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What is your Value? What were you taught was important about yourself (by parents, society, friends, church, etc.)?
Were you taught that your appearance was most important in how people viewed you? Your intelligence and thought processes? Being "nice" at all costs and getting along? Perhaps being tough and aggressive? What messages were you given? Did the messages suit you well, or did you need to break free of them, are you still struggling today? | |
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my mother always stressed intelligence and, even more importantly, independence. obviously, her insistence on that was the result of being married to my controlling, abusive father for 25 years.
funny thing is, i might be a bit too independent for her taste now, and she would sometimes like for me to be less vocal about political and other issues...  what are the odds? | |
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AnotherLoverToo said: What were you taught was important about yourself (by parents, society, friends, church, etc.)?
Were you taught that your appearance was most important in how people viewed you? Your intelligence and thought processes? Being "nice" at all costs and getting along? Perhaps being tough and aggressive? What messages were you given? Did the messages suit you well, or did you need to break free of them, are you still struggling today? I'm nobody...Nobody's perfect...I'm perfect! 
My parents always stressed physical (and spiritual) cleanliness first and foremost...believing, I know, that I would learn most everything else I needed to know through my own experiences. Of course, they did guide me, and do still a bit, in what is "right" and/or "wrong" from their own experiences, but they stressed to me that..."Cleanliness is next to Godliness"..."If you lay down with dogs, you'll get up with fleas"...etc... And, then...a bit of everything else you mentioned as well, Carrie...  And, to always mind my manners. 
Ha! I remember this one visit to an aunt's house when I was a pre-teen...and there were these two girls at a nearby park---which I skipped over to alone---that were there, and I asked them if I could play with them. It was fine at first, then they started teasing me that I talked funny...(I'm from Chicago, we were in Kentucky)...suddenly, one or the other would pull one of my pony-tails when they walked or ran by. Just doing and saying mean things. I had never encountered anything like that before and ran home to my aunt's house crying. Well, my dad (  ) told me that I was going back to that park to play or to fight...or I would have to "fight" him...lol...so, I went back to the park...lol. One of those girls and I did end up fighting, but we're friends to this day.
There's so much... I suppose, also...many of the lessons and behaviors I was taught are still with me---the really "good" ones, as least ...some of the "bad" ones come and go depending on the the situation I find myself in...like...I believe the actual quote is, "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you."...However, sometimes it goes as...Do unto others as they would do unto you. 
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My Grandfather taught me how important it is for a woman to be self reliant, independant, free, and aware.
Strange coming from a man of his generation... But his words were wise, and because of him..... I am the wiser.. ^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^
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Granddaddy used to handle snakes in church, Granny drank strychnine. I guess you could say I had a leg up, genetically speaking. Here I am, you lucky people!
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I was pretty much raised to always follow the rules.
It wasn't until my college days that I learned to always respect the rules, but to also know when they need to be broken. Ὅσον ζῇς φαίνου
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A little bit of everything I suppose, though, each one comes from different places.
Appearance from society, intelligence from my grandfather, getting along from watching what went on between my parents and never wanting to rock the boat with anyone (I struggle to get out of this one daily... I tend to smooth everything over as much as I can in my day-to-day life with people that I know so that everyone is happy, which puts stress on me...lol) and being aggresive... well, I need to work on that one as well. | |
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From my fathers side, creativity, we (their children) are all creative in our own ways. intelligence, and a sense of humour. My mother, not to draw attention to my appearance. My parents are opposites, my mother is very quiet, calm and my dad is very dominating and boistrous. | |
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IAmTheTouch said: my mother always stressed intelligence and, even more importantly, independence. obviously, her insistence on that was the result of being married to my controlling, abusive father for 25 years.
funny thing is, i might be a bit too independent for her taste now, and she would sometimes like for me to be less vocal about political and other issues... what are the odds?  She created a monster!
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SHANNA said: AnotherLoverToo said: What were you taught was important about yourself (by parents, society, friends, church, etc.)?
Were you taught that your appearance was most important in how people viewed you? Your intelligence and thought processes? Being "nice" at all costs and getting along? Perhaps being tough and aggressive? What messages were you given? Did the messages suit you well, or did you need to break free of them, are you still struggling today? I'm nobody...Nobody's perfect...I'm perfect!
