Evil is the Kind of Man who Turns me off. He is Too Brash and Agressive and Dirty. Not My Type. I Like Gentlemen. I have paid in the past when I didn't want Anything More than an ESCORT for an OCCASSION.
You obviously got the wrong impression about me and misunderstood my point. Don't matter though. You obviously have issues with the opposite sex and you're not my type either. You'd probably scream rape if a guy tried to kiss you goodnight. listen man stop talking much shit women dont scream rape for a start thats fucked up for u to even think of such a thing let alone post it you dumb ass and i think she got the right impression of u, u obviously dont realise how u make your self look with all your big talking you have a right to voice your opinions, but there have been to many women in this world today that suffer in silence and i find it disgusting that you generalise so easily, on something you obviously know nothing about red hot like a chilli pepper | |
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I usually like to treat whoever I am going out with.. BUT it is nice to be treated once and a while.. Whether it is dating for a short time, or a long time, everyone loves to be spoiled every now and then. The day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom - Anais Nin
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blackcherry said: listen man stop talking much shit women dont scream rape for a start thats fucked up for u to even think of such a thing let alone post it you dumb ass and i think she got the right impression of u, u obviously dont realise how u make your self look with all your big talking you have a right to voice your opinions, but there have been to many women in this world today that suffer in silence and i find it disgusting that you generalise so easily, on something you obviously know nothing about Thanks, that was funny.  "You need people like me so you can point your fuckin' fingers and say, "That's the bad guy." "
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Zelaira said: Get this he says let's go watch some Tv right. So I get to his house and he Rips my shirt open and just Comes on my Breasts like that. No Explanation. I was like in Shock.
Dayum! I'd be in shock too if it all happened that quickly!  | |
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Vibrator said: Zelaira said: Get this he says let's go watch some Tv right. So I get to his house and he Rips my shirt open and just Comes on my Breasts like that. No Explanation. I was like in Shock.
Dayum! I'd be in shock too if it all happened that quickly! The guy probably got the wrong idea when she put on a porno for them to watch while lying on her bed. "You need people like me so you can point your fuckin' fingers and say, "That's the bad guy." "
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althom said: Zelaira said: I'm not Drinking. I don't need to drink to speak my mind!.
Ok! 
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2the9s said: As a matter of ettiquette, I think the man should pay on the first date, as the default solution, in order to avoid awkwardness, which after all is what a first date is all about...avoiding awkwardness...that and getting to the second date.
I don't think a man paying should be necessarily seen as sexist, as long as there is an understanding that it is about social conventions and not "paying for sex." After that (or soon after that) financial issues should naturally find their own place in the relationship. If the couple is mature enough to properly weigh the importance of "who pays" then good on them. Whatever is comfortable for both parties, both financially and emotionally, should be the goal.
Where's the jokes? 
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AnotherLoverToo said: Ok, Dating Etiquette Opinion:
Who pays on the date, and why? Does it go by who makes the most $$, or by whether one is male/female, or who asks whom out (grammar?)? jesus christ woman i dont even need to read the responces to know that you must be on the late bloomer side... i never pay for a gat dam thing..... WAKE THE FUCK up girlfriend... WHY THE HELL WOULD YOU EVEN GO OUT WITH A MAN THAT THE BILL IS IN QUESTION... | |
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DORA said: AnotherLoverToo said: Ok, Dating Etiquette Opinion:
Who pays on the date, and why? Does it go by who makes the most $$, or by whether one is male/female, or who asks whom out (grammar?)? jesus christ woman i dont even need to read the responces to know that you must be on the late bloomer side... i never pay for a gat dam thing..... WAKE THE FUCK up girlfriend... WHY THE HELL WOULD YOU EVEN GO OUT WITH A MAN THAT THE BILL IS IN QUESTION... so you're a throwback to the 1950's, correct? | |
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I make more than my g/f, and I pay for almost everything that is date-or-activity-related . . .
Basically that means dinners, movies, whatever. I usually drive too, so I end up paying more for gas than she does in a week. I don't mind, because money is made for spending and I enjoy everything we do together. Luckily, I am dating someone who works at a restaurant, so she brings gourmet food home almost every day, and when we're out, we eat at one of her restaurants (it's a family of restaurants) and get 70-100% off. That alone makes it worth me spending some cash to get a $100 meal for free. |
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JasmineFire said: DORA said: jesus christ woman i dont even need to read the responces to know that you must be on the late bloomer side... i never pay for a gat dam thing..... WAKE THE FUCK up girlfriend... WHY THE HELL WOULD YOU EVEN GO OUT WITH A MAN THAT THE BILL IS IN QUESTION... so you're a throwback to the 1950's, correct? mmmm classic beauty.. learn it, live it | |
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Se7en said: I make more than my g/f, and I pay for almost everything that is date-or-activity-related . . .
Basically that means dinners, movies, whatever. I usually drive too, so I end up paying more for gas than she does in a week. I don't mind, because money is made for spending and I enjoy everything we do together. Luckily, I am dating someone who works at a restaurant, so she brings gourmet food home almost every day, and when we're out, we eat at one of her restaurants (it's a family of restaurants) and get 70-100% off. That alone makes it worth me spending some cash to get a $100 meal for free. not bad. | |
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DORA said: AnotherLoverToo said: Ok, Dating Etiquette Opinion:
Who pays on the date, and why? Does it go by who makes the most $$, or by whether one is male/female, or who asks whom out (grammar?)? jesus christ woman i dont even need to read the responces to know that you must be on the late bloomer side... i never pay for a gat dam thing..... WAKE THE FUCK up girlfriend... WHY THE HELL WOULD YOU EVEN GO OUT WITH A MAN THAT THE BILL IS IN QUESTION... Dora, some of us post because we're curious about what others think, not because we ourselves have doubts or are late bloomers. I know where I stand on the topic and I'm wide awake.  | |
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DORA said: JasmineFire said: so you're a throwback to the 1950's, correct? mmmm classic beauty.. learn it, live it amen, sister!!! u & me, we got mad chemisty | |
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AnotherLoverToo said: Ok, Dating Etiquette Opinion:
Who pays on the date, and why? Does it go by who makes the most $$, or by whether one is male/female, or who asks whom out (grammar?)? i think the person to pay is whoever's idea it was to go out in the 1st place. For example if the guy says, "lets go out" then he should pay and vice versa.  I really like spicy food. I mostly put Jalapenos on a lot of my food.
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I would only pay if it was scraped off the lid of a dustbin because I am a poor student  JaneyPoos used to be it... then they changed what it was. Now what I am isn't it and what is it is strange and frightening to me...
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MEN SUCK!!!!!  | |
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NotoriousJ said: MEN SUCK!!!!!
Especially U! Oh wait you are a women | |
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MostBeautifulGrlNTheWorld said: NotoriousJ said: MEN SUCK!!!!!
Especially U! Oh wait you are a women Hi there!  | |
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NotoriousJ said: MostBeautifulGrlNTheWorld said: Especially U! Oh wait you are a women Hi there! Don't flirt with me you have a boyfriend.....this looks like I am talking to myself when I am not really | |
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MostBeautifulGrlNTheWorld said: NotoriousJ said: Hi there! Don't flirt with me you have a boyfriend.....this looks like I am talking to myself when I am not really  | |
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