My parents always stressed physical (and spiritual) cleanliness first and foremost...believing, I know, that I would learn most everything else I needed to know through my own experiences. Of course, they did guide me, and do still a bit, in what is "right" and/or "wrong" from their own experiences, but they stressed to me that..."Cleanliness is next to Godliness"..."If you lay down with dogs, you'll get up with fleas"...etc... And, then...a bit of everything else you mentioned as well, Carrie... And, to always mind my manners.
Ha! I remember this one visit to an aunt's house when I was a pre-teen...and there were these two girls at a nearby park---which I skipped over to alone---that were there, and I asked them if I could play with them. It was fine at first, then they started teasing me that I talked funny...(I'm from Chicago, we were in Kentucky)...suddenly, one or the other would pull one of my pony-tails when they walked or ran by. Just doing and saying mean things. I had never encountered anything like that before and ran home to my aunt's house crying. Well, my dad ( ) told me that I was going back to that park to play or to fight...or I would have to "fight" him...lol...so, I went back to the park...lol. One of those girls and I did end up fighting, but we're friends to this day.
There's so much... I suppose, also...many of the lessons and behaviors I was taught are still with me---the really "good" ones, as least ...some of the "bad" ones come and go depending on the the situation I find myself in...like...I believe the actual quote is, "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you."...However, sometimes it goes as...Do unto others as they would do unto you.
 I'm imagining ShannaBelle (my new name for you, ok?) kicking some Lil Kentucky Girl Butt! | |
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sag10 said: My Grandfather taught me how important it is for a woman to be self reliant, independant, free, and aware.
Strange coming from a man of his generation... But his words were wise, and because of him..... I am the wiser.. I know he'd be so proud, seeing how you've turned out. | |
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PusherMan said: Granddaddy used to handle snakes in church, Granny drank strychnine. I guess you could say I had a leg up, genetically speaking.
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Lammastide said: I was pretty much raised to always follow the rules.
It wasn't until my college days that I learned to always respect the rules, but to also know when they need to be broken. Learning to choose our battles wisely is usually borne of interesting experiences, haven't you found? 
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AzureStarr said: A little bit of everything I suppose, though, each one comes from different places.
Appearance from society, intelligence from my grandfather, getting along from watching what went on between my parents and never wanting to rock the boat with anyone (I struggle to get out of this one daily... I tend to smooth everything over as much as I can in my day-to-day life with people that I know so that everyone is happy, which puts stress on me...lol) and being aggresive... well, I need to work on that one as well. It gets even more complicated when you realize you're setting examples for your own kids, too, doesn't it! It's freaky to realize that you're one of those people in their lives they'll point to later, and say they learned how to 'be' from. Huge responsibility! | |
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AnotherLoverToo said: SHANNA said: I'm nobody...Nobody's perfect...I'm perfect!
My parents always stressed physical (and spiritual) cleanliness first and foremost...believing, I know, that I would learn most everything else I needed to know through my own experiences. Of course, they did guide me, and do still a bit, in what is "right" and/or "wrong" from their own experiences, but they stressed to me that..."Cleanliness is next to Godliness"..."If you lay down with dogs, you'll get up with fleas"...etc... And, then...a bit of everything else you mentioned as well, Carrie... And, to always mind my manners.
Ha! I remember this one visit to an aunt's house when I was a pre-teen...and there were these two girls at a nearby park---which I skipped over to alone---that were there, and I asked them if I could play with them. It was fine at first, then they started teasing me that I talked funny...(I'm from Chicago, we were in Kentucky)...suddenly, one or the other would pull one of my pony-tails when they walked or ran by. Just doing and saying mean things. I had never encountered anything like that before and ran home to my aunt's house crying. Well, my dad ( ) told me that I was going back to that park to play or to fight...or I would have to "fight" him...lol...so, I went back to the park...lol. One of those girls and I did end up fighting, but we're friends to this day.
There's so much... I suppose, also...many of the lessons and behaviors I was taught are still with me---the really "good" ones, as least ...some of the "bad" ones come and go depending on the the situation I find myself in...like...I believe the actual quote is, "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you."...However, sometimes it goes as...Do unto others as they would do unto you.
I'm imagining ShannaBelle (my new name for you, ok?) kicking some Lil Kentucky Girl Butt!I use to call her HoneyBell ^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^
Being happy doesn't mean that everything is perfect, it means you've decided to look beyond the imperfections... unknown | |
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AnotherLoverToo said: SHANNA said: I'm nobody...Nobody's perfect...I'm perfect!
My parents always stressed physical (and spiritual) cleanliness first and foremost...believing, I know, that I would learn most everything else I needed to know through my own experiences. Of course, they did guide me, and do still a bit, in what is "right" and/or "wrong" from their own experiences, but they stressed to me that..."Cleanliness is next to Godliness"..."If you lay down with dogs, you'll get up with fleas"...etc... And, then...a bit of everything else you mentioned as well, Carrie... And, to always mind my manners.
Ha! I remember this one visit to an aunt's house when I was a pre-teen...and there were these two girls at a nearby park---which I skipped over to alone---that were there, and I asked them if I could play with them. It was fine at first, then they started teasing me that I talked funny...(I'm from Chicago, we were in Kentucky)...suddenly, one or the other would pull one of my pony-tails when they walked or ran by. Just doing and saying mean things. I had never encountered anything like that before and ran home to my aunt's house crying. Well, my dad ( ) told me that I was going back to that park to play or to fight...or I would have to "fight" him...lol...so, I went back to the park...lol. One of those girls and I did end up fighting, but we're friends to this day.
There's so much... I suppose, also...many of the lessons and behaviors I was taught are still with me---the really "good" ones, as least ...some of the "bad" ones come and go depending on the the situation I find myself in...like...I believe the actual quote is, "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you."...However, sometimes it goes as...Do unto others as they would do unto you.
I'm imagining ShannaBelle (my new name for you, ok?) kicking some Lil Kentucky Girl Butt!I use to call her HoneyBell ^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^
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Lleena said: From my fathers side, creativity, we (their children) are all creative in our own ways. intelligence, and a sense of humour. My mother, not to draw attention to my appearance. My parents are opposites, my mother is very quiet, calm and my dad is very dominating and boistrous.
And are you a combination of both of them, personality-wise, or do you take after one more than the other? | |
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AnotherLoverToo said: Lleena said: From my fathers side, creativity, we (their children) are all creative in our own ways. intelligence, and a sense of humour. My mother, not to draw attention to my appearance. My parents are opposites, my mother is very quiet, calm and my dad is very dominating and boistrous.
And are you a combination of both of them, personality-wise, or do you take after one more than the other? I think both, I can be shy like my mum and also trying (and failing!) to be funny like my dad. (who cracks me up!) It depends on the situation. My dad takes after my grandfather who was also very sociable and outgoing.
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AnotherLoverToo said: ....ShannaBelle (my new name for you, ok?).....
That is perfect!
My mother taught us to be honest and nice to others. My mother would not entertain for one minute any of her children being mean to other kids. She never had to correct me in this area cuz I was always the kid other kids were mean to but she did make my siblings appologize to other kids they were mean to for no good reason other than to be mean. At the same time she didn't say to turn the other cheek if the other person is clearly wrong. She taught me to stand up for what is right. 2010: Healing the Wounds of the Past.... http://prince.org/msg/8/325740 | |
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AnotherLoverToo said: IAmTheTouch said: my mother always stressed intelligence and, even more importantly, independence. obviously, her insistence on that was the result of being married to my controlling, abusive father for 25 years.
funny thing is, i might be a bit too independent for her taste now, and she would sometimes like for me to be less vocal about political and other issues... what are the odds? She created a monster!
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Beautiful... and how to appreciate that in which nature presents to us daily... all of it, no matter how difficult or how fortunate is may be.
My uncle to this day still talks about the food he may be eating (thoroughly enjoying) or a moment in his life, a visual view he sees... he stares out into the distance as he recalls personal moments... and he ends all in which he is sharing...simply with the word... Beautiful. The beginning for me began there. | |
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What my father taught me..
getting along intelligence appearance aggression What my mother taught me... appearance appearance appearance appearance In spite of the cost of living, it's still popular. |
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tickets for the musicology tour 100 bucks a night with the most beautiful girl in the world - priceless some things money can't buy for the others theirs ghetto express.....now give me ma bling bling  | |
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my mother and my father taught me to be intelligent and independent. my father taught me that a woman is meant to be beautiful and my mom taught me that it's okay to look like a slob sometimes. i perfer being beautiful | |
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jessyMD32781 said: my mother and my father taught me to be intelligent and independent. my father taught me that a woman is meant to be beautiful and my mom taught me that it's okay to look like a slob sometimes. i perfer being beautiful
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bkw said: jessyMD32781 said: my mother and my father taught me to be intelligent and independent. my father taught me that a woman is meant to be beautiful and my mom taught me that it's okay to look like a slob sometimes. i perfer being beautiful
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jessyMD32781 said: bkw said:  When I read about the evils of drinking, I gave up reading. | |
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